Pour communiquer avec assurance tout en évitant la confrontation, la conscience de soi est votre alliée. Voici comment trouver cet équilibre :
- Réfléchissez à vos déclencheurs et à vos réponses. Comprendre ce qui vous déclenche peut vous aider à garder le contrôle pendant les interactions.
- Pratiquez les énoncés du « je ». Exprimer directement vos sentiments et vos besoins réduit les malentendus.
- Fixez des limites avec respect. Définissez clairement ce que vous êtes prêt à accepter et communiquez-le calmement.
Comment utilisez-vous la conscience de soi pour renforcer votre affirmation de soi ?
You can be assertive and kind. I hate confrontation, but it doesn't mean I'm avoiding critical situations that must be addressed. Sometimes, it is smart to walk away, sometimes it is smarter to discuss the issue. Understanding past patterns of how you felt and dealt with potential confrontations is the first step to improving your self-awareness. Knowing your values is the second step because this awareness helps you assess whether to address an issue or walk away. Don't through away your energy on useless confrontations, leverage it on useful discussions to grow and nurture your goals and values.
Sometimes.... the most assertive move isn't about speaking up louder, it's about knowing when to stay quiet. Not every hill is worth dying on, and sometimes, a strategic silence saves you (and everyone else) a whole lot of unnecessary drama. That being said, these 4 words help me in any confrontation. "Part of me feels.." Saying "part of me feels" acknowledges that you're sharing your subjective experience, not an absolute truth. This is how you avoid triggering people. It's disarming communication. Starting with this phrase prompts you to check in with your emotions and identify what you're truly feeling which keeps you grounded and leads to more productive conversations too. I'll make a post about this sometime this week.
In order to be assertive you need to know who you are and what your goal in that situation should be. If you see yourself as a strong, responsible, and smart leader who has valuable insight, then you can walk into that situation with a confidence. The second part of assertiveness is probably an underutilized tool: know what you want out of that situation. What is your goal? To say something clearly? To provide a new strategy? To give an idea you've been thinking about? To ask for a raise? Whatever it is, make sure you know what your goal is before you are in that situation. Know yourself. Know your goal. These two things have helped me grow in my own assertiveness at work and beyond.