O que você faz se sua confiança em falar em público for atingida?

Many times after a public speaking engagement that did not exactly go according to plan, I try to reflect on how it went and what I think I could do better. I also pay attention to how others speak and learn a few things from them. The key point here is to acknowledge were you may have gone wrong.

I am currently experiencing this, living it... with all confidence I assure you that the only thing to do is to keep speaking.. do not stop. Life happens and we are not machines ... therefore we all at some point hit lows when it comes to our confidence when speaking. Look at videos , accomplishments, things you have overcome and where you stand today... realize that you have accomplished so much... give yourself credit and have some empathy for your own self. It may be a bad moment but never a bad life!

I can recall a time that I was speaking with a team, and I felt that it went really well, and we got the speaker feedback, and it was a miss. It landed flat and my first response honestly was to blame the audience. It took taking a long hard look at how I could have done better that allowed me to take a look at what was making me feel so angry about the response. While I should have taken the feedback in a constructive manner to get better, I allowed it shift to what it wasn't. I allowed it to shift to a judgement about who I am rather than what I presented. Once I was able to acknowledge the falsehood of that, I was able to acknowledge how it really made me feel so I could get back to the improvement process.

We do hear about empathizing with others, but it is equally important to empathize with yourself too. Acknowledge your feelings, while not being too hard on yourself. Reflect on the times when you did well & your past successes so that it helps remind yourself of your true potential. Build familiarity with your speech by practicing regularly & continuously. This also helps in reducing anxiety. Keep your focus on the message instead of yourself and engage with your audiences. Using relaxation techniques like deep breathing before speaking help tremendously. Seek feedback from your trusted peers so that it helps you build on your weak points. Expose yourself to more speaking opportunities, that will help you rebuild your confidence.

When something doesn’t go as planned during a public speaking event, go back and take time to realize what went wrong or what needed to be practiced more in order to achieve a better delivery. I always find that practicing before hand truly makes a difference. It not only makes you more confident in what you are speaking about, but it will also give you practice in how you deliver as well. Whether it’s recording yourself or practicing in the mirror, those are great ways to give yourself feedback so that you can make sure you’re the most prepared you can be.