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A Goodreads Choice Awards Finalist for Best Fiction and Best Debut • BookBrowse's Best Book of the Year • A Marie Claire Best Women's Fiction of the Year • A Real Simple Best Book of the Year • A PopSugar Best Book of the Year • A New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice • A Washington Post 10 Books to Read in March • A Newsweek Best Book of the Summer • A USA Today Best Book of the Week • A Washington Book Review Difficult-To-Put-Down Novel • A Refinery 29 Best Books of the Month • A Buzzfeed News 4 Books We Couldn't Put Down Last Month • A New Arab Best Books by Arab Authors • An Electric Lit 20 Best Debuts of the First Half of 2019 • A The Millions Most Anticipated Books of the Year
“Garnering justified comparisons to Khaled Hosseini’s A Thousand Splendid Suns... Etaf Rum’s debut novel is a must-read about women mustering up the bravery to follow their inner voice.” —Refinery 29
The New York Times bestseller and Read with Jenna TODAY SHOW Book Club pick telling the story of three generations of Palestinian-American women struggling to express their individual desires within the confines of their Arab culture in the wake of shocking intimate violence in their community.
"Where I come from, we’ve learned to silence ourselves. We’ve been taught that silence will save us. Where I come from, we keep these stories to ourselves. To tell them to the outside world is unheard of—dangerous, the ultimate shame.”
Palestine, 1990. Seventeen-year-old Isra prefers reading books to entertaining the suitors her father has chosen for her. Over the course of a week, the naïve and dreamy girl finds herself quickly betrothed and married, and is soon living in Brooklyn. There Isra struggles to adapt to the expectations of her oppressive mother-in-law Fareeda and strange new husband Adam, a pressure that intensifies as she begins to have children—four daughters instead of the sons Fareeda tells Isra she must bear.
Brooklyn, 2008. Eighteen-year-old Deya, Isra’s oldest daughter, must meet with potential husbands at her grandmother Fareeda’s insistence, though her only desire is to go to college. Deya can’t help but wonder if her options would have been different had her parents survived the car crash that killed them when Deya was only eight. But her grandmother is firm on the matter: the only way to secure a worthy future for Deya is through marriage to the right man.
But fate has a will of its own, and soon Deya will find herself on an unexpected path that leads her to shocking truths about her family—knowledge that will force her to question everything she thought she knew about her parents, the past, and her own future.
- Print length352 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherHarper
- Publication dateMarch 5, 2019
- Dimensions6 x 1.13 x 9 inches
- ISBN-100062699768
- ISBN-13978-0062699763
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A story about three generations of Palestinian-American women who struggle to express their individual desires within the confines of their Arab culture.Amazon editors say...
In Rum's penetrating debut, Isra tries to forge her own path—a path later explored by her daughter Deya.
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She knew that the suffering of women started in the suffering of men, that the bondages of one became the bondages of the other.2,328 Kindle readers highlighted thisPopular highlight
“Too often being happy means being passive or playing it safe. There’s no skill required in happiness, no strength of character, nothing extraordinary. Its discontent that drives creation the most—passion, desire, defiance. Revolutions don’t come from a place of happiness. If anything, I think it’s sadness, or discontent at least, that’s at the root of everything beautiful.”2,291 Kindle readers highlighted thisPopular highlight
A daughter was only a temporary guest, quietly awaiting another man to scoop her away, along with all her financial burden.2,006 Kindle readers highlighted thisPopular highlight
That to understand someone, you had to listen to the words they didn’t say, had to watch them closely.1,895 Kindle readers highlighted thisPopular highlight
“It’s not strange at all,” Sarah said. “It’s the loneliest people who love books the most.”1,680 Kindle readers highlighted this
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“A dauntless exploration of the pathology of silence, an attempt to unsnarl the dark knot of history, culture, fear and trauma that can render conservative Arab-American women so visibly invisible. . . . The triumph of Rum’s novel is that she refuses to measure her women against anything but their own hearts and histories. . . . Both a love letter to storytelling and a careful object lesson in its power.” — Beejay Silcox, New York Times Book Review
“What is a woman’s life worth? This question echoes across countries and generations through Etaf Rum’s intense debut novel…. The narrative draws links between economic desperation and discord in the home [and] also touches on the legacy of violence passed down from the Israeli occupation of Palestinian territories…. A Woman Is No Man complicates and deepens the Arab American story — a tale as rich and varied as America itself.” — Diana Abu-Jaber, Washington Post
“I couldn’t put it down. I was obsessed with figuring out the mystery of this family.” — Jenna Bush Hager, Today Show Book Club Pick
“A Woman Is No Man by Etaf Rum is a stunning debut novel that hooked me from page one. With the utterly compelling characters, Rum accomplishes the high-wire act of telling a story that feels both contemporary and timeless, intimate and epic. This is a novel you devour in a few precious sittings, that you press into the hands of friends and family, that lingers in your heart and mind long after the last page.” — Tara Conklin, author of The Last Romantics
“Garnering justified comparisons to Khaled Hosseini’s A Thousand Splendid Suns... Etaf Rum’s debut novel is a must-read about women mustering up the bravery to follow their inner voice.” — Refinery 29
“Rum writes of the complexities inside the lives of Arab American women. She probes the dark and the daunting as she tells the story of a Brooklyn teenager navigating the wishes of a family who want her to marry.” — Juliana Rose Pignataro, Newsweek
“A blistering exploration of three generations of Palestinian-American women, unfolding in lyrical but demanding prose.” — David Canfield, Entertainment Weekly
“Sometimes heroism is loud and dramatic. Other times, it is daring to listen to that quiet voice within and have the courage to follow it. In this story, we see inside the lives of three generations of Palestinian women living in America, struggling and suffering to hear that voice. Etaf Rum has done a great service by sharing these voices with us.” — Shilpi Somaya Gowda, author of Secret Daughter and The Golden Son
“Three generations of women from a conservative Arab family living in America are at the core of Etaf Rum’s riveting debut novel. From the very first line, Rum brings you into the hearts and minds of these characters, and you’ll stay connected to them well beyond finishing the last page.” — Ciera Velarde, Buzzfeed News
“Explores themes of cultural expectations and taboos, family tragedy and the immigrants’ story, all from the perspective of an author whose life experience bears many similarities. [Also] how women who are limited by societal norms can make their own unique contributions to society and be ‘equal if not greater than men.’” — Nick Meyer, Arab American News
“A story of how a woman can break taboos and break free from patriarchal misogynistic families. This mesmerizing novel will take all your attention from the very beginning.” — Washington Book Review
“Etaf Rum’s A Woman Is No Man is a shattering, revelatory tale of immigration, womanhood, and the cyclical impact of violence and oppression. In her unflinching story of both loss and hope, strewn with enthralling, vibrant characters, Rum has accomplished the extraordinary: a tale that bridges the domestic and the global, memory and future, the old world and the new. A spectacular debut.” — Hala Alyan, author of Salt Houses
“A Woman Is No Man, bold as a drumbeat, banishes the repressive silence that haunts Isra and her spirited daughter, Deya. This tender tale of women soldiering through a barbed world is a clarion call and a work of literary bravery.” — Nadia Hashimi, author of The Pearl that Broke Its Shell and A House Without Windows
“[A] brave debut [that] underscore[s] the economic and political challenges that contribute to the victimization of women…. Throughout this heart breaking yet inspiring novel, reading, the forbidden pleasure, offers an alternative sense of community and a safe place for dreams. In that tradition, ‘A Woman Is No Man’ contributes its own gratifying and immensely healing salve.” — Al Jidad
“A richly detailed and emotionally charged debut.” — Kirkus
“First-time novelist Rum’s setting… is rare: a Brooklyn Palestinian enclave in which reputation matters above all else…. The daughter of Brooklyn Palestinian immigrants, Rum was often told ‘a woman is no man.’ Overcoming her fear of community reprisal, she alchemizes that limiting warning into a celebration of ‘the strength and power of our women.’” — Booklist
“A gripping portrait of three generations of Palestinian women whose narratives are heartfelt and unsettling. Rum writes with tender sensibility, creating characters with layers of complexity and depth. She gives these women what they most desire and deserve: a voice.” — Frances de Pontes Peebles, author of The Air You Breathe and The Seamstress
“Through well-developed characters and a wonderfully paced narrative, [Rum] exposes the impact that the embedded patriarchy of some cultures can have on women while showing more broadly how years of shame, secrets, and betrayal can burden families across generations no matter what the cultural or religious affiliation. Highly recommended.” — Library Journal (starred review)
“Etaf Rum's acclaimed debut novel looks at Palestinian-American women's experiences within their tight-knit, patriarchal Brooklyn community. Though their neighborhood isn't far from the hip Williamsburg neighborhood of Girls, it's worlds away…. When writing her book, Etaf Rum drew from personal experiences…. Like her protagonist, she had to undergo a trek to find—and listen to—her own voice.” — O, the Oprah Magazine, online
From the Back Cover
“Where I come from, we keep these stories to ourselves. To tell them to the outside world is unheard of, dangerous, the ultimate shame.”
Palestine, 1990. Seventeen-year-old Isra prefers reading books to entertaining the suitors her father has chosen for her. Her desires are irrelevant, however—over the course of a week, the naive and dreamy girl finds herself betrothed, then married, and soon living in Brooklyn. There Isra struggles to adapt to the expectations of her oppressive mother-in-law, Fareeda, and her strange new husband, Adam: a pressure that intensifies as she begins to have children—four daughters instead of the sons Isra is expected to bear.
Brooklyn, 2008. At her grandmother’s insistence, eighteen-year-old Deya must meet with potential husbands and prepare herself for marriage, though her only desire is to go to college. Her grandmother is firm on the matter, however: the only way to secure a worthy future for Deya is through marriage to the right man. But fate has a will of its own, and soon Deya will find herself on an unexpected path that leads her to shocking truths that will force her to question everything she thought she knew about her family, the past, and her own future.
Set in an America at once foreign to many and staggeringly close at hand, A Woman Is No Man is a story of culture and honor, secrets and betrayals, love and violence. It is an intimate glimpse into a controlling and closed cultural world, and a universal tale about family and the ways silence and shame can destroy those we have sworn to protect.
About the Author
Etaf Rum was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York, by Palestinian immigrants. Her first novel, A Woman Is No Man, was a New York Times bestseller and a Today Show Read With Jenna book club pick.
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- Publisher : Harper; First Edition (March 5, 2019)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 352 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0062699768
- ISBN-13 : 978-0062699763
- Item Weight : 1.1 pounds
- Dimensions : 6 x 1.13 x 9 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #148,993 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #748 in Cultural Heritage Fiction
- #3,400 in Family Life Fiction (Books)
- #4,315 in Women's Domestic Life Fiction
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The daughter of Palestinian immigrants, Etaf Rum was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York. She has a Masters of Arts in American and British Literature as well as undergraduate degrees in Philosophy and English Composition and taught undergraduate courses in North Carolina, where she lives with her two children. Etaf also runs the Instagram account @booksandbeans and is also a Book of the Month Club Ambassador, showcasing
her favorite selections each month. A Woman Is No Man is her first novel.
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Customers find the content very enlightening, complex, and brave. They describe the writing quality as amazing, incredible, and wonderful. They also describe the plot as good, fascinating, and beautifully woven together. Opinions are mixed on the character development, with some finding them well developed and others one dimensional. Readers also have mixed feelings about the emotional content, with others finding it heartbreaking at almost every turn.
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Customers find the writing quality amazing, important to understand, and well developed. They also say the story is beautiful and heartbreaking. Customers also say that the writing is very effective and has an air of biographical substance.
"...is filled with heartbreak yet at the same time it's so important to understand and read. The explained culture of A Woman is No Man was fascinating...." Read more
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Customers find the book enlightening, poignant, and mesmerizing. They also say it's an important, honest book that shares some of the realities of Arab life. Readers also mention that the book makes them sad, happy, and understand.
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Customers find the writing style real, raw, and wonderful.
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"...All in all, this was a heavy read, but it is much needed and beautifully told. It will definitely stick with me for some time if not forever...." Read more
"An extremely well-written book. It was hard to put the book down because I wanted to know what was next. Probably finished in a day and a half...." Read more
"...Reading this was difficult. My son was assigned this book in his senior year English class...." Read more
Customers find the plot interesting, riveting, and true to life. They also say the book is not predictable, and beautifully woven together.
"...This book was not predictable. It featured a variety of characters who were all very well developed...." Read more
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"...Domestic violence is all to often ignored. It is not graphic, but I found myself having to take a palate cleanser (aka switch to another book)..." Read more
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This culture continues here in the United States. This book brings to light these aspects of a woman’s life in their world.
Helps the reader understand this life. Good book.
Now, I am going to make a confession here. Sometimes (often) the best books I read are the hardest to write reviews for. When I write reviews I do try to review in a space away from the book so that I try not to let my emotions take over…usually taking a few days away from finishing the book is enough to disengage enough but with this book…I think the scars this left me will always be with me, just below the surface.
This book was brutal and although I’d love to buy like 1000 copies of this and just hand them out to random women I see, I will be the first to say that this book is brutal. It does not shy away from the mistreatment that women in this culture are often subject to. Arranged marriages are the norm. Domestic violence is all to often ignored. It is not graphic, but I found myself having to take a palate cleanser (aka switch to another book) fairly often because it upset and angered me.
It is also claustaphobic. A lot of this book takes place in an apartment in Brooklyn, and in so many ways, the apartment served as a prison, first for Isla and then for Isla’s oldest daughter, Deya. So when and if you choose to read this, make sure you do have something fun to do during breaks and try to get some sunshine. And the ending especially is brutal so definitely plan for that.
I know based on this review it sounds like this is the most depressing misery porn you can read, but I promise you that it doesn’t seem that way when you are reading it. There is hope in this book. There’s characters that you will love and want to fight for and the writing is flawless.
Reading this was difficult. My son was assigned this book in his senior year English class. The teacher mentioned “there are male characters” but failed to say that none of them - NONE - were good people, apart from a single nameless character at a pharmacy who appears on one page. While I did not enjoy this book at all, I can appreciate it, and I am glad the author has written it.
I hope more people read it and recognize that religions and cultures that treat women as lesser beings than men deserve to be in the dustbin of history. That’s Islam, Orthodox Judaism, most of Christianity, and most of the other religions mankind has made up. Their time has passed. It’s time for humanity to move on from these primitive and barbaric mindsets, and leave them as relics of our primitive past. Atheistic humanism is humanity’s best hope for the future.
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He llorado mucho tratando de entender que aun hay mujeres viviendo injustamente esto en estos e momentos.
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