AdultFriendFinder Review

If you were to imagine all the world’s dating sites on a spectrum from those most focused on relationships to those most focused on sex, AdultFriendFinder might just be at the very end of the sex spectrum. 

You might not have heard about it before, but the site’s been around for a long time, and it knows what it’s about. AFF makes no pretense towards pandering to people seeking long-term romantic commitment — it’s all about fulfilling sexual fantasies first (and everything else, well, not at all). 

However, as pleasant as that might sound, when it comes to online dating, concept is one thing, and execution is another entirely. Many sites and apps have great ideas but can’t back them up, whether it's lacking functionality or struggling to maintain a strong user base. So what’s the deal with AdultFriendFinder? Let's take a deep dive. 

Key Features

• AdultFriendFinder Points
• Video live streaming & nude models
• Kink search
• Community discussion forums
• Blogging options
• Video, photo and album uploads
• Adult chat rooms
• Messages & IMs
• VIP Members

Adult Friend Finder Review

On most sites and apps, profiles without any photos at all are pretty much persona non grata. Not only will they often not get replies from people they message, they’ll almost certainly not get messaged themselves, and hell, they might even be prevented from using the site generally until they provide a real photo. 

On AdultFriendFinder, however, it’s another story entirely. 

Within a day, “we” (meaning the couples account used for the sake of this review) had received three separate messages from couples nearby, without the profile featuring almost anything but age. 

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If a dating site or app is only as strong as its user base, AFF users are anything but shy. The site itself may look like it was designed in the early 2000s and barely updated since then, but you probably won’t care about that if and when you start getting in touch with someone who shares your personal kinks. 

Signing Up

The AdultFriendFinder signup process is relatively smooth and not over-long. After providing your birthdate, zipcode, gender (you can register as a man, a woman, a couple, or a transsexual/transgender/transvestite person) and what you’re looking for (same options), you enter your email address and select a password. 

Then you’re given the opportunity to enter birthdate for the other member of the couple (if that’s what you signed up as), as well as a brief bio/description, and the option to describe who or what it is that you’re looking for. After clicking on a confirmation email, you’re through! 

What it costs: Like many sites, you can sign up for free, and unlike many sites, you can actually use a decent number of site features without paying — and even earn “points” toward a membership using a free account. 

If you’re willing to take the hit on your pocketbook, membership costs $39.95 for one month, $26.95 for three months, and $19.95 for a full year. These fees can be paid by Visa, Mastercard, Discover Card, Diners Club, and other credit card options, although they don’t accept PayPal or American Express. 

Sign up for AdultFriendFinder here 

How Does AdultFriendFinder Work - Searching for Matches

Unlike many sites and apps that will only show you one member at a time, AFF prioritizes a more-is-more approach. 

This can feel visually cluttered, but it also enhances one of the site’s best features: a sense of genuine community, and the understanding that sex can be hot without needing to occur in person. 

From its homepage, the site will show you members near you, new matches that it thinks you’ll be into, and people who are online, as well as VIPs (members with high ranking on the site). 

How to Start a Conversation on AdultFriendFinder

In order to access the messaging functionality, you'll need to upgrade to a paid membership or stockpile enough AFF points to qualify for one. As for how many points will get you anywhere, 4,400 of 'em will unlock a free month of gold membership.

Apart from that, figuring out how to message on AdultFriendFinder isn’t particularly complicated. 

There are both messages and IM options, depending on whether you’re talking to someone who’s online at the same time as you or you prefer sending less immediate, conversation-style messages. You can also send icebreakers in addition to coming up with your own opening messages. 

Safety & Security

One noteworthy though informal safety feature of the site is that many users opt not to show their faces in their pictures. This is a basic best practice when it comes to the overlap between sex and digital safety — keeping your face out of your profile pics will make it hard for anyone to positively identify you. 

However, as with other dating sites, many people do opt to show their faces, and even if they didn’t, that alone is far from enough to ensure protection. AFF itself uses an encryption certificate to protect your data, and vows not to collect your data. Additionally, the site shows you tips on how to detect and avoid catfishing in the messages section. 

You can read more about their privacy and security measures here.