Quora user Louis Marley recently asked users for their opinion after arguing with her husband about an outfit she chose to wear to a dinner with her husband's boss. Here is a selfie of what she wore and a near-identical photo of a similar dress from Amazon:
Let's get into the story:
Marley starts, "We met at his boss’s house and, as soon as he saw me, he said I was going to embarrass him. That was super hurtful. He even suggested we leave, but at that moment, his boss peeked out the window and invited us in..."
"When I saw his boss’s wife, I immediately understood. [She] was covered in diamonds, wearing a designer dress, and smelling of some high-end perfume. She might as well have had a brand name tattooed on her forehead. Plus, she was like half my age," she continued.
"My husband spent the entire evening sitting there quietly, not cracking jokes like he usually does. He was truly embarrassed by me. Meanwhile, his boss kept joking around, and his wife kept putting me on the spot, asking things like how often I visited this or that boutique. I barely held back from asking her how often she’d opened a book in her life."
"In the end, I couldn’t take it anymore and left, leaving my husband there alone. Now I’m wondering if I overreacted. What do you think of my outfit? Was my husband right? What would you advise?"
Thousands of people from Quora raced to the comment section to share their feelings. Here is what is being said:
"Your husband must have known about his boss’ lifestyle, including a much younger wife. Where are your diamonds? Sounds like he has never bought you any…and maybe he should be grateful you aren’t out spending all of his money on designer dresses you might wear once. He completely let you down on this as he could have told you what to expect, and — then, even so, you look great! And it has nothing to do with the outfit. It has to do with your husband NOT respecting you as his wife. He should be ashamed of himself, but if he acted the way you say, I doubt he is. It really is your choice what you want to do or say now, but whatever you do, please put respect and love for yourself as your top priority."
—Fieldsnearandfar, Quora
"Your husband should never make you feel embarrassed. I would have left also. You look fine, by the way."
—Rolanda Paquin, Quora
"You look absolutely perfect for a dinner with your husband’s boss. The idea that he was embarrassed by you is his problem, not yours. You were dressed appropriately for the occasion and looked wonderful. If he expected you to dress a specific way, it was up to him to make you aware of that and provide you with the means to do so. Sorry, your husband is such a dope."
—Lois Boyce Flack, Quora
"How you look isn't the point. Your husband should never hurt your feelings and make you feel as if you aren't loved and appreciated."
—Julia Brown, Quora
"You need to find a new husband. Your current husband warranty has expired and has become useless."
—John Law, Quora
The post started gaining so much traction that it is now generating big conversations on Facebook and Instagram threads:
It seems clear that most people are responding in defense of Marley:
And, on all the platforms, we haven't seen one person side with the husband:
It seems pretty apparent that people just want to support the woman and offer their perspective:
So, we want to open the floor to our BuzzFeed readers. What do you think of this situation, and how should she handle the conversation about it with her husband? Let us know in the comments!
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