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    We Spoke To A Sex Coach For Her Tips On Spicing Up Your Solo Valentine's Day

    Goodbye sadness, hello pleasure.

    Steph Hazelton
    by Steph Hazelton

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    Hands up if you've made yourself feel bad by scrolling through endless pics of ~happy couples~ on Valentine's Day?

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    For my fellow single folk, the heavy weight of loneliness and that familiar flood of emotions is no stranger at this time of year.

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    And it doesn't help when we're bombarded with flowers, hearts and teddy bears around every damn corner. 

    Which is why we sat down with NORMAL's certified sex coach, Georgia Grace, to learn how to make the most of Valentine's Day ON YOUR OWN. Get it gurls (or guys, or theys — solo pleasure is for all!).

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    Here's what she had to say:

    1. First thing's first, don’t let being alone make you feel alone.

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    NORMAL’s Valentine’s Day survey found that the majority of people had negative attitudes towards V-Day — so you're certainly not alone in thinking this day sucks.

    Georgia says it helps to question and identify where the feelings are coming from. “Was it something you saw, felt, a conversation you had? How is your body responding? What do you think you need to feel safe and grounded right now?”

    Then share this experience with someone else! Anyone! Go somewhere that excites you, try a new hobby online or IRL, order your favourite takeaway and have a lounge-room dance party.

    2. Pour your heart out. Put pen to paper or slap every key aggressively.

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    Writing things out should be a superpower because it instantly transforms your emotional state and how you physically feel. 

    Georgia recommends journaling to get it “out of your head and onto the paper.
    There is so much evidence to prove this is an effective way to process emotions, reflect and integrate how you’re feeling.”

    3. You saw this one coming...Take yourself on a date.

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    It's underrated, it's liberating and it's a damn good feeling when you don't have to compromise and can do whatever you want. 

    “It may sound awkward, but I can’t recommend these enough!” Georgia says. “If dinner feels a little too risqué to start with, try a cafe with a book, treating yourself to a massage or facial, a picnic, watching the sunset with a thermos of tea, a weekend away! Think about what feels like a treat for you — you don’t have to reserve great dates for others.”

    4. Don't be afraid to play (and save 30% off toys while doing it)!

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    Use this time to learn more about yourself. The Modern Guide to Sex is a great place to start — it’s a free video masterclass that covers how to have better orgasms, tips and tricks for the bedroom, and asserting boundaries and consent. 

    “A play session is all about pleasure, doing what feels good,” Georgia says. “This could be your regular techniques, toys or positions you know and love.” If you’re new to sex toys or a seasoned pro, NORMAL has 30% off all their devices until Valentine’s Day. There's even a toy quiz to find your perfect match. 

    Get the Quinn vibrator from NORMAL on sale now. 

    5. And finally, remove all expectations and do absolutely nothing.

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    It's all about finding comfort in your own company and nurturing the most important relationship in your life — the one with yourself. 

    “One thing that I’ve found to be useful for my clients is to set aside time each day — like five minutes — to do absolutely nothing, with no stimulation, no phones, no books, no activity,” Georgia says. 

    “You may choose to do this in a park, by the beach, outdoors or somewhere else that’s grounding for you.”

    Eager to make Valentine's Day even more pleasurable? Explore NORMAL's range of sex toys and enjoy 30% off until V-Day.

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