What are the steps to using the reframing technique in personal coaching?

1 Identify the frame

The first step is to identify the frame that the client is using to interpret their reality. A frame is a mental filter that shapes how we perceive and respond to situations. To uncover this frame, ask the client questions such as “What are you telling yourself about this situation?”, “How do you feel about it?”, and “What are the consequences of this frame?” For instance, a client may have a frame that says "I'm not good enough" or "This is too hard". Uncovering and understanding the frame can help the client better understand their situation and make more informed decisions.

2 Challenge the frame

The second step is to challenge the frame by questioning its validity, accuracy, and usefulness. You can help the client understand that their frame is not the only way to look at the situation, and that it may be based on assumptions, distortions, or generalizations. To challenge the frame, you can ask the client questions such as: is this frame true? How do you know that? What evidence do you have for and against it? And how does this frame serve you or hold you back? By doing so, you can help them to consider alternate perspectives and find a better way to approach the situation.

3 Explore alternatives

The third step is to explore alternative frames that are more positive, empowering, and realistic. You can help the client brainstorm different ways to view the situation, challenge, or belief, and evaluate their pros and cons. To do so, you can ask the client questions such as: "How else could you look at this situation?", "What would someone else say or do in your position?", "What would be a more helpful or constructive frame?", and "How would you feel and act if you adopted this frame?". By exploring these alternatives, the client can gain a better understanding of how to approach the situation and make more informed decisions.

4 Choose a new frame

The fourth step is to choose a new frame that the client wants to adopt and that aligns with their goals and values. You can assist the client in deciding which alternative frame is the most suitable for them, and how they can incorporate it into their thought process and behavior. To select a new frame, you can inquire the client questions such as: which alternative frame do they identify with the most? How does this frame support their desired outcome? What are the advantages of taking on this frame? How can they remind themselves of this frame when encountering a similar situation?

5 Practice the new frame

The fifth step in using reframing effectively and confidently is to practice the new frame by applying it to various scenarios, situations, and challenges. You can provide feedback, encouragement, and support to help the client reinforce their new frame. Additionally, you can ask questions to identify and overcome any obstacles or resistance that may arise. These questions could include: How can this frame be used in daily life? What actions can be taken to act on this frame? How will progress and success be measured? What difficulties are anticipated? And how will they be coped with? Reframing is a technique that can help both you and your clients transform your mindset and achieve desired goals.

6 Here’s what else to consider

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