What do you do if your self-confidence wavers after a setback?

There are a couple of ways I help my mind and body acknowledge and move through those uncomfortable feelings. 1. Don’t measure your sense of value based on set backs. It may feel like failure but generally it is either resetting direction or revealing important information. 2. In order to get out of your head, do two things: a) Write down how you feel, why you feel this way and in retrospect, analyze how or if you had any control over the outcome. This reveals valuable information. b) To get out of your head, get into your body. Help move the “negative” energy out of your body by raising your heart rate and getting your blood pumping. This converts negative energy into endorphins which help you think more constructively.

Career graph always has its ups and downs and we all experience a major setback, and the only right thing to do at the time is accepting the way you feel, your emotions.. Try and understand the reason of the failure and then evaluate your own strengths to come back stronger. Getting the right support from the right set of people helps with coming back stronger and with much positive mindset. And last but not the least, do not b hard on yourself as this is a part and parcel of anyones life.

One thing I have found helpful whenever my self-confidence wavers is to truly acknowledge how I feel, and beyond acknowledging this, I ask myself "why" using the 5 Why's strategy. Drilling down to the root cause will help you see areas you can improve upon which in turn helps revive your self esteem.

I totally agree with this. In Brian Tracy's book-No excuses, there is a major highlight on self discipline. And in combating our thoughts, there is the need to apply discipline. Acknowledging what went wrong, taking responsibility for what could have been done differently and compelling your self to do better subsequently is a good place to start when reframing your thought. You are able to give yourself something positive to think upon rather that the negative situation. So, focus your mind on the lessons and what you can start doing now.

One of my favorite quote is “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change - Wayne Dyer” As humans, we are conditioned to look at ourselves and the world through a lens that was influenced by our upbringing, our personal experiences (negative or positive), cultural and societal standards. Understanding that matters, because not everything we think and feel is actually true. How we translate setbacks, into something constructive is key to move forward differently. Once you followed the steps I listed under the acknowledgment section of this question, you now have the capability and capacity to convert valuable information into constructive next steps, instead of accepting defeat and internalizing it as failure

I totally believe that support systems are crucial in our life's journey. When you are clouded by emotions and feeling low, your support system is able to see beyond your pain into new possibilities. There is also the place of your support systems reaffirming you of your competence, strengths and abilities. This is a self confidence booster.

One way our confidence grows is when we recognize that we have learned or mastered skills. While positive and encouraging feedback from others will also build our confidence, I recommend starting with yourself first. Committing to learning and building your skills in areas where you feel less confident is a great place to start. Remember that no one is good at everything right away. Give yourself grace as you continue to learn, grow, and build your confidence.

Remind yourself of who you are! Our brain is wired to focus on the negative because it helped our ancestors survive by being alert to threats. This bias still affects us today, as negative experiences tend to have a stronger impact on us than positive ones, which further reinforces this bias. To combat this bias, you must proactively keep track of your successes. This gives your brain a visual representation, comparing your setbacks to your successes. How far have you come? How did you get here? What have you overcome? Steve Jobs said “you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking back”. Don’t just look back at your “setbacks”, also look back to see where you started and how far you’ve come.

En mi experiencia, siempre aconsejo seguir enviando CVs mientras trabajas en mejorar tu perfil, como inscribirte a un curso de inglés conversacional o tomar un taller de programación. No te centres solo en el feedback; lanza tu CV para las oportunidades que encuentres interesantes, incluso si sientes que te falta algo para ser el candidato ideal. Los reclutadores saben que el candidato perfecto no existe. Aprovecha cada oportunidad, muchas empresas ofrecen la posibilidad de desarrollarte internamente. Valora lo que ya tienes, que es mucho, y enfócate en dónde y cómo puedes brillar ahora.