From the course: Persecutors, Victims, and Rescuers: How to Deal with Psychological Games Players
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Gold stamp collector
From the course: Persecutors, Victims, and Rescuers: How to Deal with Psychological Games Players
Gold stamp collector
- Game number nine is related a little bit to the last game. We've just been looking at brown stamp collecting. This is gold stamp collecting, so similar to the brown stamp collectors who collect bad things, the gold stamp collectors collect good things. So they say, I did all this for you and I did this and I did this, please, can I have a pay rise? So they start off as helpful, being a rescuer, but then they want to reward. Moves from rescuer to persecute, so well, aren't you going to give me a pay rise for that? And it can easily turn to victim as well of, well, I did all this for you and I got nothing back in return, so I dunno why I bothered. So the gold stamp could become a brown stamp collector if they don't get their reward and it's quite insidious because, should you reward them? Because what it does is it stops bosses giving thanks and praise 'cause imagine if every time you thank somebody or praised them…
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Only trying to help8m 24s
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Yes...but3m 41s
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Blemish2m 38s
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Let's you and them fight4m 30s
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Harried2m 1s
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Kick me3m 59s
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Wooden leg2m 26s
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Brown stamp collector5m 13s
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Gold stamp collector1m 19s
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Only joking5m 7s
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Schlemiel2m 49s
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What you made me do1m 23s
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Now I've got you!2m 30s
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Grudges3m 43s
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Sulking3m 28s
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Ain't it awful2m 19s
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If it weren't for you2m 33s
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Maybe = yes2m 58s
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Mine's better2m 4s
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Patronizing1m 35s
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A few examples2m 46s
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