From the course: Persecutors, Victims, and Rescuers: How to Deal with Psychological Games Players

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If it weren't for you

If it weren't for you

From the course: Persecutors, Victims, and Rescuers: How to Deal with Psychological Games Players

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If it weren't for you

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- The next game is called If It Weren't For You. So this is where somebody says, "I have to stay in and care for my mum," or whatever. "Otherwise, I'd be out dancing every night. But it's okay. You're worth it, dear." So you can see that what they're doing is they're a rescuer, but there's a little bit of persecute going on, and it ends up as the victim because I'd love to be out dancing, but I can't. I have to look after my mum. Or "We would come and see you, but it's the dog, you see. She doesn't travel well, and we can't leave her." So the dog is an excuse to avoid the exposure of social commitments or whatever. So usually people playing this game are using it as a convenient excuse to be a victim. So because they're a rescuer, unfortunately, the result is they're a victim. And then there's a hint of persecute 'cause they're persecuting whoever they're rescuing, whether it's their mum or their dog. They're persecuting…

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