Becky Vivian’s Post

With the return to school for lots of children, that return can feel like a good thing or it can cause concerns for some children. For some children, they are going to a new school or the next grade , and maybe the change is causing some anxiety. Some children may worry about making new friends or meeting their new teachers. Maybe their favorite teacher is no longer in their day to day interactions. To help support children when the school year starts, have some check-in conversations with them. The conversations should be more than, “How was school?” Try saying things like, “Tell me a few things that you liked about the day.” Or “Tell me a few things you didn’t like about the day.” It will be more effective if you are completely available for that conversation until they are done talking. You’ll be amazed what your child will share with you about their day at school. #school #backtoschool #student #parents #child #feelings #checkin #helpfultips #conversation #available #parenthood_moments #cjbehaviorcoaching

IN THE SPIRIT OF CELEBRATING MOTHERS HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT MOTHERS (Parents)OF CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS ? When you have a neurotypical child, you feel reasonably assured that class participation and decent study habits will result in good grades. These kids have close friends. They get invited to participate in social things like dances and weekend gatherings. They make the teams, auditions, organizations and clubs. But when you have a child with certain differences, this is often not the case. Learning may take longer, both academically and socially. Despite their tremendous efforts, results are often a fraction of their peers and social acceptance is fleeting, setting them up for painful comparisons and bitter frustration. Instead of a fun and fulfilling experience, school can become a breeding ground for depression and anxiety, and assignments a battle ground at home. It is exhausting for parent and child For all the children who struggle every day to succeed in a world that does not recognize their gifts and talents, and for those who are walking beside them, please let this be a gentle reminder to be kind and accepting of ALL people. Recognize that the "playing field" is not always a level surface. Children who learn differently are not weird. They are merely gifted in ways that our society does not value enough. Yet they want what everyone else wants: To be accepted!! Remember kindness goes a long way!!! In a world where you can be anything…be kind. ♥️ #livedrealities #massiveunpaidcarework #theirwellbeingmatters

The Power of Letting Kids Decide: A Lesson from My Childhood 💡👶 As adults, we often expect kids to behave or perform according to our own wishes—sometimes due to unfulfilled dreams, and other times because of societal pressure. While I’m not a parent yet, watching parents and kids around me makes me feel incredibly grateful for the way my own parents raised me. 🙏 My parents never differentiated between having a girl or a boy, never forced me into specific courses, and never questioned my choices. Instead, they offered full support in everything I did. Looking back, I realize how much this freedom shaped who I am today. 📅 One Memory Stands Out I remember one morning, like any other child, I told my parents I didn’t want to go to school. Their response? No questions. No pressure. They simply said, "Okay." Their philosophy was simple and profound: “Never force.” If a child refuses to do something, there’s likely a deeper reason. Rather than questioning or enforcing discipline, they always chose to understand why. Maybe something was troubling me at school, or maybe I just needed a break. Whatever the reason, they trusted my feelings and respected them. 💡 This mantra, in my opinion, is one of the best. When children aren’t forced, they naturally develop the maturity to reflect, understand, and make their own decisions. 📈 When you give children the space to grow, you’re not just raising kids—you’re raising self-aware, thoughtful adults. 🌱 #ParentingWisdom #ChildDevelopment #MindfulParenting #SelfAwareness #ChildhoodMemories #EmotionalIntelligence #GratefulHeart #peekabooktanya

Reflecting on a recent school presentation, I was struck by a parent's story about their child's gifts and talents. It reminded me of the importance of acknowledging and fostering the individual genius within every young mind. Every child possesses a unique set of abilities waiting to be discovered and cultivated. These conversations serve as a great reminder of our responsibility to recognisee and support their potential. Moreover, I firmly believe that reconnecting with the activities we once enjoyed as children can provide valuable insights into our innate gifts. By rediscovering these passions, we can uncover paths to fulfillment and success in our adult lives. #ChildDevelopment #SupportingYouth #FutureLeaders

🌟 The Power of Words: Setting the Tone for a Positive School Year 🌟 As a new school week begins, many children may not be eager to return. 📚 For parents, especially those with children who have Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND), it's crucial to be mindful of the language we use. Phrases like "Make sure you behave," "Don't get into trouble," or "Be good" might seem like helpful reminders, but they can unintentionally create anxiety and fear, leading to the opposite of what we intend. Instead, let's choose words that empower 💪and uplift our children. This week, declare with confidence that your child will have an amazing school year! Affirm that they will find favor with their teachers and that you believe in them wholeheartedly. 💪 Remember, words have power—and that power lies in how we choose to use them. Let's speak life and encouragement into our children's educational journeys. 🌱 #BackToSchool #PositiveParenting #SENDSupport #EmpowerYourKids #ParentingTips #ThePowerOfWords #ChildDevelopment #WisdomTreeCommunities

💞Can we normalize children being deserving of unconditional love? 👨👩👧👦Many well-intended parents make the mistake of acknowledging their children's successes only on the condition of work being done. 🤔Of course, we want to encourage and praise children for doing school work, but at the end of the day, can children be also praised and acknowledged for who they are? ✨I have the privilege to work with children, teens, and young adults. It is a recurring theme among clients that they crave to be deserving of praise and acknowledgement for who they are, not necessarily tied to what they do. 📄The idea that children can only be praised once they have done a certain amount of work means we lose out on appreciating them for their natural abilities; we limit their self-worth and self-confidence to an assignment, or a task. 💞Unconditional love doesn't mean simply allowing our kids to do whatever, whenever. It means finding opportunities every day to appreciate them for who they are while guiding them. 👶We can still take the opportunity to praise our kids for doing work, and teaching them the value of work ethic. It teaches them to do their best, consistently, because they feel encouraged and supported. #workethic #encouragement #parenting #gentleparenting #thecounselorisin #lovemyjob #childtherapist #adolescenttherapist #children #parentingkids #parentingtips #therapist #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #middleschool #highschool #elementaryschool #school #schoolkids #kidsinschool #kidsmentalhealth #youcandoit #schoolcounselor #schoolcounseling #youmatter #love #light #loveandlight #healing #emotionalhealing

It’s easy to forget, but we’re not just raising kids. We’re shaping the future adults they’ll become. One thing that I love about adaptive programs is that they remind us that we don’t need to coddle our kids to keep them safe. Adaptive programs are known to equip kids with the right support, while also setting the expectation that they’ll rise to the challenge. With the right tools, kids are capable of achieving more than we often give them credit for. And, they’ll come out stronger when they have the opportunity to try. Instead of coddling, choose empowerment. These tools will be carried into adulthood and set them up to live their best lives. #Parenthood #AdaptivePrograms #Empowerment #Mindset

This week we come to you with a game changer. Something that hits home for many as we celebrate the 4th of July, Independence Day, here in America. If you worry you're not doing enough of the right things for your kids, pay attention. In fact, this one tweak of your parenting behavior will yield kids who are skilled...optimistic...good at problem-solving...social...believe in themselves...and more! What is this tweak? Teaching kids to be #independent. Sounds simple, right? For many...it's the exact opposite. Giving kids #independence conjures up feelings of injuries and screwing up and fear and not ever being quite good enough. Let's start with some basics, why teaching children #independence helps #buildbetterkids and makes for happier, less-stressed parents! Check this out...

“Hold On to Your Kids” by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., and Gabor Mate, M.D. This is a MUST READ for all parents. When parents lose their proper place as their child’s primary-attachment everyone gets hurt. As your child’s primary-attachment they look to you for guidance and approval. You help them to orient themselves in the world and form healthy relationships and boundaries. Here’s the problem: The school system is doing something radical. It is creating and promoting an environment where children are forming primary-attachments with their peers. The “Teenager Phase” we’ve all heard about is a myth. It is the consequence of children attaching to their peers more strongly than their parents. And because children are immature, these attachments turn into very unhealthy influences where your child will do anything for the approval of their peers. Kids only stop caring about what their parents will think when they care too much about the opinions of their peers. What’s the answer? Start homeschooling. Homeschooling provides the opportunity for parents to maintain a normal and healthy influence over their developing children. It promotes rather than tears down your role as the primary-attachment. Click the link to learn more about how to start homeschooling successfully: https://lnkd.in/gnXgRYw4 You’ll access a community and a wealth of resources to help you start successfully and protect your most important relationships. Homeschool Mastery Group #Peers #PeerInfluence #NegativeInfluences #Homeschooling #PrimaryAttachment #Parenting #HomeEducation #ChildDevelopment #HoldOnToYourKids #GordonNeufeld #GaborMate #HealthyRelationships #StartHomeschooling #FamilyFirst #ParentalInfluence #EducationalFreedom #AlternativeEducation #HomeschoolSupport #EmpoweredParents #FamilyEducation #LearnAtHome #HomeschoolJourney #ConfidentParenting #AttachmentParenting #HomeschoolCommunity

As parents, you naturally want your children to embody generosity. However, the way you approach sharing can significantly impact their development. Forcing kids to share often leads to resentment rather than generosity. It's essential to understand that children under the age of five have a different perception of time. They may not grasp the concept of taking turns or sharing toys effectively. Instead of imposing sharing rules, empower your children to voluntarily choose the experience of giving to others. By putting them in control of when they give up a toy, you allow them to understand the joy of generosity on their terms. For example, if a child decides to share a toy until the next meal, they feel a sense of ownership over their decision and the emotional rewards that come with it. It's natural for parents to worry about the child who has to wait for a toy. Initially, they may require adult support to manage their emotions. However, through this process, children learn valuable lessons in patience, resilience, and emotional regulation. They discover that they can withstand challenging emotions and redirect their focus positively. Generous children develop essential qualities that benefit them throughout their lives. Whether in the workplace, relationships, or everyday interactions, the ability to give selflessly enhances their experiences and nurtures meaningful connections with others. At DiYES International School, we believe in nurturing character traits like generosity in children to prepare them for success in all aspects of life. Follow our page for more insights on parenting, education, and holistic child development. For more details about DiYES International School: 📞 Contact: +91 85476 09000 🌐 Website: https://lnkd.in/dARXa3hp #diyesinternationalschool #parentingtips #generosity #childdevelopment #education #holisticlearning