Ben McBride’s Post

Everyone deserves to belong. We’ve established belonging as our core belief and an antidote to the discord, dehumanization, and violence occurring in so many of our communities. So what exactly does belonging mean? More specifically, what does this concept of structural belonging really mean and why is it critical to creating the world we all deserve? Give us 60 seconds and we’ll tell you. The answer is not as soft as you might think.

The quote by Beau Taplin, "We're all so desperate to be understood, we forget to be understanding," reflects a profound observation about human nature. It suggests that in our quest for personal validation and the desire to be seen and acknowledged by others, we often overlook the importance of reciprocating that understanding. This can lead to a cycle where everyone feels misunderstood, exacerbating feelings of isolation or conflict. Taplin's words serve as a reminder that understanding is a two-way street. The empathy and patience we seek from others are the same qualities we should strive to express ourselves. By focusing on being understanding, we not only foster better communication but also build deeper, more meaningful relationships. This mutual understanding can be the foundation for stronger connections and a more compassionate community.

I had the privilege of participating with a diverse group of speakers in Idaho Listens, a project by Boise State University. A lesson in the importance of sharing our values with respect and civility across different walks of life and in listening. In today's interconnected world, it's crucial that we approach interactions with empathy and respect, recognizing the inherent value in every individual's beliefs and experiences. Let's continue to prioritize respectful discourse and meaningful engagement, embracing diversity as a catalyst for growth and progress and most of all, remember to listen, really listen. https://lnkd.in/gbK-taVA

A big part of the problem resulting in the struggles we face is... Division. Be mindful of participating in things that are divisive. These are usually emotional driven by fear, shame, anger, envy, thinking you are better, etc. Shift to be part of the solution. Look for ways to unite, support, encourage, and collaborate with each other to build communities that are thriving. We've gone along with the herd long enough. Let's show everyone what us possible when we work together.

Society has both demonized and celebrated being an outsider. We encourage being unique and letting our individuality shine, but being ourselves often comes with challenges. This contradiction exists because our souls see that uniqueness and differences enrich culture and social experiences, but we aren't taught to handle the emotional experience of "being different". It makes us feel uncertain of our place in the world. It’s a tricky catch-22. As someone who felt like an outsider all my life, it was not until I seized the opportunity of nonconformity that I found the freedom to express my individuality in the ways that both suited me AND felt embraced by my community. I've found ways to discover myself and find joy in being different. So can you. By embracing some of these practices 👇 , there's a new freedom to be who you are. ➡️ And if you happen to be in a leadership position, simply allowing yourself to "not belong" can open up space to lead your life and others in your own unique way. 𝗣.𝗦. Which one of these practices could you apply this week?

I’m hearing a lot of uneasiness around ‘representation’ It feels like this side of Covid 19 the ‘doers’ are no longer accepting the status quo & the idea of a ‘representative’. Change is a happening under our noses & in our communities More circles, more solidarity & accountability to community rather than system There’s many a welder trying to turn squares and triangles into circles. And much use of language with little depth of knowing and experiencing. That’s fine where the genuine desire is to shift power & resource & concerning where the motivation is institutional security and building of empire. A noble act and at the same time one that can overlook & underestimate the circles that are naturally evolving with decolonial practices at their centre. It’s interesting to watch this play out. What are you noticing?

I’m sharing this not for sympathy, infact every part me is tell me dont share maybe even feeling slightly uncomfortable to admit this but something deep inside me feels nothing but compelled to offer a perspective that might not often be considered. After over 20 years in the UK, I’ve built a life here, yet there’s still a lingering fear of not being seen as belonging. It’s disheartening to see how quickly division can arise, especially when we need unity more than ever. I understand it can be hard to fully grasp someone else’s experience if you haven’t lived it. But at our core, we all share one thing—our humanity. That should be enough to bridge any gaps, to foster empathy, and remind us that, deep down, we’re not so different after all. I’m proud to be an immigrant, and I’m proud to be British, this is my home. But I’m also aware of the fears that come with being seen as 'different.' I share this to encourage reflection. We need to do better, to create a community where everyone feels safe and valued. It’s more than just words; it’s about action. We must ensure that hate does not win. While it’s challenging to understand an experience you haven’t lived, we all share one fundamental truth—we are all human. That should be enough to bring us together, to foster understanding, and ensure we treat each other with the respect and compassion everyone deserves.

Trust and beliefs indeed play a crucial role in fostering peaceful coexistence. When people trust each other and hold shared beliefs or values, it creates a sense of community and security. This can reduce conflicts and misunderstandings, leading to more harmonious relationships and societies. Trust encourages open communication and cooperation, while shared beliefs often provide common ground for mutual respect and understanding.

What an enjoyable, inspiring and thought provoking conversation tonight. Thanks to all our Mid Life Thriving community members and our visitors for getting involved and of course Nanci Hogan, ACC FRSA for sharing her experience, stories and leading the conversation about creating our legacy. Having explored - what a legacy looks like and how they are unique to each of us. - how we all leave a legacy of some sort, it's up to us whether its an intentional one. - whether we can really decide on our legacy, or whether that is up to others to assess. - how a legacy definitely doesn't have to be about money. We all have resources - our skills, knowledge, network, time. - a legacy doesn't have to be large. - that some of the people who have left the greatest legacies, never set out to create them. And much more ... One conclusion we came to was that what we can do is be intentional about giving back in some way with commitment, clarity and focus. What do you think?

Building bridges between communities requires well thoughtful communication strategies. It involves understanding of needs, empathy, and respect through active listening, dialogues, and cultural exchange programs. Media platforms can be effectively utilized to promote messages of unity, tolerance, and understanding and positive narratives. Young people are often more open-minded and the youth of different communities can be convinced to act as agents of change. The most crucial element is supporting interfaith initiatives. Conflict resolution training, collaborative community projects, and inclusive governance can also play vital roles. Celebrating diversity through events and festivals further strengthens connections and promotes unity. Overall, effective communication strategies are essential for building a more inclusive and cohesive society anywhere in the world.