Carmen Monge-Montero’s Post

One of the hardest mindset shifts I faced after my ovarian cancer diagnosis was learning to ask for and receive help. I understood the value of giving help but felt uneasy and conflicted when it came to asking for help myself. At first, I struggled. I didn’t want to feel like a burden. But deep down, I knew I couldn’t handle this alone. So, I reached out. What happened next was life-changing. From a powerful healing circle to meals dropped off, heartfelt cards, thoughtful gifts, messages, visits, and more - so many people showed up in their own way, with love and kindness. What did I discover? The grace of receiving filled my heart and helped me to heal in ways I can’t fully put into words. If you’re hesitating to ask for help because you feel like you “shouldn’t,” my wish for you is this: try. In your own way, ask for something you need. You might just discover the transformative power and unexpected grace in receiving. #GraceInReceiving #LetTheLightIn #DoItYourWay #MaureenSpeaks #hope #healing #humanity #cancersurvivor #ovariancancer #cancerawareness #selfcare #authenticity #innerstrength #bewhoyouare #bewhereyouare #healingwithheart #betruetoyourself #safespace #kindnessmatters #authenticliving #empowerment #truth #listeningiscaring #letstalkaboutit

What would you do if someone you cared about was left unsupported during their toughest battle? Sometimes, life throws challenges our way that are beyond our understanding and control. The story of Valerie, a young woman I once knew, exemplifies this perfectly. Valerie was a physical therapist who not only helped me recover from a racing injury but also became a dear friend. Her journey took a drastic turn when she was diagnosed with triple-negative breast cancer—a type known for its aggressive nature and limited treatment options. Despite the gravity of her condition, what stood out was the lack of support from her closest ally— Her husband. He refused to cover even the basic copayments for her treatment, putting Valerie in an incredibly tough position. Stepping in to help, I covered her medical expenses anonymously and tried to mediate, to bring her husband to see the gravity of the situation. We even involved Valerie in a breast cancer symposium to connect her with leading researchers, hoping it would open new doors for her treatment. Unfortunately, Valerie passed away at the tender age of 36. Her story is a touching reminder of the unpredictability of life and the importance of compassion. We often can't control what happens to us or those around us But we can control how we respond. When someone you know faces a crisis, stepping in to help, even in small ways, can make a monumental difference. Let's remember to support and uplift each other, especially during the toughest times. It's not just about making it through ourselves; It's about helping others make it through as well. Life is unpredictable— But our actions in the face of adversity can define the legacy we leave behind. #CompassionateAction #CommunitySupport #BeTheChange 

It can be challenging to know what to say when someone shares a scary truth with us. When I was going through cancer treatment, some people would say, “Everything happens for a reason.” Instead of comforting me, it made me feel worse—like I somehow deserved what was happening. It added stress and created disconnection. Here’s what I’ve learned: Some things are better left unsaid. Instead of saying, “Everything happens for a reason,” maybe say: “I’m sorry this is happening.” Or maybe say nothing at all. Just be there. A caring presence speaks volumes and creates connection. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to supporting someone who’s struggling. When it comes to showing up for someone, there is no perfect script. Sometimes, the most meaningful support comes from our presence, not our words. I hope we can each find our own way to show up for others with authenticity, compassion, and the courage to simply listen. #ListeningIsCaring #DoItYourWay #MaureenSpeaks #hope #healing #humanity #cancersurvivor #ovariancancer #cancerawareness #selfcare #authenticity #innerstrength #bewhoyouare #bewhereyouare #healingwithheart #betruetoyourself #safespace #kindnessmatters #authenticliving #empowerment #bethereforothers

Many women in the USA are abandoned when they receive a cancer diagnosis. It's common for husbands to serve divorce papers, or emotionally pull away altogether. Family members often distance themselves or break connections. Long-time friends disappear through the void of unanswered texts and phone calls. The cancer patient isn't merely ignored, they are actually blocked from participating in life on any level. They have been written off and given a death sentence. They are shown they are not worth common courtesy, let alone support through their illness. Though painful, abandonment is the greatest gift you can receive. It is the grand awakening to the truth of who and what people really are. It's God's way of opening the exit door to false relationships. It's a time to see the flakes of the world for who and what they really are. Though the rejection has left you hurt and unsure of yourself, this is the starting point for the birth of the new you! You have arrived at the pinnacle of self-discovery! Join me as we have a heart-to-heart on healing the wounded spirit. In this video, you will learn the power of releasing your expectations of others. In doing so, you will gain the ability to fully connect with the God source. In this way, you will connect to your higher consciousness. You will become the true master of your emotions and thoughts! This will allow you to create a whole new life for yourself. Once and for all, you will be free of the judgments of others! Blessed Be & Namaste, beloved ones! #CancerDiagnosisAndAbandonment

Cancer and Identity A cancer diagnosis can profoundly impact one's sense of self, leading to significant changes in identity and self-perception. The physical and emotional challenges can affect how you view yourself and interact with others. Navigating this transformation involves understanding and accepting these changes while finding new ways to define and embrace your identity. Here are some strategies to help: 1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's normal to feel a range of emotions. Allow yourself to process these feelings. 2. Seek Support: Connect with support groups, counselors, or loved ones to share your experiences. 3. Focus on Strengths: Recognize and celebrate your resilience and strengths. 4. Engage in Meaningful Activities: Continue pursuing hobbies and interests that bring you joy and fulfillment. 5. Embrace Your New Identity: Understand that your identity may evolve and that's okay. Embrace the new aspects of yourself that emerge through this journey. Learn more and find support: [Fighting Cancer Today](https://lnkd.in/gE7uuJNc) #câncerjourney #selfidentity #emotionalsupport #résilience #fightcancertoday #communitystrength #hopeandhealing #fmilymembers #cancercare #fightingcancertoday #SupportFCT #fightingcancertogether #fightingcancer #cancersupport #supportgroup #cancerwarrior #togetheragainstcancer #cancerawareness #supportnetwork #cancerfight #cáncerawareness #cancercommunity #mentalhealthsupport

I never knew being strong for someone else could make me feel so weak. Cancer doesn't just affect the patient—it ripples through families and friend circles, leaving an emotional wake. As someone who has stood beside a loved one during their cancer journey, I want to acknowledge the silent struggle of caregivers and supporters. The rollercoaster of hope and fear is exhausting. Every scan, every blood test becomes a moment of held breath. Feeling helpless is common. We desperately want to fix things, but often all we can do is be present. Guilt creeps in—guilt for feeling overwhelmed, for wanting a break, for having normal days while they suffer. Our own needs often take a backseat. Remember: self-care isn't selfish, it's necessary. The experience changes us. We gain perspective, resilience, and a deeper appreciation for life and health. To those walking this path: Your feelings are valid. Your support matters more than you know. Reach out for help—you're not alone in this fight. Check in on the caregivers in your life. A small gesture of support can mean the world.

When someone close to you is navigating a bowel cancer diagnosis, knowing how best to support them can feel challenging. Small gestures and thoughtful actions can make a meaningful difference. Here are a few ways to be there for your loved one: 💙 Listen and be present: Sometimes, the best support is simply being there. Let them share their thoughts and feelings at their own pace, and listen without needing to offer solutions. 💙 Offer practical help: From picking up shopping to driving to appointments, practical help can ease their daily burdens. Ask what would be most helpful, or gently offer specific support. 💙 Respect their needs: Everyone experiences illness differently. Some may want to talk about it openly, while others may prefer distraction. Being mindful of their preferences shows respect for their journey. 💙 Encourage connection: Offer to join them in support groups or online communities where they can connect with others facing similar challenges. Sometimes, having someone alongside them can help with taking that first step. 💙 Stay positive, but real: Your positivity can be uplifting, but balance it with empathy. Acknowledge their challenges while sharing hope and encouragement. Supporting a loved one through their journey with bowel cancer is about showing up in ways that matter to them. Each small act of kindness reminds them they’re not facing this alone.

Episode 3: Finding Strength in Support Cancer is not just a physical battle—it’s an emotional and mental journey as well. For Adeola, the hardest days weren’t during treatment but the moments in between, when fear and doubt crept in. However, she found strength through Pearl Oncology’s Survivorship Support Program, which provided counseling, guidance, and connection with others walking a similar path. Through regular support group meetings and one-on-one counseling, Adeola realized she wasn’t alone. She found a community of warriors, each fighting their own battles, and their collective courage inspired her to keep going. 💡 Why Emotional Support Matters Cancer care extends beyond the hospital walls. That’s why at Pearl Oncology, we offer: ✅ Survivorship Clinics: Ongoing care for patients transitioning from treatment to life after cancer. ✅ Psychological Counseling: Dedicated sessions to address emotional well-being. ✅ Support Groups: Safe spaces to share experiences and build resilience. ✨ Did You Know? Studies show that patients who receive emotional and psychological support during cancer treatment have better outcomes and a higher quality of life. 💬 Let’s Connect: Who has been your rock during life’s toughest moments? Tag someone who inspires you or share a word of encouragement for those still on their journey. #CancerSupport #Survivorship #PearlOncology #StrengthInCommunity

Today is World Smile Day 😁 It’s a day all about helping put a smile on someone else’s face through an act of kindness. When someone’s facing a hard time, like a cancer diagnosis, it can be harder to find those moments of joy. It can also be more appreciated than ever when someone goes out of their way to check in, cheer you up and make a difference. An act of kindness doesn't have to be a grand gesture. It can be as simple as a quick phone call to check in, sharing a quirky story or dropping off a takeaway coffee. Today, think about what you can do to help someone else smile.