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We realize though, that there may be times when what you say and how it’s experienced by others may not always be aligned. You may even think (or say), “That wasn’t my intent!” While it may be true, “That wasn’t my intent,” limits dialogue. When we say, “That wasn’t my intent!” we’re not offering an apology nor an expression of understanding of the other person’s experience. We’re saying our intention is more important than their experience. Consider this: 🔴 Instead of stopping at “That wasn’t my intent,” own your impact and get curious. 🔴 You could say something like,“That wasn’t my intent, and I can see/hear that the impact of my statement was very different than my intent. Can you share your experience with me?”. 🔴 Then listen. Really listen. Don’t defend. 🔴 Thank them for sharing their experience. When you embrace that your words may not have had the impact you intended, and then you own it and work with it, you’ll be much more effective and more deeply connected. As always, keep us posted on what's working for you. Linda Carpenter PhD, Stephanie Smith, and Heather Stewart #impactvsintent #executivecoaching #leadershipdevelopmentcoaching #TeamSuccess

That Wasn't My Intent! -

That Wasn't My Intent! -

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