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The Hottest Sex I've Ever Had... Can you finish that sentence? Most of you probably have an idea or are able to speak about some of the best and most intense sexual experiences that you have had. However, many of you may find ourselves unfulfilled, unsatisfied, ashamed and confused with our sex lives. Whether you are single, partnered, and/or dating, many of you find that you aren't having sex, or enough sex or if you are having sex and/or orgasms, many of you still lack that element of intense desire and arousal that provides you with your hottest and best sex. Defining and understanding our Core Desires is the fundamental piece down the pathway to having our hottest and best sex possible. The feelings of what we want to feel during sex and working with the best sexual experiences we've had lead into what are known as our core desires. In my work with individuals and partnerships, I help people build self-awareness around sex and a vocabulary around sex so that they know and can articulate who they are as sexual beings. I normalize and share with them the wide variety of options and tools that are available in order for people to access their deepest desires, arousals, orgasms and hottest sexual experiences possible. Interested in working together or learning more? Message me! You are worthy of the sex life you desire! 

These 3 hacks helped me change my life: When you don’t know how to process and move through pain and uncomfortable emotions is where people take action to seek refuge and safety. Having a regulated nervous system is crucial for understanding and making clear and informed decisions. It allows you to face hardship in your life Your nervous system determines how you view reality How you interact with everything around you And determines whether you feel safe, ready, and can take actions like fighting, pushing through or falling back A regulated nervous system gives you a home base to operate from when the daily stress and challenges of life come about It also allows those around you to know whether you are a safe harbor they can call on during hard times The interesting part about the nervous system is that it cannot tell the difference between when you feel a particular emotion, like failing VS. when you think you are failing. For example; When you imagine failure, it reproduces the experience of that failure. When you think about failing in a business meeting, bombing on a date, having a conflict with your partner or kids, your body primes itself for that exact experience. So how do you strengthen, prime and regulate your nervous system? 1. You get clear on the signs of dysregulation and disruption to your nervous system( Emotional volatility, irritability, reactiveness, defensiveness, shutting down, depression, ect… 2. You have tools and practices you can use to return yourself to a healthy baseline when your system gets thrown off balance 3. You maintain daily/weekly grounding practices like working out, meditation, breath work, cold immersion, yoga, therapy, ect… Empowerment comes when you have self-awareness, acceptance and action. A regulated nervous system allows you to have all three. 

On the other side of your discomfort, pain, unhappiness and discontentment is…. ✅ Your power ✅ Your aliveness ✅ Your fulfillment ✅ Your joy ✅ Your best relationship ✅ Your presence  ✅ Your desires being met ✅ Your best sex ✅ Your ability to manage time  ✅ Your best days as a father, brother and partner ✅ Your best you… Part of my work as a coach is to believe in the version of you that you haven’t met yet. The version that wakes up feeling empowered, strong, and confident. A version that feels so connected to yourself, that you can own your desires and needs. A version that feels so supported in who you truly are, that you have the confidence and space to bring your power into your work, relationships, kids, and community. A version that allows you to feel secure enough to feel into your emotions and lead with your heart. A version that gives you the space and opportunity to be who you truly are. A version that is Free. Supported. Limitless. Capable. To hold space for this part of you, you haven’t met yet, but that I see. Are you ready to step into the best man, partner, father, you, you can be? Let's jump on a call today, send me a dm or book via the link in my bio.

How is Somatic Relationship Coaching with me different from other healing modalities you’ve tried when it comes to: ➡ Relationship/Dating Issues ➡ Conflict Management ➡ Shame, Stigma and Confidence ➡ Trauma and Attachment ➡ Bitterness and Resentment ➡ Embracing Pleasure ➡ Couples Work Just ask my clients: 💡 "I am grateful to Charlotte helping me connect with my partner in ways that I did not think would be possible. If you looking to grow and learn, she is an amazing guide!" David Z. 💡 "Charlotte is a tremendous listener and offers great insights and perspectives on what she witnesses, both from the words I share and her experience of my physical and emotional presence. Charlotte is easy to talk to you and I appreciate how I lean in and trust her with experiences, feelings, and stories that I’m usually unwilling to share. She has helped me see, accept, and celebrate parts of myself that I have been unaware of for years. I have benefitted greatly from Charlotte’s coaching and relish my sessions with her. " Michael W. 💡 Charlotte is a great asset. She is very easy to talk to and promotes an open environment for discussion. An attentive listener with keen insight, she is always willing to open her heart and demonstrate deep empathy. She has great insight into couples dynamics, is able to see each person’s perspective and is quickly able to see the heart of the matter. She exhibits great ability to assess issues in a non-partisan fashion, evaluating all the factors involved, yielding a gentle yet direct resolution. I always enjoy talking with Charlotte and highly recommend her. Jared L. 💡 Charlotte provided me with practical tools and strategies that allowed me to break through the blocks and barriers holding me back in my marriage. She helped me reconnect with myself in a way I didn't know was possible. I'm grateful I decided to work with her. Jay M. Ready to level up your relationship/sex life? Let's jump on a call...link is in my bio! #relationshipcoach #menscoaching #coupleswork #connection #intimacy

There’s a ticking clock and it’s urging you to act. The moment to step up and take full responsibility for your life isn’t some distant, nebulous future—it’s now. It’s time: ☑ To be the man, partner, father, brother you choose to be. ☑ To have your desires met in and out of the bedroom. ☑ To heal the wounds, heartbreak, stigmas and traumas that hold you back. ☑ It’s time meet the version of yourself that has everything you need to impact the world in the way you want. My job is to guide and support you through the tension of where you are now and where you want to be. That tension is uncomfortable and yet it is the best fuel for change. Ultimately, the choice is yours. On the other side of your reservations, comes your strength, authenticity, power, joy and abundance and that is what I help you achieve. If you feel ready to let go of your limitations and believe in yourself in a way you didn’t think was possible until right now—it’s time. Take the first step and reach out. I’d love to see what work we can do together. Link is in bio! #menscoach #relationshipcoaching #breakingbarriers #legacybuilding #connection

6 Ways to Get Curious, Honest, and Make Changes If Your Partner’s Emotions Are Too Chaotic, Inconvenient, or Too Much for You: 1. Reflect on Your Emotional Triggers Identify what specifically about your partner's emotions triggers discomfort in you. Is it a particular type of emotion or situation? Understanding your own reactions can help you address underlying issues and improve your emotional response. 2. Practice Active Listening Make a conscious effort to truly listen to your partner's emotions without judgment or immediate solutions. This means being present and empathetic, showing that you value their feelings and are open to understanding them. 3. Communicate Openly and Honestly Share your feelings about the situation with your partner in a respectful and honest manner. Expressing your concerns and struggles can lead to mutual understanding and collaborative problem-solving. 4. Seek to Understand, Not to Fix Focus on understanding your partner’s emotional experience rather than trying to fix it or make it go away. Sometimes, just being heard and validated can significantly alleviate emotional tension. 5. Set and Respect Boundaries Establish clear and healthy boundaries to protect your own emotional well-being while still being supportive. Communicate these boundaries openly and work together to find a balance that respects both partners' needs. 6. Engage in Personal Growth Invest in your own emotional development through self-reflection, coaching/therapy, or personal growth activities. Enhancing your emotional resilience and understanding can improve how you handle challenging emotional dynamics in your relationship. By getting curious, being honest, and making intentional changes, you can better navigate the complexities of your partner’s emotions and foster a healthier, more balanced relationship.

The nervous system plays a crucial role in healthy connections and successful relationships because it governs our emotional and social responses. Here are just a few reasons why nervous system regulation is key to these aspects of our lives: ✅ Emotional Regulation: The nervous system, particularly the autonomic nervous system (ANS), regulates our emotional responses. When our ANS is balanced, we can manage our emotions effectively. This is important in relationships because it allows us to respond to situations with empathy and understanding rather than reacting impulsively out of fear or anger. ✅ Stress Management: Nervous system regulation is vital for stress management. Chronic stress can lead to emotional instability and strained relationships. When we can regulate our nervous system's stress response, we are better equipped to handle the ups and downs of life and maintain emotional stability in our relationships. ✅ Empathy and Compassion: A well-regulated nervous system enables us to connect with others on a deeper level. It allows us to empathize with their experiences and respond with compassion. When we understand and respond to the emotions and needs of our loved ones, it fosters healthy and meaningful connections. ✅ Communication Skills: Effective communication is the foundation of successful relationships. A regulated nervous system enhances our ability to listen attentively, express ourselves clearly, and resolve conflicts constructively. ✅ Social Engagement: When this branch is active and balanced, we are more likely to seek out and maintain social connections, leading to healthier relationships. ✅ Boundaries and Self-Care: Nervous system regulation is also crucial for setting and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. It helps us recognize when we need to prioritize self-care and assertively communicate our needs. ✅ Attachment and Trust: Nervous system regulation affects our attachment style and our ability to trust and be trusted in relationships.  ✅ Emotional Resilience: Nervous system regulation contributes to emotional resilience, allowing us to bounce back from relationship challenges and setbacks. When we can regulate our emotions and stress responses, we are better equipped to navigate difficult times without causing irreparable harm to our relationships. In summary, nervous system regulation is key to healthy connections and successful relationships because it underpins our emotional well-being, our capacity for empathy and communication, and our ability to manage stress and respond effectively to the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. Developing self-awareness and techniques to regulate the nervous system can lead to more satisfying and sustainable connections with others.