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HAVE YOU EVER DATED YOURSELF? If that sounds weird, let me explain that the concept comes from Julia Cameron’s book "The Artists Way". It suggests that we should make time - once a week - to indulge our artistic self. I’ve not read past that basic concept yet, but it struck an immediate chord. Even though I felt it was likely I’d not fulfil the brief every week, I liked the idea of striving to do so. Art is my thing. In normal times, I go to galleries with selected friends (I can’t bear going to an exhibition with people who use the experience as a backdrop for their unconnected conversation), and I’ll always happily go on my own. The Artist’s Date doesn’t have to be specifically about art, rather it’s about making time for the creative in you, whatever form that takes. I have a passion for people watching and am happy as a sand boy sitting somewhere with a cappuccino and a pastry…. just watching. I take a book to read in case there really isn’t anyone about, but my primary tools are a notebook and pen. I make notes about what I observe – how people look, how they’re dressed, the sound of their voices, what they talk about, their mannerisms, anything I find interesting or noteworthy. As a writer, I love to weave the small details I’ve observed from life into my story in order to make a character feel more real. At shows and markets, I often take myself off to a quiet corner to grab shots of interesting characters. A long lens and a big camera feels too much like stalking and, as I prefer to strike a balance between discrete and open with my picture taking, a compact camera will make me less intrusive but still able to capture what I’m after. I’m not going to lie, some weeks these solo dates are simply a pot of tea, a cozy blanket, and a book – all enjoyed indoors on a rainy day, entirely without guilt about those undone chores and unticked off items on the lengthy to-do list. Would you go on a solo date? If so, what you would do (and remember there doesn’t need to be anything artistic about it at all)?

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James Talbot

Business & Strategy coach working with SME owners and founders at the scale-up and sale/exit stages of their businesses

9mo

Oh, thank you for reminding me of an evening where I did pamper myself and it really was quite emotional. I had an office in Smithfield Market so I got a very nice steak with some other treats and cooked myself a fine meal with the best crockery, napkin etc. That would have been 1999! Wow 🙂

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Lisa Newport

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9mo

Ooh I really like this idea. Like you, people watching is one of my favourite pastimes

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