I wish someone would have told me this many years ago when I was going through a period of darkness.
As a person who grew up with an outside-the-box mentality, the shift to practicing medicine forced me (I thought) to make sure other people found me acceptable, i.e. patients, peers, teachers, administrators, etc.
So I changed who I was to foster a successful career. I became someone other than myself. I dressed and spoke conservatively, with authority.
This shift in who I was led me straight into a severe case of burnout, anxiety, depression, and desperation. In a nutshell, I was a miserable wretched creature.
Why? Because I lost myself. I worked too hard to make other people like me, accept me and trust me.
This time of my life created many health challenges and a personal crisis of monumental proportions.
It took me years to get to understand it all. And when the "cure" revealed itself to me, it scared the shit out of me.
What was the cure? Be me. Be my true authentic self. Because only in authenticity will you be attracting people who are meant to be in your life.
That meant "re-finding" me. It was VERY hard work. So many compensations had crept into my life. At that point, I honestly didn't know who I was. What I did know is that who I was wasn't who I wanted to be.
One of my major lessons in life was that the things that scare you the most are the things you need to work on the most. The other major lesson was that when you do the right things, the right results ALWAYS follow. It's just that we don't know when they will come. You must remain CONSISTENT until your diligence pays off.
The happy ending to the story is that I let go of what people thought of me. I paid attention to my own needs and desires. I found myself. The whole world opened up to me. I attracted many people into my life who added so much more. I found my passions, my joys. I know what makes me tick. And most of all, I never let fear stop me from doing anything.
I have succeeded in my life, like millions of others, in spite of the fear. Not in the absence of fear.
If you find yourself in a position where you aren't happy, you feel stressed, you are catering to the needs of others and not yourself and you really don't know who you are, now is the time to reach out to those who can help you find who you are.
You don't have to have a nervous breakdown to make the changes you need to make. You don't have to answer to anyone else but you. Life is impermanent. Each day you live like this is a day lost and now you are another day closer to your eventual death.
Don't waste the opportunity life offers you. You have to seize the opportunity. Do it now! Live your life with gusto. Be you! Be authentic! Find and follow your passions! Life is sweeter than you can ever imagine.
I'm no saint. If I can do it, you can do it! You won't be sorry.
1 of the 10% of Urologists That Are Women in the US. ❤️ Life Coach. Writer. Speaker. I’m a Physician, #NotAProvider. Allergic to Superficial Conversations. Founder of Physician Coach Support.com Views Are My Own.
1yAgree !! Think big shoot for the moon and at least you can fall on the stars. The worst thing that happens is you tried and likely you became a different person in the journey with amazing lessons or people you met along the way. Dream big. Act today. There is no better time than today that to start. Thanks for the best quotes always Dr. Robert Kornfeld !!! And enjoy “big” crepes. Once again. Just as reminder 🫢🫢😜