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There ya have it folks... Let's talk broke ankles! Kid earned that win! Building a kids confidence that will last a life time. Tyreek Hill getting hit with his own move. Much respect! There are 3 areas of life I believe are highly personal – religion, politics and parenting. And while I certainly have very strong opinions, beliefs and convictions on each – it is not my place to try to influence others to believe what I believe. To each their own. However, I am always open to sharing. And that is the purpose of this… for me to share my perspective. Should you let your children win? I do NOT believe in letting my kids’ win in games or races predicated on speed, strength or skill. I repeat – I NEVER let my children beat me in games or races that involve speed, strength or skill. Now before anyone calls Children’s Protective Services, please let me elaborate… Like all parents, I love my children more than anything in the world. I would take a bullet for them. But I won’t let them beat me!! For context, my children have a great life. I am thankful that their mother and I can provide with them with love, time, attention and more their fair share of material items. So everything above and beyond those basic needs – I want them to earn. Aside from their safety, one of my biggest fears is that my children will become entitled. It is an affliction I see running rampant among today’s youth. I want my kids to earn every grade in school, every dollar in work and every victory in sport. So I don’t let them beat me. EVER. I feel doing so provides them with a false sense of self and an unfounded confidence. But let me expand… I believe sports are a vital vehicle for teaching life lessons and values. They are the ideal platform to teach winning gracefully and losing graciously. When I win, I do so with class to model the behavior I want them to see. And when they lose, I hold them to a high standard of sportsmanship. In fairness, when they do beat me – and it has happened occasionally in games like Connect Four, Jenga and Tic-Tac-Toe and HORSE – I am lenient in allowing them to celebrate and enjoy the moment. Last week my daughter beat me an epic game of Jenga. She won fair and square. And I’ve never seen her happier. Why? Because it was real. Because it was earned. I also use my stance as means to stress the importance of the process, not the outcome. When my kids and I are playing a game, it is their effort, focus and grit that are most important to me – not the final score. I do my best de-emphasize the outcome and score. When I win, which is 99% of the time, I ‘act like I’ve been there.’ To reinforce the importance of the process, there are only 4 questions I ask my kids after every game, sports camp or activity: Did you have fun? Did you do your best? Did you listen to your coach? Did you make someone else better? If they answer yes to those 4 questions – I could not care less what the score was!

Kids should be allowed to win now and again, it makes the game of life winnable, who wants to play an unwinnable game? They are smart enough to understand that you are bigger and stronger than them. Don't let your ego get in the way of letting your children feel like they can go out and win, let them know what it feels like. I used to be let win now and again by my uncles and ended up achieving highly in professional sports. Life isn't all doom and gloom.

Gretta Jones, ETA CPP

US Air Force Veteran l Payments Industry Professional

5mo

I started all of my children in travel sports at 5 years old. My 19 year old got beat by the same girl until she was 7. One day she decided she wasn’t gonna loose to her again. It took her a few months but she beat her and never lost to her again. Losing gives them something to aspire to. My son spends his Sundays throwing a shot put across the street so that he doesn’t loose. I so admire their work ethic and focus. There’s nothing wrong with losing. The kids need to understand that the world will not bow down to them. They have to go out there and and get it.

Irma Croteau, M.Ed. Psych.

Human Resources Executive • Organizational Design & Development • Employee Relations • Transforming Cultures

5mo

I still remember playing checkers with my son, he never won. He was probably around 7yrs old and after losing to me yet again he asked “Mom, when do you think I will beat you at checkers?”, I laughed and said “not for a while buddy, you have at least a few years to go before you can beat Mom”. That must have lit some fire because he wanted a re-match right then and there and beat me fair and square. The look on his face was priceless…I was so happy for him!

Nicolas Philiptchenko

Large Scale Fiber Deployments at Vytal / Construction de réseaux fibre chez Vytal

5mo

Love this - For about 4 years now, my son who's 10 and who's a natural athlete (an outlet for his severe ADHD) has been asking me every few months if he's faster than me on a soccer field. And each time my answer is the same "not yet buddy, but you're faster than you were x months ago - keep it up and it's only a matter of time". When that day comes - when he genuinely beats me in a race, it is going to be an immense moment of pride for exactly the reason you say - he will have dreamed about it, worked for it and earned it. I can't wait!

Sean walker

Kellermeyer Bergerson,Utilities Specialist

5mo

That is the result when Athletic Ability is “Coached and Trained” competently to Excellence. Seeing is believing what can be conceived can be created. Hope the well that springs enternal, has to be searched for, if it’s to be found. Remember, God made Earth to train the Faithful. Just watch it again, again, If you can have any doubts. Correction Welcomed on a shared perspective, anytime.

Paul Knotts

Owner, Total Injury Prevention Specialists

5mo

The impala loses the lioness

Gregory Morrow

Owner | Program Manager | Speaker | Coach

5mo

Sports can help kids succeed in life, but kids look to the adults. We need the kids to focus on fun before strategy, or even the rules. During this process, we talk to them about sportsmanship.. they will need this foundation as they develop. I am a high believer in participation trophies (I just did a Toastmasters speech that disqualified cause I talked too much on this). I do play with my kids somewhat similarly, but keep in mind, kids don't always see the same POV. Ex: they think they've been honored by us for some reason and some of them don't even know how to keep score, they just see bias.

Vince Vona

Strategic Account Specialist

5mo

Holy smokes! Let’s get that kid on the Eagles!! 😂

Scott Sullivan

President and Co-founder Outbreak Technologies

5mo

Tyreek is a good sport about this....and something this kid will forever remember. Great job Tyreek

Josh Johnston

Fractional CTO, AI, and Data

5mo

I don't let my kids win, either. I don't lie to them. There are also no excuses when I lose. They earned it. And boy do they rub it in, too. Makes me up my game, sometimes.

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