I tell parents I work with to back off on demanding straight A's and they look at me like I have two heads. Why would a parent lower their expectations for school? It's actually not about lowering expectations, but where you focus with your child on academics. You can have high standards without demanding all A's -- and your child will likely become a more productive, active student because of it! #parenting #academics #sciencebasedparenting #internalmotivation #autonomysupportiveparenting
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Do you need a break from the election news cycle AND you care about the future of democracy? Tune into this enlightening episode with Lindsey Cormack about how we can raise active, productive citizens starting now! #parenting #politicalautonomy #raisingcitizens
As parents, we can feel pressure to have all the right answers—but Lindsey Cormack reminds us that our kids don’t need us to know everything. Lindsey says, "We’re never going to know enough, and that’s okay. What matters is showing our kids that we’re willing to learn and grow along with them." Try not to fear misinforming them, embrace the uncertainty, have those important conversations, and model the process of learning and growing together. 🎧 Catch more wisdom from Lindsey in our latest episode How to Raise a Citizen. https://lnkd.in/dyYU2nxP #ParentingAndPolitics #TalkToYourKids #KeepLearning #GriefAndRebirth #Podcast
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I have been more aware lately of micro-decisions that seem like not a big deal in the moment, but add up to overly centering our children and sacrificing our needs. After almost 15 years of being a mom, I’m starting to realize I say this way too often: “Sure! We can make that happen!” Now that parenting stress and overwhelm is finally a topic of national conversation (thanks Vivek Murthy), it’s helping me see where I don’t think twice before making life more complicated. I have long said, “We can make it work!” and then realized it is quite hard to make it work. It almost happened last week -- until I caught myself. The team parents for my son's club soccer team have agreed to pay extra this fall season for weekly practices at a nice indoor facility. As the coach plans for the winter season, he found out that the only available time would be Friday evenings, 6-7:30. Could we make it work? Technically, yes. It’s just an hour and a half on Fridays for a couple months. (That’s always what I tell myself: “It’s only . . . “) But should we? That means driving carpool instead of our nightly family ritual of relaxing with dinner in front of the TV. My son especially looks forward to his “movie nights” on Fridays. We’re all worn out after a busy week and we usually head into a hectic weekend. Friday evenings are one of our times of respite. Could we give them up? Yes. Should we? I don’t think so. They would still have winter practices, it just wouldn’t be in the nicer indoor facility. I vote for a subpar school gym so I can watch TV on Friday nights in the winter. There -- I said it. I would opt for TV over optimizing my 10-year-old’s soccer skills. We probably have soccer Fridays in our future, but at least I finally stopped myself before responding, "Sure! We can make that happen!" #raisingkids #parentingkids #parenthood #motherhood #fatherhood #childpsychologist #parentsmarternotharder #parentstress #parentburnout
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I teamed up with two of my favorite people and great thinkers, Yael Schonbrun and Debbie Sorensen, to respond to the Surgeon General's advisory on parental stress. Finally. We wanted to make this happen as soon as it came out but couldn't because we are stressed out parents! As three clinical psychologists with intersecting areas of expertise in parenting and burnout, we reflect on if this advisory means anything and what we can do with it. #parentingstress #parenting #parentstress #parentburnout #workingparenthood
A not-so-hot take on the recent Surgeon General advisory on parental stress. Why isn't it hot? Well, my two colleagues, Debbie Sorensen and Emily Edlynn PhD and I were in the thick of start-of-the-academic-year parenting stress, so it took us a good long beat to get this together. We collapse our three areas of expertise in parenting, burnout, and role tension to offer both thoughts on the data shared by the Surgeon General, and tips from the field of clinical psychology to navigate the realities of modern day parenting stress. We hope you get a lot out of this conversation!
Is Parent Stress Breaking News?
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I loved talking with Dr. Emily W. King on her podcast about how we can be autonomy-supportive with our neurodivergent kids. She's an amazing resource for parents and educators! #parenting #autonomysupportiveparenting #neurodivergence #neurodiversity
🎙NEW PODCAST DROP with Dr. Emily Edlynn As parents, our natural instinct is to shield our children from stress. Life's hard enough as adults, so we want to let kids be carefree. ✨But is that strategy counterproductive and actually harmful to our children? ✨ Today, Dr. Emily Edlynn calls for a cultural shift towards balanced, autonomy-supportive parenting that prioritizes both child and parental well-being over societal pressures and external achievements. Keep listening at the link! Emily Edlynn PhD https://lnkd.in/gJig7V6p #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #neurodiverse #raisingautism #neurodivergentfamily #parentingadhd #adhdparenting #parentingautism #parentingishard #autonomy #supportiveparenting #resillience #compassionatestrategies
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One of the best parts of hosting a podcast is getting to interview people I admire and I have long admired Carla Naumburg, PhD, LICSW. She's out with a new book for kids to help them with their freakouts! We had an awesome chat about self-regulation and self-compassion in language kids can easily understand so this is a family-friendly episode. It features farts, burps, and squirrels so how can this not be fun for kids?
We all want the best for our children—love, confidence, and support—but how often do we teach them to be kind to themselves as well? On this week’s podcast, one of the topics we talked about with Carla Naumburg, PhD, LICSW was self-compassion for kids and how it can help kids respond to their own stress and emotions with the same understanding they’d offer a friend. Self-compassion teaches kids that it’s okay to make mistakes, to have bad days, and to know they’re still worthy of love. Carla says it's one of the most important tools we can give our kids for navigating life’s ups and downs. 🎧 Want to hear more about how you can help your child practice self-compassion? Grab Carla’s fantastic new book, ‘How to Stop Freaking Out’ at our bookshop. You can also listen to the full episode using the link below, on YouTube or wherever you get your podcasts. Let’s raise kids who are kind to themselves. https://lnkd.in/d26gfter
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When I responded to questions for this article, I didn't even know about the launch of Instagram's new teen accounts. But I'm honored to be included in this piece with other esteemed experts, including Hina Talib, MD! #parenting #socialmedia #teenagers #teenmentalhealth #parentingteens https://lnkd.in/g8enN2cb
Instagram Wants To Protect Teens From Inappropriate Content on Social—Will This Help?
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Honestly, these are not new ideas from Darby Saxbe. But we need to keep writing about and amplifying them because our modern American parenting culture seems impenetrable. We need to stop making children the centers of our worlds and bring them along as companions in our adult lives. They learn more. We live fuller lives. This should be considered "good parenting." We need a movement to redefine "good parenting" so we can all be healthier. #sciencebasedparenting #parentalburnout #parentstress #autonomysupportiveparenting
Opinion | Parents Should Ignore Their Children More Often
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Agreed.
Here's something I've been working on for the past week or so. Today, I went to the post office to send off a bunch of copies of my book Unlocked to a group of MPs and Peers who are involved in DCMS, DSIT and DfE. It was sent along with a letter calling for a new evidence-based national digital literacy initiative, aimed at parents/caregivers as well as young people. It may be a shot in the dark, but you never know, right? Some key points from the letter: - current fear-driven narratives around tech use are disempowering people - there's no clear evidence base for blanket smartphone/social media bans being useful - digital tech isn't going away, so building digital literacy skills is essential, for young people as well as parents/caregivers I know lots of people are doing brilliant work in the area. Hopefully something positive will come from it. Letter in full below.
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Author of NYT bestseller NEVER ENOUGH and MATTERING IN THE MODERN WORLD (forthcoming by PRH) | Award-winning journalist, keynote speaker & TV commentator | Co-founder @matteringmovement| Building cultures of mattering
1yFocus on scaffolding how tie work gets done. Focus on the work habits and the grades will come.