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🌟 Not your typical April 1 post! 🌟 Stumbled upon this hilarious meme! I'm sure we can all relate, especially since April is Stress Awareness Month! Let's remember to take a breather, share a laugh, and support one another during hectic times. #MentalHealthMatters #WellnessJourney #StressAwarenessMonth

I heard something really powerful today and...... it made me think. They said, the most peaceful people and the most wise people they know are the ones who have created enough internal space to be able to allow all the parts of themselves to co-exist, despite the contradictions. They go on to say, these people have room for their creativity and they have room for their fear. They have room for all the contradictory feelings and emotions. They don't kick any parts out because, guess what....you can't! I loved it. Anyone who has experienced or is experiencing post-separation abuse knows that there are so many conflicting feelings and emotions to manage....daily. And as someone who is passionate about opening the door to talk about post-separation abuse, those words really resonated with me. You can have all the conflicting feelings and emotions inside and still move forward with your life. I'll be honest, post-separation abuse doesn't have an expiration date. 📆 But moving forward daily and beginning to understand, how to approach the situations that arise, can help you live a happy and peaceful life. There will come a day when what used to make you feel anxious and worried, doesn't have the same effect anymore. What you used to struggle to handle, now you have the tools to handle it. And you can deal with all those feelings. The good and the bad. And instead of existing, you can start to live again. Happy Sunday 🌟 #postseparationabuse #hope #movingforward

For today’s Therapy Thursday post, let’s talk about shame. Shame can keep us stuck in situations in which we just keep repeating the same maladaptive behaviors hoping that things will eventually get better. We feel so bad about ourselves, that we don’t deserve any better, and so it becomes easier to just stay stuck in our comfort zone. What are some ways to address this? Recognizing that you want to feel differently is a good first step. Finding some supportive people who embody the life you want to live, and staying away from those who are content with the comfort zone, is also a good step. Easy? No. Doable? Yes.

What would you do in this situation? Someone cuts in line while you're waiting to get your coffee. Frustration and anger builds, making it easy to get lost in thoughts about rudeness and the state of the world. Or maybe, if you have practiced present moment awareness, you can step back from that tornado of thoughts and take a second to choose the best response instead of reacting mindlessly. You might still decide to confront the queue jumper or instead simply let it go. The key takeaway? You have the power to choose. It’s about checking in with your values and deciding how to respond, rather than letting your thoughts dictate your actions. This snippet was taken from our ACT basics series, available in our resources section on our website and also on our YouTube channel: https://bit.ly/3ZJMI04 If you'd like to learn more about managing anger specifically then join us in March for "Compassion-focused therapy for anger", an intermediate level skills workshop with Professor Russell Kolts, renowned expert in compassion-focused therapy (CFT) and leading authority in working with anger. This highly practical and informative training session promises to revolutionise your approach when working with clients struggling with anger issues:https://bit.ly/3ZRcVdn It's #InternationalCoffeeDay today too by the way, so grab a cup and take a moment for yourself!

And I’m still going strong. Today is day 154 of consecutive cold plunges, each 5 minutes or more. Here’s what I’ve learned so far: 1) I can do hard things. When every morning starts with an icy dip, all of the sudden that intimidating presentation doesn’t feel so daunting. I’ve gained mental strength & confidence. 2) Cold therapy heals. When I’m sore or nursing an injury, I can feel the cold water attack and circulate blood flow to those areas. It’s helped me recover much faster. 3) I’m more focused. There’s no better way to kickstart the day. It’s become my drug of choice. 4) It doesn’t get easier. Some days are easier than others, but it’s never truly easy. Whether it’s 60 degrees or -30 out, I’ve learned a lot about myself by committing to my daily plunge. Learn more about my cold plunge journey at MontanaMattProperties.com

Sometimes spotting toxic behaviors in others is difficult - especially if you were raised on trauma / dysfunction. To heal and create a peaceful life, keeping toxicity at a safe distance is essential. I've created a screener for toxic behaviors, which you can access for free at the following link: https://lnkd.in/g4xydFc5

Do you understand why your children's behaviour annoys you? Here’s what happens when you understand WHY you get irritable: ❤️You have more compassion for yourself, which helps you be more reflective and patient in tricky situations with your children; ❤️You have more compassion for your children, so you find yourself being more patient with them. And here's what happens when you DON’T understand why you get irritable: 😢You judge yourself harshly, which makes you feel bad, lowers your patience threshold and sets up the next outburst; 😢You tend to see the cause of your irritability out there 'in the world', which can help your pride but makes it near impossible to find a solution. For example, I’ve been working with a mum and dad who were having bitter clashes with their 9 year old daughter - clashes that were tearing their family apart. By digging deep to discover WHY their child’s behaviour made them so angry, they’ve come to realise it had a lot to do with them and little to do with her. Now that they have this understanding, their house has become a peaceful place, where they talk things through with their daughter. 🥰 ✅Understanding WHY we get angry is life-changing. So, if you would like to understand why YOU get irritable, don’t miss this opportunity: Why do my Children Trigger my Irritability? 12.30-1.30 (BST) Thursday 6th June on Zoom Tickets on me. Yes, there will be a recording - register to get yours. Link in comments. Pic shows me with my son in Italy a few years ago.

Lesson 45: Sometimes we develop toxic traits to protect ourselves from abuse and it’s important to let yourself feel; in order to heal. 💔 The first step in acknowledging it… Don’t use it as an excuse to be a shitty human. Understand yourself enough to understand where your trauma comes from and what you can do to change how it affects you and your daily life… It’s not so much the external factors but triggers to emotions that you have been neglecting. You can’t fix the external without fixing the internal… & I heard if you fix the internal the external will follow… I heard somewhere along the way and from now I will give credit but — “Are you going through it or are you growing through it?” If you’re not growing… It’s time to switch pots, change the soil, and learn how to fertilize your soul. 🪴

What would you do in this situation? Someone cuts in line while you're waiting to get your coffee. Frustration and anger builds, making it easy to get lost in thoughts about rudeness and the state of the world. Or maybe, if you have practiced present moment awareness, you can step back from that tornado of thoughts and take a second to choose the best response instead of reacting mindlessly. You might still decide to confront the queue jumper or instead simply let it go. The key takeaway? You have the power to choose. It’s about checking in with your values and deciding how to respond, rather than letting your thoughts dictate your actions. This snippet was taken from our ACT basics series, available in our resources section on our website and also on our YouTube channel: https://buff.ly/3Y6azWw If you'd like to learn more about managing anger specifically then join us in March for "Compassion-focused therapy for anger", an intermediate level skills workshop with Professor Russell Kolts, renowned expert in compassion-focused therapy (CFT) and leading authority in working with anger. This highly practical and informative training session promises to revolutionise your approach when working with clients struggling with anger issues:https://buff.ly/3Y6klIq It's #InternationalCoffeeDay today too by the way, so grab a cup and take a moment for yourself!

#march1st “Self Injury Awareness Day” Self-injury Awareness Day (SIAD) (also known as Self-Harm Awareness Day) is a grassroots annual global awareness event/campaign on March 1. It raises #awareness about self-harm and self-injury. For some people, when #depression and #anxiety lead to an overload of #emotions, they turn to self-harm looking for a release. Self-harm can #manifest differently for everyone, here are just a few * Cutting * Scratching * Burning * Carving words or symbols into the skin * Hitting or punching oneself Stigma creates #shame and #embarrassment, making it hard for people who #selfharm to get help. So, be mindful, if you suspect that someone in your life is self-harming, here are some warning signs to keep top of mind: * Scars * Fresh cuts, burns, scratches, or bruises * Wearing long sleeves or long pants, even in hot weather * Behavioral and emotional instability, impulsiveness, or unpredictability * Saying that they feel #helpless, #hopeless, or #worthless Emotions can sometimes be too painful if not addressed. And become unhealthy ways to cope with and process the hard things in your life. Do you feel life’s #challenges are difficult for you to manage your emotions ? If this applies to you, Hi ! - I believe in you and your pain & can assist you in addressing those emotions. Let’s connect and discuss positive options and personal challenges. https://lnkd.in/dRHcJnn #emotions #selflovematters Blessings Diana Kearns