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#ThingsIWouldDoDifferently I would reject the subtle lie: "If you can just (make the next rank, get that dream job, etc) then you will be happier, more fulfilled, and have more influence." In the military, we wear our rank on our uniform for all to see. You are always aware of where you are in the hierarchical structure. It it normal and natural to want to rise in rank and position. There is, however, a subtle but dark message that constantly says: "your rank/position indicates your value." That is a lie. Learn from my error. You will not be happier or more fulfilled at that next rank, or when you get that dream position. You will be happiest--and have the most positive influence--when you are present in the moment, working alongside people to accomplish things as a team while connecting with your co-workers in a genuine way. You don't control a lot of things, but you control how you approach work and choose to engage with others. Take that control. I spent way too much time being concerned about the top awards, the next rank, and the next job. And I was able to attain those things. I finished first in my class at the United States Air Force Academy, in pilot training, and at Command & Staff College. I was frocked to Lt Colonel at 35 and Colonel at 39. I was a 42-year old Wing Commander, a 45-year old Brigadier General, and a 49-year old three-star and the Air Force's "futurist." I'm pretty sure I was the youngest Lt Gen in all the military at that point. None of these things made me happier. I wasn't more fulfilled, and I wasn't more valuable as a human. In some cases, I was a lot less happy, like when I had to give up command of a small squadron with a great mission and great people in order to hurry to the next job. I was always happiest when I was part of a great team, engaging in the work in front of us, and connecting with my teammates. I miss those days. The hierarchy will always beckon you, and in a way that is healthy for the institution, as it harnesses our natural ambition and keeps us working hard and trying to advance. Recognize that for what it is. There is nothing wrong with assuming command, or getting the next job, or making the next rank. When that takes away from who you are in the present, however, it is toxic and life-stealing. Do not miss out on the people, the mission, and the experiences in front of you. #genuineconnections #mindfulleadership #wellbeing #teambonding