I just wanted to post a reminder that everyone makes mistakes (I certainly do), you never know what is going on in a person’s life (or mind) when they make a mistake, and that—no matter how frustrating (or even infuriating) their mistake may be for you personally—a kind and forgiving approach to handling mistakes can go a long way in supporting your fellow humans, especially during these increasingly tough times. I find when I am responding to a mistake that someone has made which directly affects me, it is helpful to think about the mistakes I have made over my career and the good (and bad) ways others have responded to them. It helps reframe the situation as an opportunity for empathy, support, and relationship building. And generally reminds me that most of us are just trying to do the best we can at any given moment and sometimes we may fall short of that goal. Ultimately, we’re all in this together, even when it seems we’re alone. And our power comes from a collective, collaborative, compassionate mindset.
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