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PhD Scholar | Founder- Mending Mind Entrepreneur | Mental Health Practitioner

Sharing something that I have learnt from my own therapy room. How many times have we fallen into not doing something because others are not doing the same? A very intelligent girl, let’s call her Donna, with a perfect job that she had always dreamed of found me because she was unsatisfied with her job. Everything was great --- the pay, the perks, the benefits, the position ---everything, except her boss. He was a demeaning, toxic, arrogant creature with messed up behavior, Donna would quote. After slogging it out for a few months, mornings became a newfound source of shivering arms, restlessly running thoughts, dripping confidence levels. She wanted to leave the job (she didn’t particularly need this job) but one question essentially made her feel she could put up with the boss’s toxic behavior. How come everyone else can cope through this and I’m thinking of quitting? She had the option of quitting practically popping out every moment at the workplace. But she wasn’t open to seeing it all the time because “Why can’t I work through this trauma the same way others are?”, “Why am I quitting while they can perfectly work, though stressed?” “Why is none of them doing anything?” “What if I pull off another month and check where the problem is?” I have a serious question for you all: Why do we usually take the route that everyone else is when our route is painfully clear about giving us What We Need? 

Aanishka Agrawal

Counselling Psychologist | Founder -The Therapist Room | Research Aspirant & Educator | PhD Scholar

9mo

I relate to this case so hard. I’ve felt something sooo similar at a very early point of my career. The same questions popped up in my head. I dreaded going to work and hated seeing the person that triggered me to an extent that I couldn’t do anything as a part of my daily activities. I stayed in considering how would it look like on my part to resign from something others call ‘perfect’. Nobody will ever look at this situation from my perspective. I guess they are the perfect employee and I’m not. It takes to move a mountain of feelings for someone to come in terms with their personal needs even when it is the need of the hour and especially when everybody else belongs together on the other side of it.

MIZAAN ALI

Aspiring PSYCHOLOGIST| COUNSELOR| Bachelor of Arts in PSYCHOLOGY HONOURS.

9mo

I think people try to fit into any group whether it's personal or professional life. And to prove that I'm also one of you we tend to cope up and accept the situation. In my opinion you should quit and also before quitting it, you must talk to that TOXIC BOSS and at least once offer/suggest him/her to seek mental health help either from a Psychologist or Psychiatrist. And I would suggest each and every organisation and startups please do hire a psychologist as you hire HR, who can be a good counselor as well and do workshops/seminars on workplace culture and productivity. It will help both the parties. And if anyone needs therapy they can have it at their workplace.

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