Selection in professional sport can be determined by too many factors that are out of your control.
And dealing with the emotional rollercoaster of being chosen or rejected can be one of the deciding factors for your future selection.
Suppressing the feeling of disappointment can show up negatively in your training, your love life, and your family life.
When you suppress emotions like disappointment, it rolls over into more negative feelings like anxiety, depression, fear and anger.
And these emotions create mistakes, overthinking and outbursts.
Allowing yourself to just FEEL your disappointment gives you the CAPACITY to recover from it quicker.
How to feel your disappointment:
1. Start by becoming aware of where it is in your body.
It could be a tight feeling in your chest, a knot in your gut, a burny sensation in your diaphragm (to name a few)
This feeling in your body IS your emotion.
It’s your body’s way of communicating with you.
This means that you must take note of it.
2. Give yourself time to physically feel the bodily sensation WITHOUT judging it, avoiding it, or rationalising it.
It’s not rational. So don’t try make it.
You can label your experience for eg. “My heart rate is up, my gut is burning, my shoulders are heavy” and you repeat this until the feeling subsides.
Emotions only last up to 8 seconds.
It’s our MIND that replays things that triggers the emotion again and hence the rabbit hole of feeling stuck in an emotion.
By doing this process, you will actually FEEL the emotion and listen to what it’s telling you.
Repeat the process whenever your mind triggers the memory of disappointment and you’ll end up recovering within a split second.
Giving you the capacity to focus on what’s important for your improvement.
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