Ever feel overwhelmed by all the 'shoulds' in your life? (What you 'should' do, how you 'should' look, how you 'should' feel, etc.) If you answered "yes," you are not alone. We sometimes refer to this phenomenon as "shoulding," a sneaky form of self-criticism that often leads to feelings of guilt, inadequacy, anxiety or even depression. Named by psychologist Clayton Barbeau, "shoulding" refers to a cognitive distortion involving self-imposed pressure to meet unrealistic expectations. When individuals habitually fixate on "shoulds," this distortion becomes almost automatic, making it difficult to remain attuned to one's own needs, wants, priorities, and values. "Should" is extremely burdensome word for a lot of us, but it's possible to make a change. If you're ready to stop shoulding yourself, a good first step is to simply to recognize when it happens and work to challenge these thoughts. (For example, instead of saying "I should be eating better," you might try, "I will focus on finding more nutritious foods that I enjoy.") With practice, patience you can learn to replace shoulding with self-compassion. ❤️ #anxiety #shoulding #stopshouldingyourself #depression #comparison #selfcare #selfcompassion #Lightfully #CBT #therapy #mentalhealth #behavioralhealth #tgif
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Take a moment to understand why you enjoy drinking alcohol and what purpose it serves you. Do you drink alcohol because it helps you fall asleep? Makes you happy? Eases anxiety in social situations? Once you've identified these reasons, explore healthier alternatives to achieve the same effects: - If alcohol helps you to fall asleep, try soothing activities like exercise, meditation, reading, or journaling instead. - If alcohol makes you feel happy, think about what else brings you joy and increase your engagement with that. - If alcohol eases your anxiety in social situations, consider talking to a therapist for coping strategies. #SelfCare #Alcohol #SelfAware #ClinicalPsychology #Therapy #SubstanceUse #TheCohenClinic
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#thursdaythoughts How Secrets Harm the Soul Internal #secrets are generally due to unresolved #shame or #guilt from the past. And due to those feelings, you may embark on many #negative behaviors such as over-eating, addiction or physical harm.… …. simply to numb your #pain. I know because I have experienced many negative emotions & behaviors in the past. 💥Until I realized…. ……What truly happens to your body when you keep secrets. 🔻 Not only does it hurt emotionally, but #secrecy is associated with lower well-being, failing #health, and unhealthy #relationships. 🔻 The #emotional, mental, physical and #spiritual impact of secrets are detrimental to the soul. —> In fact, research suggests keeping secrets can significantly boost stress hormones, impact blood pressure, inhibit sleep, contribute to #mentalhealth and #substanceabuse disorders and even increase chronic #pain. So if you are ready to understand your past & willing to let go & forgive it… …Let’s connect & begin the specific strategies I implement in my FB group - Your “Steps of Life” 👣🙏🏻 @empoweredfearlessfemales ➡️ And if you are presently struggling with emotions, please set up a quick call with me to discuss further.@ https://lnkd.in/dRHcJnn Blessings Diana Kearns #empowermentcoach #emotionalhealing #letgoletgod #believe
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Do you fear the dark? I don’t. I fear living in the darkness of the world. For those struggling with depression, it feels like a never-ending night, where even the brightest days seem shadowed. It’s waking up with a heaviness that doesn't lift and going through the motions while feeling numb inside. Every task feels monumental, and every interaction feels draining. It’s feeling isolated, even in a room full of people, and constantly battling a voice that whispers, "You're not enough." But remember, even in the deepest darkness, there's always a glimmer of light. Reach out, seek help, and know that you are not alone. You are stronger than you think, and every small step forward is a victory. Surround yourself with people who care, and don't be afraid to lean on them. Believe in the possibility of better days. Your story isn't over, and brighter days are ahead. Keep fighting, hold on to hope, and know that you are valued and loved. 🌟 You’ve got this, and we’re here with you every step of the way. 💪❤️ #depression #anxiety #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #love #sad #mentalillness #mentalhealthmatters #selfcare #ptsd #selflove #therapy #life #depressed #healing #recovery #stress #quotes #motivation #suicide #health #trauma #bipolar #sadness #mindfulness #psychology #wellness #pain #depressionhelp #broken
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⏰️ Do you open your eyes in the morning and your first thoughts are negative, or you notice a feeling of dread or worry lurking about? Well, you’re not alone. Morning anxiety is actually a relatively common experience and, believe it or not, it’s not just in your head. Yup. Your biology is against you too. There are 3 main biological reasons you wake up feeling a little anxious. #1: The Cortisol Awakening Response (CAR) #2: Those damn hormones #3: You've got a Sleep Disorder As if it wasn’t enough that your biology can work against you in the mornings, there are also some psychological reasons for that morning dread you’re feeling. Those reasons are: #1: Anticipatory Anxiety #2: Negative Thought Patterns #3: Your Life is Sucking Right Now My 2 clear steps to managing morning anxiety are: 1️⃣ Prepare Today for a Better Tomorrow 2️⃣ Start with Positive Momentum 🎧️ Listen or read the full episode here! https://lnkd.in/ghEVspzu . . . #AbbyMedcalf #AbbyMedcalfThriving #RelationshipsMadeEasy #RelationshipTherapy #CouplesHelp #MarriageCounselor #CouplesCounselor #CouplesTherapist #CouplesCounseling #MarriageCounseling #RelationshipTherapist #CouplesTherapy #CoupleQuotes #MarriageTherapy #CoupleTips #MarriageAdvice #LoveHealing #HealthyRelationships #RelationshipGoals #CommunicationSkills #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipSupport #RelationshipRecovery #RelationshipWellness #LoveAndConnection
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What if anxiety is ACTUALLY a good thing?! When I first started working on my mental health, my therapist asked me about my goals for our work together. My answer? I’m here to kill my anxiety and get rid of it for good 😟 I was sick of sleepless nights, feeling terrified for no reason, constantly on edge and jumping out of my skin 24/7. But our society teaches us to ignore the body, suppress our emotions and numb ourselves. So we self medicate and punish ourselves in the name of health with drugs, alcohol, sex, food, cold plunges, breathwork, exercise, restrictive diets, bio hacks and detox protocols. Sound familiar? So our body screams. It gets louder, the symptoms increase and the diagnosis pile up. I did all of the above and while I do enjoy some of these practices still, all they did was distract me from myself and the feelings always returned. So, what’s antidote and how do we heal anxiety? We build capacity and regulate the nervous system bc anxiety stems from unprocessed trauma that’s been stored in the body. Anxiety isn’t the enemy, it’s our saving grace. It’s our inner self knocking at the door showing us what we need to address to heal. We build capacity and regulate our nervous system by learning to sit with sensations and listen the wisdom of our bodies so that we can release the stored stress. After 20 years of searching for ways to “fix” my anxiety I realize that the answers are inside of us and that all humans have the innate ability to heal themselves. Like my mentor Irene Lyon, MSc. would say, “we become our own medicine” when we work at the nervous system level. Her courses are a fantastic place to start this work and they saved my life. If you’re ready to overcome anxiety and chronic stress, I’m your guy. Together we’ll customize your nutrition, movement, exercise and begin the journey of nervous system regulation working 1:1 together. #anxiety #PTSD #anxietyrecovery #becomeyourownmedicine #nervoussystemregulation #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #hireacoach
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The breath is the most powerful tool we have to help regulate our nervous system and deal with stressful situations in life. We all take the breath for granted and the desire behind this post is to bring your awareness back to that simple yet powerful tool. Give it a try now... See how you feel after taking only 12 breaths a minute for 3 minutes vs taking 50 a minute for 3 minutes. Then decide how you'd rather feel and breathe accordingly. Interestingly the next time I used the cold pod, it split and broke whilst I was in it as I'd overfilled it. So I've been having cold baths or missing the cold for the past few weeks. @lumi.therapy have kindly sent me a new one afyer reaching out to them, which I'll make sure not to fill to breaking point - which is a powerful reminder not to fill life or our nervous system to the point of bursting.... So, the next time you feel yourself getting stressed, like a baloon ready to pop, take a few deep, slow and mindful breaths and help regulate ypur nervous system, producing more peace inside. Follow for more, share with a friend, drop a comment and all that good stuff. All my love and support, Kaine Stromberg #coldwater #coldwatertherapy #icebath #breathwork #lifechanging #empowering #icebathchallenge #familyfun #therapy #recovery #health #wellness #mindfulness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #motivation #dailymotivation #depression #anxiety #anxious #selflove #expression #emotions #grounded
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How It Feels To Have Anxiety And Stress😔☹️ Feeling the weight of anxiety and stress can be overwhelming. It's like being trapped in a whirlwind of thoughts, unable to find a way out. The constant worry, racing heartbeats, and tense muscles make every moment feel like an uphill battle. It's feeling like you're drowning in a sea of worries with no lifeline in sight. Each breath feels heavy as if carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. The internal struggle is invisible to others, yet it consumes every fiber of your being. Despite it all, remember that you are not alone in this journey and there are resources and support available to help navigate through these turbulent emotions. . 👨👩👧👧 Join our group: https://lnkd.in/dYBDYjrb . 🌐 Visit our website: https://lnkd.in/dEeHfTqv . ☎️ Connect On WhatsApp: +91 8178934958 . 📧 Official Gmail ID: support@mindzenia.com . . #Depression #Anxiety #MentalHealthAwareness #EndThe stigma #MentalHealthMatters #YouAreNotAlone #Hope #NoneMentalHealth #MentalHealthSupport #HealingJourney #Mindfulness #SelfCare #EmotionalWellness #CopingStrategies #Therapy #MentalHealthAdvocate #MentalHealthIssues #MentalWellbeing #Positivity #TakeCareOfYourself
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Fall can bring on more than beautiful colors, cooler temperatures and shorter days – the shift in weather can lead to a dip in mood and energy... "feeling blue." Routines take over and there's less time for outdoor activities and down time. It is thought that shorter days and less daylight may trigger a chemical change in the brain leading to symptoms of depression. As a lack of sunlight may lead to lower serotonin levels, which affects mood, appetite, and sleep. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐨 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫; 𝐢𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐚 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐩 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐜𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐞𝐬. https://lnkd.in/ghpJmU2q #fallblues #winterblues #seasonalaffectivenessdisorder #lesslight #shorterdays #fallcolors #falldepression #winterdepression #depression #dontdismissyourself #ithelpstotalk #therapyhelps #stuckinroutine #healthyroutine #healthychoices #letstalk #chicago #chicagoland #virtualtherapy #virtualtherapist #onlinetherapist #chicagotherapist
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Do you feel stressed which is causing pain/tension in your body? If this is continuous, it may cause other serious health problems. Stress also affects the physiology in our body which starts from the mind. “The mind and body are not separate. what affects one, affects the other.” ✨Be aware of what you put in your body and mind. 💟Well-balanced food and feed your mind with positive high-vibration thoughts, words, stories and surround yourself with happy high vibe people. Maintaining your health & well-being means caring for your entire mental and physical state. Prioritize yourself, nourish yourself. Get ready - The 5 day Energy Revitalizer is starting on April 15 #LindaBenn #LindaBennInternational #BennMethod #transformational #catalyst #healthwellbeing #balance #meditation #nurture #nourish #wellbeing #healing #stressfree #breathe #spiritualguides #spiritualawakening #transformation #trauma #depression #anxiety #release #thrive
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