Are you listening?
It’s Place2Be Children’s Mental Health Week and the theme is:
'My Voice Matters'
And it’s important because all children need to know that they can use their voices to be heard and understood, that all their feelings are valid, and that we’re here to listen and to help.
Here are just some of the things that children and young people say they want and need from parents to support their mental health:
· I need to know it’s OK to talk to you about all of my feelings. Please hear what I have to say, without interrupting me.
· Please listen to me carefully and acknowledge how I am feeling – it might seem silly to you but what I am going through is important to me.
· Sometimes I just need you to listen and hear what I’m saying – I don’t always need answers (or lectures).
· Please don’t worry about trying to fix things for me – I often just need to know you are there for me and understand what I am going through.
· Sometimes I don’t want to talk. Please trust that I will come to you (or another grown-up or someone my own age) when I’m ready..
We’re all super busy and sometimes really listening to our kids is hard. We get distracted, we might find it difficult to hear what they want to tell us, or we jump in to fix or sort to move things along or to take the pain away. That all makes sense, but it doesn’t always give our kids the space or the presence that they want and need from us.
There’s so much that we can do to help them feel comfortable, learn to express themselves, and use their voices to feel heard.
I'm delighted to share my article for Talk Education with some simple practical tools to hone our listening skills, get curious about what our children are trying to communicate, help them strengthen their emotional vocabulary, and most importantly build our connection and trust. Thanks, Place2Be for shining the light on something so fundamental and important.
This week is Children’s Mental Health Week, run by the brilliant children’s mental health charity Place2Be. This year’s theme is ‘my voice matters’, and the aim of the week is to help children and young people use their voices to feel heard, and in turn, equip them with the tools they need to express themselves and support their mental health and wellbeing. So, how can parents make children feel confident and empowered to believe their voice really is important? Below, our parenting expert Heather Rutherford explains how we can all encourage the expression of thoughts, opinions and feelings at home: https://bit.ly/3STgSdD
Reader (Associate Professor) in Human Resource Management. Researching work-life & wellbeing.
4moAbsolutely amazing charity, bringing together such an incredible group of organisations and people, for such an important cause!! I'm still wearing my pin badge at every opportunity ☺️