Sometimes a new job just isn’t a good fit. You don’t have to feel bad about it. You don’t have to stay. You don’t have to suck it up, pretend you are happy, or feel guilty for looking for an escape. You’d think with the length of the interview process, the Freud level psychological assessments, and endless scrutiny that every candidate who accepts a new job is a perfect fit. But it’s just not true. Many people take the first offer that comes along after a layoff. You’ve ignored the red flags. Been bamboozled. Or the job, responsibilities, or workplace were misrepresented. You thought you were taking a role with a great team, boss or company …. But you’ve found yourself in a flaming dumpster fire 🔥. It’s okay. It happens to everyone. Don’t feel bad. Polish up the resume. Get back out there. #jobsearch #resumewriting #oops
Robynn Storey you never has to stick with a bad choice just because you spent so long making it. Twist is a valid option too.
Robynn, why do you have to be so mean to flaming dumpster fires. I have met some perfectly nice flaming dumpster fires. 😁 😂 🤣 🤣 😎
If it isn't working out, find that exit lever as fast as possible - in fact, keep job hunting even after you find a role just in case things don't work out. Unfortunately in today's job market, that can take some time - but it's better to be working at a terrible place (and being able to pay the bills) than not working at all and going homeless.
There are times you need to stick it out, though, too. Sometimes, the personal resources are too thin. I realized on about the third day that I was in the wrong place, but had a long payback period for the relocation package and no savings after having been unemployed for quite a long period of time immediately before. I had to stay through that payback period, but started looking for a new gig when that date was approaching.
I’ve has this happen 3 times in my life and it’s SOOOO disappointing. No one walks into a job thinking it’s going to be an awful experience. Each of the jobs I took I was really excited about! The reason I left? #1. Poor leadership/lack of direction, #2. chaotic environment, #3. toxic culture. Not once was it because of pay. The upside to those situations is that most times, my teammates were amazing and were also hanging in there. The red flags showed up fast - usually in the first week. Sometimes I’d stick it out a few months, other times I cut ties after a few weeks. There is zero merit in riding out a job (or a relationship) that was misrepresented during the interview process and is clearly not what you want.
How do you read my mind? Everything you wrote happened to me and I resigned yesterday after 8 weeks at a new role. Red flags from start to finish but needed a role. I know a lot of folks aren't in a position to do what I did, but boy am I so much happier today.
When I ran a manufacturing team - I had a new employee who was very obviously unhappy but was trying really hard. I sat them down and told them - if this isn't a good fit, it is okay. This job isn't for everyone and the physical environment was really tough. I let her know I would not be upset and wanted her to do what was best for her. I came back from lunch to find a thank you note/resignation. They moved on to a new roll a few weeks later where they thrived.
Great post and fantastic advice. I’ve started a new job in the past and realised very quickly it wasn’t for me, I tried to stick it out and I’m not afraid to admit I hit the panic button, when I know now I really didn’t have too and I was always in control. This experience has been valuable in the next steps I took to overcome the set back. Probation periods don’t always have to be one way and the first hours and days in a new job are critical to plan out from a employers prospective. Too often employers get this wrong, even after the most rigorous of recruitment processes! Give new employees the best chance of success and welcome them with open arms - they are your asset.
I literally just did this. Stayed at my previous job for 4 months. I knew it was wrong for me. I couldn't imagine staying there long term. Thankful I found something that's a great fit for me and the relief is priceless.
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1moIt's so important to listen to your instincts. They exist for a reason. If you see red flags, experience things that don't align with your values, end up with a subpar leader, make plans to get out. It probably can't be fixed.