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Have you ever experienced a sense of detachment from your thoughts & reactions? Maybe, you got to work and someone said something that rubbed you the wrong way and all you saw was red. Next thing you know, you have said words you wish you hadn’t said and did things you wish you hadn’t done. This can almost make you feel like your mind and emotions are out of your control. You can’t help it. Eventually, we start to think, this is just who I am. I am here to tell you that this is not so. You can rise above your feelings, emotions and negative thoughts but first you have to go through the process of identifying these feelings and why they come up. Self awareness will help you do exactly that and here’s how:- ➡ Emotional Regulation: Self-awareness helps individuals recognize their own emotions during a conflict. This recognition is crucial for regulating emotional responses. When individuals understand and manage their emotions effectively, they are less likely to react impulsively or aggressively during conflicts, creating a calmer and more constructive atmosphere. ➡ Identification of Triggers: Self-awareness allows individuals to identify personal triggers that contribute to conflict. Understanding what specific situations or behaviors trigger negative emotions helps individuals address the root causes of conflicts rather than merely reacting to surface-level issues. ➡ Ownership of Emotions and Behavior: Self-aware individuals take responsibility for their emotions and behavior. Instead of blaming others, they acknowledge their contributions to the conflict and express their feelings and perspectives in a mature and accountable manner. This approach fosters an environment of openness and honesty. The next time you are tempted to react impulsively, walk away and ask yourself- why am I so angry? Be honest with yourself and you will be amazed at the clarity that will come your way.If you feel like you need extra help, reach out and I will offer you free sessions that will allow you to get to the root of the issue and propel you to the right path. #workingmoms #conflctresolution #selfawareness #angermanagement #lifecoachkenya #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth

I came across the F.A.C.E. your feelings framework recently and have found it a powerful tool when coping with mixed emotions. Navigating Mixed Emotions: The F.A.C.E. Method 1. FIGURE OUT THE FEELINGS Understanding your emotions is crucial. When you’ve known someone for a long time, it’s easy to overlook how you truly feel about them. To navigate mixed emotions, identify how you feel. Here are some emotions to consider, even if they aren’t traditionally defined as such: 2. ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR EMOTIONS Notice how you feel in different moments with this person: 1. How do I feel thinking about spending time with them? 2. How do I feel while with them? 3. How do I feel after spending time with them? Your feelings might vary depending on the day, but regularly reflecting on these questions will give you a clearer sense of the relationship dynamics. 3. CONSIDER YOUR OPTIONS With a clearer understanding of your emotions, consider the implications: 1. This person might not be good for me, so I should limit time with them. 2. This person is positive in my life, so I should spend more time with them. 3. This person has both positive and negative effects, so I should be mindful of our time together. 4. EMBRACE CHANGE OR ACCEPTANCE Decide your next step: embrace necessary changes or accept the current situation. If you realize someone isn’t good for you but still want to stay close, accept the consequences. If change is needed, be proactive in making it happen. Applying the F.A.C.E. method consciously can be empowering. It’s about making choices rather than drifting through life. Taking control of your feelings and decisions can lead to more fulfilling relationships. – Amanda #HealthinTandem #MixedEmotions #facemethod #copingskills #psychoeducation

Read the insights shared on How Emotional Intelligence Can Help Overcome Adversity by my partner TTI Success Insights Interested in assessing your Emotional Intelligence? Click on this link: https://lnkd.in/eikAZGf7 Then get a complimentary debrief session with me.

“As much as 80% of adult “success” comes from EQ.” — Daniel Goleman Curious about your emotional intelligence? Check it out with our free, fun 5 min. self-scoring quiz. https://lnkd.in/g_QQHm2A Emotional Intelligence increases our Collaboration, Communication and Connection abilities. These are foundational skills that boost our success in the workplace and life. “But feelings can’t be ignored, no matter how unjust or ungrateful they seem.” –Anne Frank “I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” –Oscar Wilde “Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions.” –Elizabeth Gilbert Making emotions work for you, instead of against you. That’s EQ Applied. “One ought to hold on to one’s heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too.” –Friedrich Nietzsche “Care for your psyche…know thyself, for once we know ourselves, we may learn how to care for ourselves.”  –Socrates “The idea that you have to be protected from any kind of uncomfortable emotion is what I absolutely do not subscribe to.” –John Cleese “Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business.” –Norman Vincent Peale “Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.” –Isaac Newton “Feelings are something you have; not something you are.” –Shannon L. Alder “Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion.” –Anonymous “When anger rises, think of the consequences.” –Confucius

😥 Ever feel like you’re your own worst enemy? We all have habits and thoughts that keep us stuck, making us feel like we're going in circles. When overwhelmed with emotions like frustration, sadness, or anxiety, it's easy to blame situations or others. Yet deep down, we know we play a part too. Feelings of doubt, inadequacy, and guilt can lead to harsh self-criticism, undermining our confidence and self-worth. Breaking free from these patterns is tough. I’ve come to realise that growing awareness of my blind spots is key… which means leaning into my shadow self. 👉 Recognising when I’m triggered. 👉 Letting initial emotions settle. 👉 Resisting the urge to blame or judge. Growth lies in my taking responsibility to catch and shift my feelings, thoughts, and behaviours. Easier said than done, right? However, the journey is worth it, as with growing awareness comes greater choice... and improved relationships. 😊 These are some of the topics we explore within teams. Increasing awareness and accountability for thoughts, feelings and actions leads to greater self and other awareness... Which in turn breeds trust, compassion, collaboration and more productive relationships. Want to learn more? Check out the blog link below to read about the experience of one of our clients... or drop me a message to start a conversation! #SelfAwareness #EmotionalAwareness #TeamDevelopment Essentially Human Ltd

Dealing with someone who dislikes or hates you? Here's how to handle the situation: 1. "Reflect on your actions and behavior" - Take a moment to think about your actions and behavior. Is there anything you might have done to contribute to their feelings? 2. "Communication is key" - If you feel comfortable, have an open and honest conversation with the person. Try to understand their perspective and concerns. 3. "see things from their point of view" - Put yourself in their shoes and try to see things from their point of view. Empathy can go a long way in building bridges. 4. "Apologize if needed" - If you have hurt the person, a sincere apology can be a great first step toward normalizing relations. 5. "Set boundaries" - If their dislike is unfounded or harmful, establish boundaries to protect your well-being. 6. "Focus on positive relationships" -Surround yourself with supportive friends and loved ones who appreciate you. 7. "Self-care matters" - Take care of your mental and emotional well-being through activities that bring you joy and relaxation. 8. "Be patient" - Change takes time, so give space for healing and reconciliation if possible. 9. "you can't control their feelings" - Remember, you can't control how others feel about you, but you can control your reactions and behavior. Prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Follow for more valuable insights on personal growth. If you find this helpful, feel free to repost and share your thoughts in the comments! 🙂 #personalGrowth #shareYourThoughts #relationships #selfimprovement #positivity

It's crucial to address self-doubt, a common issue that affects everyone. Did you know that a staggering 85 percent of people struggle with low self-esteem? This issue can hinder individuals from reaching their peak potential. If self-doubt plagues you, consider these tips to boost your confidence and trust yourself more: First, accept yourself. Embrace self-doubt as a human trait and use it to make better decisions. However, be mindful not to let it overwhelm you and question your abilities. Remember, you're not alone. Even the most successful individuals experience doubts. Focus on building your confidence and self-esteem to prevent doubts from taking over your life. When in doubt, get the facts straight. Research the problem, weigh the pros and cons, and seek a second opinion to gain clarity. Acknowledge your strengths by making a list of your skills and accomplishments. Celebrate your strengths daily and stop dwelling on perceived shortcomings. Lastly, define your values and live by them daily. This will provide a realistic perspective and guide your actions based on your core beliefs. Overcoming self-doubt is a continuous process. Trust your actions, put your plans in motion, and stop questioning your decisions. ---------------------------------------- ♻️ Repost if you like the content 🔔 Follow me if you want to see more 📅 Schedule a free meeting here: https://l.bttr.to/QsoW2 #ConfidenceBuilding #SelfEsteem #PositiveMindset #PersonalGrowth #BelieveInYourself

People With Low Emotional Intelligence Display These 10 Behaviors (Without Realizing It) #Emotional_intelligence (#EI) shapes our interactions, relationships, and well-being. While some people naturally excel in this area, others may struggle without realizing it. This article explores ten behaviors commonly associated with low emotional intelligence, offering insights into how these traits manifest in daily life and their potential impact on personal and #professional #relationships. 1- Struggling With #Stress_Management 2- Lacking #Assertiveness 3- Limited #Emotional Vocabulary 4- Making Hasty Assumptions 5- Holding Onto Grudges 6- Difficulty Recognizing Others’ Emotions 7- Blaming Others For Their Feelings 8- Being Easily Offended 9- Struggling To #Adapt To Change 10- Lacking #Self_Awareness read more here:

↓ "soft on people, hard on issues" — how to approach uncomfortable situations in a kind way for both sides. [Building Sustainable Relationships I Part 2] I saw this phrase on LinkedIn the other day and it made me think of how often we — when on autopilot — get reactive once faced with tension in relationships. One thing that working with people over the last years has taught me is being able to separate: → the person from their behavior patterns, feelings, and unconscious beliefs. Today, let's talk about how to communicate your needs and feelings in a kinder way: — without putting the other person in a position where they'd feel a need to defend themselves — without ignoring issues and your needs The aim is to let go of demands and accusations that tend to build even thicker walls between you two. For that, what’s helpful is sharing: 1️⃣ How the situation makes you feel. "I feel ... when something like this happens" 2️⃣ Why it is important for you. "It is important for me to hear / know / have..." INSTEAD OF → "You always do this", "You never support with that", "You only think of yourself", and a million of other versions of how we've interpreted a situation when being on autopilot. It will take an effort in the beginning to teach your brain responding differently. But the more you practice, the easier it will soon become to build dynamics where you're ON THE SAME TEAM (instead of being against each other). Can you feel the difference? 💡Find the link to a guide for communicating your feelings in the comment section below. 🔜 Next post in this series is about setting boundaries — and why it is very often counterproductive in the long run. Hope it's helpful. Kindest, Alina . #mentalhealth #resilience #personaldevelopment

This morning I learned I’m more of a people pleaser than I thought I was! I joined You Collective and their fantastic ‘People Pleasing Detox’ webinar where we learned all about the psychology and human science behind these types of traits and behaviours. Key takeaways for me; ✅ All of our behaviours, including people pleasing tendencies, start from a place of trying to make ourselves feel safe and able to cope in certain situations. ✅ Common signs of ‘people pleasing’ include seeking approval/validation from others, feeling responsible for how others feel, pretending to agree with others or not feeling able to express your true feelings or opinions, difficulty setting boundaries with others and/or saying no, avoiding conflict and feeling upset if someone doesn’t like us. I hadn’t recognised some of these as people pleasing tendencies. ✅ Root causes include not feeling good enough, feeling inadequate, not liking or approving of parts of ourselves, fear of abandonment, low self efficacy. Root causes often stem from childhood but can also be situationally driven. My PP is often situationally drive . ✅ Science around the core protective nervous system responses has added ‘fawn’ to the flight, fight and freeze responses. All of these are coping mechanisms and we all have all of these responses. However we typically have one or two of these that are our more typical response/s. Fawning is a people pleasing response. ✅ We also touched on Keegan’s Constructive Development model which I found really interesting and helpful. The session made me recognise my tendency to people please in the workplace, particularly when I was younger and lacked experience and confidence. It also made me recognise how my strength of courage has helped me to develop my ability to self advocate and self author. Thank you Zara Bates and Rebecca Christianson (Coach Psych) for sharing your knowledge and expert facilitation. It was great to learn with you today 😊 Apologies for the rubbish picture too - should have taken one at the beginning!