How to Motivate Your Children
Do your chores! Do your homework right after school! And why do I have to say the SAME thing OVER and OVER for you to LISTEN!? These are just a few of the many complaints that we seem to convey over and over to our children. We often wonder, why can't our children just do what they are supposed to do without me having to tell them or why is my child/teen not motivated. In this post, we will define how to successfully motivate our children so that they are willing to comply with house rules and make life easier for the entire family.
To continue, nagging, controlling, scolding, and punishing can be counterproductive for a child to establish motivation, especially with a topic of disinterest. Imagine, you are at work and you hate a certain task that your boss forces you to complete day in and day out. You complete it slowly because you are not motivated to complete the task quickly so your boss nags you and scolds you which makes you not want to complete the task at all. The same concept works for children. Punishing, yelling, and controlling them to complete their math homework which is a dreaded task can be counterproductive for motivating your child further.
1. Praise the Process NOT the Person: Praising the process as mentioned above, focuses on the child's intellectual abilities, individualization, and personal qualities and traits. Praising the person would look like “Wow, You are such a good painter.” Examples of praising the process, not the person would look something like “I saw how hard you worked on your painting and you did a great job painting.”
2. Include your child in decision-making: allowing your child to choose times, activities, or means for completing a task can inspire them to foster individuality, decision-making skills, and creativity which makes tasks more fun to complete.
3. Introduce fun: model behavior such as showing children that learning new tasks, hobbies, and skills can be fun and interesting to do.
4. Make the task worth their while: ever wondered why children ask so many questions, Why specifically? It’s because they want to understand their worth. Children seek value in understanding the importance of a topic or subject and why they should do it. For important tasks help them understand the why and make it worth their while to complete it.
5. Get involved and Be Involved: Being involved in tasks and your children's activities can both challenge and motivate your children to explore and seek out different skills, tasks, and hobbies. Being involved with their activities can help facilitate the drive to complete something
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