Stacey Robins’ Post

I'll never forget this. When I first started coaching almost a decade ago, I charged very little compared to today. And yet... I sometimes felt a tad guilty. I wished I can give it all away for free. Maybe this is too much. I'd question over and over again. Especially because it felt so natural for me to do what I did. Then I had the craziest surprise. One of my first few clients was a C- level executive in a company. He desperately wanted to gain more confidence, make more money & navigate toxicity in the workplace. It was a piece of pie. Why? I believed in him. Within a few months he had gone from a 150k salary to 300k with radical ownership & confidence to boot. (The company wanted this all along- long story.) And that's when I had my first epiphany. It cost him a couple of grand for coaching in the beginning, & then, not only did he more than make back from a financial perspective, but he took the tools for life where he could re-create similar scenarios. Years later he went out on his own very successfully & called to thank me for planting those seeds. I've seen this same phenomenon occur over & over & over again, just now a days instead of 100s of thousands in can be millions in contracts. Or take for example, E. Who just closed out 2023 with 1.6, compared to 1.2 the previous year. That's 400k more. Even if she had spent 100k with me, (which she didn't) it would still be worth it from a financial point of view, let alone, emotional & mental. (For honesty sake, I'm giving you the highlights, there were lots of challenges to navigate in the in between.) But that's exactly the point. We don't always see results right away. It's not a clear cut transactional deal. I actually don't think anyone should start coaching, simply to expect a crazy return because then they're losing out on the growth & who they need to 'become' in order to be the person that can handle all that. You can be sure though, that I no longer question my prices, but rather, everytime a client hits big, I think "shoulda charged more." 😂 I adore my clients. They can take the joke. Have you ever felt that way in the business you're in? 🔶️ Noble Choice Consulting 🔶️ "We streamline, we elevate, we scale, but most of all, we execute." #businesscoaching #businessleadership #fractionalcoo #createyourreality #noblechoiceconsulting

Think a group programme isn't for you? This might change your mind: As an introvert my preference is for 1-on-1 conversations, not big group discussions. So when I needed help to stop my business from failing during the pandemic I was gutted when the coach I wanted to work with only offered group programmes. I was convinced a group wouldn’t work for me. But he said an outright no when I wanted to pay for 1-on-1 coaching. My fear was that I’d struggle to articulate what I needed help with or would be drowned out by louder voices. That I’d feel awkward discussing my challenges with strangers. But I was desperate to work with this coach - I knew he could help my business thrive. So I took a deep breath, handed over the money and joined his programme. It soon became obvious that my fears were unfounded: ⭐️ His coaching got to the heart of the issue in minutes (no need to pay for a private hour) ⭐️ He created a safe space where I could be vulnerable and speak openly ⭐️ Hearing people share similar problems provided a sense of solidarity (+ ideas for tackling my own challenges) Joining that group was one of the best investments I’ve made in my professional development! And I nearly missed out because of a bullsh!t belief about 1-on-1 coaching being the only thing that would work for me. You’d think I’d learn but when my business was ready to scale my old resistance kicked in. This time I told myself ‘introverts won’t join a group’ despite the fact that I’d already joined one! 🙄 So I had a word with myself and created a programme with introvert-friendly group coaching at its core. Rise was born.   Every week in Rise a small group of introverted leaders and managers come together to share their challenges, get coaching and support one other. It’s facilitated in a way that makes it easy to take part. No struggling to jump in. No answering tricky questions on-the-spot. It’s a calm, supportive space for ambitious introverts to explore how to make more impact and move their careers forward - without changing who they are. When I ask Risers how they feel about being in the group they say they enjoy it very much. That it feels supportive, like everyone is on the same team. They appreciate engaging with others who have similar challenges to the ones they’re facing. Often people are surprised by how much they like the group environment! They didn’t think they would. Rise combines the best of both worlds – group coaching and as much private time with me as you need. The programme enables you to feel confident being yourself at work, gain recognition without boasting, and become a credible candidate for promotion. When you join you’ll realise you’re not alone. You’re not the only one who struggles in a work culture built for extraverts. A new group starts this month. I have 5 places left on the programme. If you’d like to know more, send me a DM with the words ‘April group’ and I’ll share details. #CareerCoaching

So, I’m very aware that there’s a bucketload of coaches out there in 2024... 〰️Life Coaches 〰️Mindset Coaches 〰️Empowerment Coaches 〰️Career Coaches 〰️Business Coaches 〰️Leadership Coaches 〰️Executive Coaches 〰️Financial Coaches 〰️Wellness Coaches 〰️Transformational Coaches 〰️Confidence Coaches 〰️Oh and my personal FAVOURITE Performance Coaches! Secondly, I’m also very aware that if one of the coaching schools I studied at saw how I coach these days, they would question if I listened to anything they advised me to do!😆 Let’s just say… Candice Harvey likes to do things “differently”. With a 15-year HR background, and starting my Coaching business in 2018, I know a lot about human behaviour (ie. why people do what they do, but more importantly why people don’t do what they wish they could do). I have coached 100s of people to perform better... ...and I have a unique coaching style, which my Coaching Clients seem to love BECAUSE as a result they start living a life they love! So, what’s it like working with me... 1️⃣ I have a LOT of energy, and will turn your mood around in 30 secs #challengeaccepted. A Candice Harvey Pep up - you got it! A Candice Harvey shake up - you betcha. A Candice Harvey crack up - coming at cha. 2️⃣ I don’t use coaching jargon. I’ve been knee deep in human behaviour for 17 years, so I know all the wanky words and fancy phrases - but I don’t use them. I prefer speaking in a language we all understand - and we can leave the complicated stuff for… the coachy coaches. 3️⃣ I simplify the complicated. I get in your head to unscramble the chaos and lay it out for you in bite size pieces. That’s kinda my superpower. 4️⃣ Interactions with me create exhales for you. Huge insights, realisations, ah-ha moments, and “holy sh&t I never thought of that, Candice!” will pop out of your mouth a lot! 5️⃣ I don’t believe learning more about yourself and digging into what’s not working needs to be so serious - because it’s proven that the more fun you have the more open to new ways of doing things you will be. 6️⃣ I don’t shy away from tough love. You will feel like you’re being slapped in the face from time to time, but you’ll appreciate it (in a weird way) and as a result your next move will be the best one yet! 7️⃣ My clients mean the world to me. The pure fact that someone says YES to themselves and chooses ME to support them through creating and living a life they love… I become your greatest cheerleader who stays in your corner! 8️⃣ Oh and I’m HILARRRRIOUSSSS. Crack ups guaranteed - you should probably write that one down ;) If THIS👆🏼 is the kind of energy and support that you need in your life and business right now - then hey, hi, welcome… you’re in the right place. If you’d like to have a chat with me now - and discuss 1:1 coaching, joining my 8-week online program (PEAK ST8) or have me run a shake-up workshop for your Team - get in touch. Comment below which POINT above is your favourite too - just because👇🏼

The truth is we’re all different. 🥰 Confidence means something different to each of us and what you need to get the level of confidence you desire will be unique to you. 🫶 Alison Ive ❤️ the idea of visualising what you’d do with 40% more confidence. ☀️ Visualisation is a 💪 tool in helping you achieve your goals. 👊👏 #nlp #coaching #insightsdiscovery

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗮💡𝗼𝗳 “𝗯𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸-𝗮𝗻𝗱-𝘄𝗵𝗶𝘁𝗲-𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴” 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗽𝗼𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗱 𝘂𝗽 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗹 𝗼𝗳 𝗺𝘆 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀. 𝗧𝗼 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗮𝗻 𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗮𝘀𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗯𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸-𝗮𝗻𝗱-𝘄𝗵𝗶𝘁𝗲-𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴. 🔍 First of all, what is 🔳black-and-white🔲 thinking? I think it can be understood as a thought process which results in extreme either-or judgements: i.e. good-bad; success-failure, right-wrong. Here are some examples: 🗨   I can stay true to my values, or I can pursue a career and financial success  – I can’t do both! (authenticity <-> career success) 🗨 It would be nice to have a meaningful job, but frankly security and stability are too important to me.” (fulfilment <-> stability) 🗨   If I want to avoid another burnout, I should probably not work at all (employment <-> well-being) 🗨   I really can’t handle my boss’s management style. I need to leave (stay <-> go) The problem with dichotomous thinking is that, in many cases, neither extreme is particularly palatable. We might not appreciate our boss’s management style, but neither do we want to leave a job which in other respects is positive and fulfilling. And that’s why we might end up working with a coach! After all, by definition we aren’t aware of our blind spots and this is precisely why coaching can be so effective. When I work with clients I challenge them to identify black-and-white thinking and seek out the 🌈grey nuances🌈 in between. The grey is where the growth happens, where we confront our fears, stare into the face of life's uncertainties, where we challenge our preconceptions and see ourselves as dynamic, complex characters in our life story. For example, it might suddenly dawn upon us that quitting employment or swapping out of a fast-paced industry isn’t the only way of avoiding a burnout. Instead, we might need to learn how to set boundaries, articulate needs, lean into confrontation. And that process is probably going to be demanding! As Walt Whitman said: "I am large, I contain multitudes" 🔳Black-and-white🔲= either/or 🌈 Grey = a multitude of possibilities If this topic resonates with you, feel free to reach out for a free introductory call or visit my website www.bedoyere-coaching.com! To my coaching colleagues: which questions or tools do you use to help your clients avoid the pitfalls of black-and-white thinking?

You can't always trust your own self-assessment. But which pot are you planted in? When discussing performance with clients, I often find them rooted in one of three pots: 1. The Self-Doubt Pot They downplay their capabilities, credibility, and actual performance. Success surrounds them, evidence of their achievements is abundant, yet their inner critic wins. They succumb to the 'not good enough' narrative, warping their self-perception. Question: What would it take for you to recognise and celebrate your true capabilities? 2. The Dunning-Kruger Pot This is treacherous ground for growth. Clients here overestimate their abilities, firmly believing they're better than reality suggests. It's ego-driven, disconnected from actions, behaviors, or external evidence. Common refrains include: "I'm better than all of them combined." Question: How might seeking feedback from others challenge or validate your self-perception? 3. The Self-Trust Pot Here, clients recognise and believe in their authentic strengths. They voice their abilities with conviction, not arrogance. Their behaviors, external evidence, and internal dialogue align. It’s a feeling in the bones as I like to call it. Question: In what areas of your life do you feel this genuine self-trust, and how did you cultivate it? The aim of coaching? To uproot clients from self-doubt and Dunning-Kruger, transplanting them into self-trust. But first, we must clear the soil of weeds – those limiting beliefs and event-specific traumas. Be honest: You've likely spent time in all three pots. I know I have. Launching Paseda360 less than two years ago, I was firmly in the self-doubt pot. It was a massive risk, disrupting the status quo. I was scared of the ‘opinions’ and potential criticism. Daily doubt management was crucial. Now? I've shifted into the Self-Trust Pot regarding Paseda360. The evidence is clear: trained coaches delivering outstanding results, 5 sold-out Advanced Practitioner courses, Coach Club members renewing, and our Master Diploma filling all 12 spots from our small pool of trained advanced coaches. I'm aligning what I see and hear with belief in myself. And Dunning-Kruger? That was my home in my late 20s and 30s. Cringe-worthy in retrospect. Our thinking easily distorts; it's hardwired: - Spot threats - Focus on flaws - Prioritise safety - Avoid rejection Question: How often do you catch yourself falling into these thinking traps? To firmly root yourself in the Self-Trust pot, you must do the work. It's not about blind confidence, but earned self-assurance. Final question: What's one step you can take today to nurture your growth in the Self-Trust pot? If you’d like help with that.. it might be time for my Breakthrough Programme. Drop me a line. Much love, Angela P.S. I asked DALL-E to create an image of 3 pots with a human planted in each one. Oh what I had. This was the best of the bunch. The others were hilarious!

A good question is gold dust - here's why...  As a coach, a lot of my work comes down to listening to clients and encouraging them to reflect on their situations, empowering them to work through obstacles and limiting beliefs, but equally how they can achieve their goals and ambitions. Listening and asking questions. Sounds straightforward enough, yet gets overlooked by many in favour of ‘I think...’ statements, particularly in the workplace. Tone and delivery play a part in delivering a good question, for sure. You don’t want to come off sounding snarky or accusatory.    And the benefits? - It builds confidence for individuals and teams alike.  - It increases trust and an environment of psychological safety.  - And heck, it’s a great learning opportunity too!    DM me if you’re curious or just want to ask what makes a good question, I’ll share 3 examples you can use in your day-to day.    In the meantime, here’s some great client testimonials and feedback on the power of questions:   "Honestly, it's been a big game-changer for me to see how a lot of coaching comes down to asking really good questions, rather than doling out really good answers.”   ------------------ “I've been asked questions that I wouldn't have otherwise asked myself. I've been asked questions that I didn't have answers to, and ones that I didn't have good answers to.” -------------------- “It's something that I always try to incorporate into my days immediately after a coaching session: how can I respond with a question rather than react with whatever I think is the answer.” --------------------- “It's such a powerful tool that is good for personal relationships, work relationships and all sorts of situations.” ---------------------- “It gets people to think harder and it forces you to think harder. And being able to ask good questions has such a huge impact on the people around you." __________________________ I'm a CMO turned Coach: I help mid-career creatives, strategists an marketers improve their work/life balance with leadership programs rooted in #kindness. Curious to learn more? Let's start with an Intro Call, the link is in the comments 👇

It's incredibly fulfilling to witness the growth journey of one of my earliest coaching clients as she has transformed from a coachee into an empowering coach. Colleta's courage and resilience in stepping into the unknown are inspiring. A few lessons stood out for me as I read her reflection - below. 🌟 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬: When I was coaching her, I was still learning the ropes myself. However, I trusted in the process. It worked then and continues to work now. Sometimes, you have to just trust in the journey, even when the path ahead seems uncertain. 🌟 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡𝐬: Colleta's story is a testament to the power of embracing your strengths and exploring new paths. By recognizing and leveraging her strengths, she paved her own course and is now creating meaningful impact as a coach. 🌟 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟: Stepping out of your comfort zone is not just a cliché; it's a catalyst for growth. Colleta's willingness to challenge herself and embrace new levels of growth have been key to her transformation into an empowering coach. To all aspiring coaches and leaders reading this, remember that 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑤𝑡ℎ 𝑜𝑓𝑡𝑒𝑛 𝑏𝑒𝑔𝑖𝑛𝑠 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑔𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑡𝑜 𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓. So, don't be afraid to step out and up—because that's where you'll find the opportunity to soar to new heights! #CoachingJourney #EmbracingStrengths #StepOutOfComfortZone

Confused and burned out with your coaching business? Try this👇 Recently, I worked 1-on-1 with a client who was confused and feeling really burned out. Her business had stalled (as have many coaching businesses at the moment) and she had responded by putting out a barrage of offers that were all over the place and not aimed at a clear avatar. Frenzied thinking typically compounds confusion instead of resolving it. This is an especially tough lesson to learn for someone whose past success depended on a bias for action. But sometimes taking a pause and zooming out is a more effective way. Here's HOW to zoom out: 1. Return to strength: 💪 It's so easy to get sucked into all the things that are wrong or that didn't work. Instead, look for evidence of your skills. Find your unfair advantages and draw strength and courage from them. If you want a deeply guided process for doing this, Module 1 of The Rapid Buyers Method walks you through it. 2. Dial in your early adopters: 🙋♀️ I'm sure you've done a million ICP exercises, but this one is different. It helps you identify your ICP at a very specific moment where her skills, experiences and social cues have lined up to make her especially ready to PURCHASE. Dial this in and you won't need to "convince" anyone. They'll gladly convince themselves and thank you for it. I dig into this in Module 4. 3. Finally, you want to identify a clear objective or outcome that your Early Adopter wants. 🕺 Identify the: ✅ Outcome ✅ Timeframe ✅ What she doesn't have to do (that she hates) or give up (that she loves) Stop trying to be ALL the things. Dial it in and make it focused and manageable. This makes it easier to sell, easier to buy and easier to deliver. This is how I help clients get to $30K/m consistently working just 12-15 hours per week. That client I told you about? She just closed three $5K clients by selling her Early Adopters EXACTLY what they wanted (and nothing more). 🤦♀️ I know what it's like to overcomplicate things. One of the gifts of my chronic fatigue journey is that I had to teach myself to be SUPER focused and intentional. 🤝 Your turn: Name one of your unfair advantages. What do you do brilliantly that's FUN for you that most people either suck at or don't want to do. Tell me in the comments 👇

Have you ever been surprised by another person’s perception of you?   There are certain things about ourselves that we are blind to, but that are obvious to others.   When those things are negative or unpleasant, it can be unnerving to us when we become aware of them, and to think that others knew all along 😭   Unnerving as it might be, it’s liberating to become aware of our blind spots; would you rather someone points out that you have spinach in your teeth, or would you rather walk around with it, only to realize hours later that you’ve been speaking, smiling and laughing out loud with one green tooth?   But when it’s a positive blind spot – for example, a trait or a strength we possess but have never quite realized it, it can come as a pleasant surprise and a confidence booster   I have had blind spots brought to my attention – both negative and positive, but let me focus on one positive one   Sometime in the year 2014, someone said I was a risk-taker   That came as a surprise to me   To the best of my knowledge before that conversation, I was the most risk-averse person I knew   She went on to recount a number of leaps I had taken, which according to her were risky – and one of those risks was leaving my job to venture into coaching   At the time I had:   -No established reputation as a coach -Was operating out of the family living room or under a tree in the front yard if the living room was occupied -A modest network -Limited resources -Few people knew what coaching was then On the last point, a couple of people had sat me down to ask if I was seriously considering going into coaching; ‘how many people know what coaching is?’ they asked. ‘Actually, not many’, I would say. ‘And that’s why I need to spread the awareness of the transformative power of coaching.’ When I was taking the leap, I did not think of what I didn’t have, But I went in with the strengths I knew I had, following a #coaching engagement with my first coach, Joyce Kaduki, DTM. Thanks, coach Joyce! With the help of my coach, I was able to see where those strengths intersected with the needs in my space, And there began my journey of helping professionals solve their #careerdilemmas If you are not equipped for a task, it may seem daunting, and the risk of failure is higher But here is the thing – we are all equipped – some of us just don’t know it Our blind spots can keep us from taking a leap What leaps and risks would you be taking if you knew you had the strengths to? Set yourself up to #soar by becoming self-aware If your career has hit a #plateau, something needs to change What will it be? #transformativejourney #powerofcoaching