For centuries, strict social norms dictated what people could politely talk about. Now we have to figure it out for ourselves. (From 2022)
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Deputy Director @ Government of Canada | Specializing in Anti-racism, Conflict Resolution, DEIB, GBA Plus
Imagine how much better the public service could be if we had leaders who actually supported their team members rather than just maintaining the status quo. Imagine how much more inclusive things would be if the leadership team tasked with advancing diversity and inclusion in the public service actually did the work rather than putting in place distractions and hindering deeply needed change. Imagine if instead of only talking about mental health in the workplace once a year, we had leaders who did not engage in behaviours that undermine mental health. Imagine what could be if we had more courageous leaders, leaders who pushed back against hate and extremism, leaders who actually respected people and respected democratic values. 👇🏾
As public servants, we are encouraged to "speak truth to power." But why do so many choose to remain silent? Perhaps a better question: what happens when people choose not to remain silent? In my experience, that can mean your mental health and commitment to values and ethics being questioned and weaponized, and being labeled an activist (which can be a detrimental label in the public service). In August 2023, the Secretariat I managed at TBS received an email from a representative of the National Security and Intelligence Committee of Parliamentarians questioning the use of gender as an identity marker in the modernized Self-Identification Questionnaire - an initiative marred by delays due to high executive turnover, toxic work environment, resistance to change, and apparently being somehow too "woke." The NSICOP representative substantiated their argument with malinformation (info that stems from the truth but is often exaggerated in a way that misleads and causes potential harm) and disinformation (info that is intended to manipulate, cause damage, or guide people, organizations, and countries in the wrong direction). Source: https://lnkd.in/eE8hKC_u. I emailed my chain of command to ask how we intended to address the gender malinformation/disinformation. Silence. I raised that the email had a negative impact on colleagues. Lack of concern. My manager said they would meet the representative privately, off-site, at the latter's request. When I asked for a transparent account of the conversation, as was agreed, information was withheld and was told to let it go. Unconvinced, I decided to raise my concerns with the rep directly. I was quickly called into a disciplinary meeting in which I was labeled as mentally unstable, and that my personal values/interests conflicted with my role. I was voluntold to take two days off for my mental wellbeing despite my insistence that I was well, and that my values are congruent with that of the public service. When I returned the next week, I was told that I could no longer be in the role of Manager of Stakeholder Relations and policy lead despite excellent performance reviews. Previous conversations about my career mobility and desire for change were mischaracterized - part of broader gaslighting, and increased micromanagement/monitoring of my actions and words. To see how Labour Relations and people who pretended to care engaged in gymnastics and lies to paint me as a mentally unstable and unethical employee (last few pages), including by apparently monitoring my outside activities, is disturbing. This follows having to defend that I am not an activist simply because I advocate for human rights, reiterating that I was mentally well, and that my values are aligned with those of the Government of Canada (i.e., Respect for People, Respect for Democracy). I was fearful then. I'm not fearful anymore.
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Conference Interpreter English > French | English >French, Arabic Translator | Language neutral Interpreter Trainer | Boren Award recipient - EHLS Scholar 2015
I am - and have always been - weary of this "imposter syndrome", being too much and too often associated with interpreters and translators. Although the 3rd point applies to some of us due to "perfectionism" and "never-satisfied-ism" tendencies, the two other points (fear of exposition, and a reverse sense of amplifying mirror), are feelings that are more likely to stem from personality traits, upbringing, and life/work experiences than from the type of job we do or field of education we pursue. But this general sentiment (or if we want to go all Nietzschean, ressentiment) among translators and interpreters must have a logical explanation. In my sense, this can be explained with: 1) The loose ends of qualifying requirements for "working as" a translator or interpreter. 2) The lack of interpreters/translators' involvement with regulating bodies (when those are even available). 3) The fact that membership in existing (and accessible) regulating bodies, were they national or international, is not a prerequisite to work in the field. 4) The little attention paid to the history of interpretation and translation in interpreting and translation curricula (yes, if interpreters and translators knew that our professional ancestors were the triggers of every civilizational shift in human history, they might feel better about the value of the services they provide) Finally, I cannot close this without getting out of my chest the ever-present "thou shall not" phrase plastered onto nearly every single paragraph of a translation/interpretation contract! This is enough to plant a seed of doubt in anyone’s mind at some point or another in their career. Such phrases will only become unaffecting when interpreters and translators are educated in every aspect of their roles: Knowing what is expected of them ahead of tackling the job will diminish the annoying and restrictive effect of redundant (and quite annoying in my opinion) phrases such “invisibility”, “non-disclosure”, and “active/passive participation” in events and projects. Always keep in my mind the idea that interpreters and translators are the strong link in international and intercultural communications. Not even AI can bring the value we bring to humanity’s business.
Almost every interpreter I know has, at one point or another, suffered from Imposter Syndrome. Some suffer from it much more than others, but there is no doubt that it is a very present phenomenon in our profession. According to the experts, Imposter syndrome is characterized by three main elements: 1. Thinking that people have an exaggerated view of your abilities; 2. The fear of being exposed as a fraud; 3. The continuous tendency to downplay your achievements. I have given a lot of thought to Imposter syndrome and why it is so prevelant in our profession and have come up with a few possible explanations, some of which are characteristic of our working environments and others, more related to specific personality types. I’d be interested to know your thoughts and will share some of these ideas in the thread.
You’re Not an Imposter. You’re Actually Pretty Amazing.
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Men have traditionally held more power, but many in the legal profession now struggle at work and beyond. They often feel unhappy, stressed, and unsure about navigating today's diversity, equity, and inclusion conversations. Socialized to be stoic and competitive, men may find it confusing to embrace compassion and equity. The focus on privilege can add stress and shame, particularly for older men who struggle to connect with younger colleagues expecting emotional expressivity and egalitarianism. Additionally, many male attorneys find it hard to bond with their families due to long work hours and difficulty shifting from an adversarial mindset to an affectionate one at home. 𝗦𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂? 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗷𝗼𝗶𝗻 𝗜𝗜𝗟𝗣 𝗼𝗻 𝗦𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝟭𝟬 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮 𝗡𝗘𝗪 𝗖𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗦𝗘 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗶𝗲𝗿, 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗲𝗿, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿, 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝗰𝗹𝘂𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿. The three-month virtual course by IILP, Changing Up the “Man Rules” in the Law”, expands on a successful pilot project, exploring the way a conventional, “confined” version of manhood contributes to a hyper-masculine legal profession–one that looks down on vulnerability, lionizes rugged individualism, and promotes excessive aggression. The course helps men develop a “liberating” masculinity that frees them and everyone around them to thrive at work and beyond. 𝙁𝙖𝙘𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙨: Ed Frauenheim: co-author of the book Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection Ellen Ostrow: Ph.D., PCC, CMC, Founding Principal of Lawyers Life Coach LLC For course details, registration, benefits, facilitator details and pilot project participant feedback visit - https://lnkd.in/grY4E2E2 #ReinventingMasculinity #EmotionalWellbeing #WorkLifeBalance #InclusiveLeadership #LawyersLife
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Creating a regular habit of enquiring about someone's wellbeing enables you to establish proactive and preventative measures. Once normalized, the act of checking in will come to be extended into your social network and will enable you to pick up on signs of a struggle early. There are huge benefits to checking in with others! Checking in at the right time can really help people to overcome challenges. Check ins allow you to connect with others and can strengthen relationships over time. Checking in can help you to open up and become more articulate about your life. How do you check in on someone without being annoying? Instead of asking, “How are you holding up?” Say, “Thinking of you and hoping you're doing OK. No need to reply.” And don't expect to receive a prompt response in return. Taking away the burden of having to respond can relieve some pressure for your friend. Then, when they are ready, they can text you back. #keepingintouch #connect #communicate #inclusion Reposted from - The Emotional Intelligence Network - Middle East
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Being a girl is such an unsafe thing in itself. Be it a public place, a school, college, around your friends or your colleagues. Nowhere, you'd find the safest place that you can trust and live tension free at. Let's talk about our workplace, the maximum time where we spend our life. There will always be times when you'd feel uncomfortable by someone's words, actions and judgemental opinions. But since there is no one you can speak to or no one to trust, the situation remains unsolved and unheard. The question is why is a girl unsafe more: - nobody ever asks her if someone is bothering her - nobody believes her that if she is going through some mental torcher at workplace - nobody asks her, but everyone believes the other person who says that she is a bitch or that she is not nice or objectifies her or describes her (the clear hint to catch a persons intention is that they describe her, yet we fail and ignore to trust the words) - The problem is that even females don't even support other females who are victims in a situation - actually the actual problem is that nobody cares We all just want our girls to be safe, but are we keeping those girls safe who are not ours. Workplace these days have turned out to be a place where people don't want anyone to grow respectfully. If she's reaching heights and I'm not then I must spread falsified information so that the diversion of attention goes towards her but in a bad manner. Why can't we give equal treatment to all the girls out there who are working beyond their limits and going through all the pain all by herself. We all want that she should sit by our side but not stand equally shoulder to shoulder. Ask your ladies are they safe working with you. Trust them when they say someone is bothering them. Trust them and their intuitions. Because all we need is an ear to listen and act on time. No one would say they are unsafe when they are not, they would only say they are unsafe when they actually are. Someone is pulling them down everytime she thinks of flying. Maybe there's not a single person but a whole lot of people who want the same. “We need the right women at all levels, including the top, to change the dynamic, reshape the conversation, to make sure women’s voices are heard and heeded, not overlooked and ignored.” The right persons are at the wrongs places and the wrongs persons are definitely ruling and destroying the overall culture and also a lot many people's life. #toxic #culture #safety #women #misogyny
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What do you do if you see someone being harassed, attacked or abused in public? I can think of some times when I didn’t step up, and I have always felt ashamed about that. There was also an incident when I tried to intervene but was really ineffective. But I’ve also managed to stop a neighbour beating up his girlfriend, and helped a woman escape from her dad who was trying to strangle her in his home next to mine. I’ve put calls into the police a few times. My wife and I also went to the rescue of a young woman who’d been stabbed in a car in St Kilda, and our actions enabled the police to quickly catch and prosecute the perpetrator. (The victim survived thanks to her own quick actions in escaping the car and screaming for help). When I come to think of it, I’ve done a lot over the last 40 years. But still not enough. Most of us really don’t know what to do. But there is advice to help us, and the PTV (Public Transport Victoria) say they’re soon going to provide Active Bystander Training for us! I really hope so - Sign up to the PTV newsletter to stay updated on this, and read the 6 steps to being an Active Bystander. You may save someone’s life, just by being there, stepping up and breaking the perpetrator’s attention. Maybe ask your workplace to run some training on this. More resources in the comments, including Workplace Ethical Bystander Training. Stay safe, but help others to be safe.
How to be an Active Bystander in 6 steps
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⚡️DIE HAPPY! | Curious? | Check out my 'About' section to see how I help midlife professionals shift from 'it’s too late' to 'I'm going to die happy.' | Speaker
I experienced sexual harassment at work in my twenties. When I reported it, instead of the perpetrator being held accountable, I was transferred to another department. Despite my desire to defend my case, my pleas went unheard. I was told I was exaggerating and that I was « too sensitive. » Reflecting on that time, I realize that greater self-confidence, born from self-awareness, and following my heart based on my values, might have empowered me to push harder to get this individual removed. However, fear of losing my job held me back. This incident affected my self-confidence both personally and professionally for many years. Even though I am a strong, independent woman, I let societal pressures to ´not ruffle any feathers’ or ´stop playing the victim’ hinder me from speaking out. Today, I would kick the door down and step over anyone trying to stop me from ensuring justice. ➡️ This experience underscores the importance of teaching self-awareness in schools. Younger individuals must learn to understand and trust their inner strength, enabling them to defend themselves with confidence. And mature people too. We often ignore our intuition because we're afraid of not fitting in. The need to conform can drown out our inner voice, steering us away from what feels right. Trusting our intuition, despite social pressures, leads to more authentic and fulfilling choices. 💪My passion is to help people trust their heart and cultivate self-awareness so they can move forward in life with confidence and certainty. Self-awareness isn’t just about personal growth; it’s a crucial tool for standing up for our rights and creating a safe, respectful workplace for all. ➡️ If you like my content, follow me, repost, 🔔 ring my bell, or better yet, LET’s CONNECT and get to know each other. #SelfAwareness #Confidence #WorkplaceSafety #SexualAssault #PersonalGrowth #Empowerment
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Eyerolls, ughs, irritation and anger - moral progress and social change can involve working through a tricky range of emotional reactions (but it's worth it?): https://lnkd.in/e-MddziU
Why does moral progress feel preachy and annoying? | Aeon Essays
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TEDx Speaker | I help organisations create mentally healthy, happy workforces for racialised employees | former founder at Frontline Therapist | Trustee and NED
We Are Not BAME In a world that often seeks to categorise and simplify, we must stand firm in our individuality. The term 'BAME' (Black, Asian, and Minority Ethnic) has long been a contentious acronym, purporting to represent vast swathes of humanity under a single, reductive label. Let's be clear: We are not a monolith. 🔹 BAME is not an identity - it's an erasure. 🔹 Our experiences are diverse, our cultures rich, our histories unique. 🔹 We refuse to be defined in relation to whiteness. The Global Ethnic Majority, a term coined by Rosemary Campbell-Stephens (We/Us) recognises our collective power without stripping away our individual narratives. But even this falls short of fully embracing our distinct ethnic and cultural uniqueness. At Happiworkers, we believe in the power of being seen, heard, and valued for who you truly are. Our anti-racist mental health support goes beyond traditional DEI programs: ✅ Tailored, culturally attuned care ✅ Accessibility for companies of all sizes ✅ Qualified professionals who understand the nuances of identity ✅ A safe space for open, confidential discussions We're not just filling a gap - we're transforming the landscape of workplace mental health support. It's time to move beyond acronyms and embrace the full spectrum of human identity. Let's create workplaces where every individual's story is recognised, respected, and celebrated. Are you ready to join us in this revolution of recognition? #DiversityAndInclusion #MentalHealthAtWork #AntiRacism #IdentityMatters #Happiworkers
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WHY DO SOME WOMEN NOT TRUST SOME MEN❓️ 🤷There are a few reasons : Why some women may not trust some men, including: 👉Negative experiences Past experiences of being let down or betrayed by people they trusted can make it difficult to believe in others. 👉Learned beliefs If someone grew up in an environment where they were taught that men can't be trusted, they may continue to hold that belief as an adult. 👉Violence Women may experience violence in their day-to-day lives, whether it's outright or subtle. 🌈Here are some tips for men to build trust with women:✌️😊💫 1️⃣Be honest and transparent 2️⃣Keep your promises 3️⃣Respect boundaries 4️⃣Communicate openly 5️⃣Be accountable for your actions 6️⃣Be consistent and reliable 7️⃣Be patient and understanding What is respect in everyday life❓️ 🙏Being respected by important people in our lives growing up teaches us how to be respectful toward others. 🙏Respect means that you accept somebody for who they are, even when they're different from you or you don't agree with them. 🙏Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and well-being.
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