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This October, join us in standing up for a safer, braver world during Domestic  Violence Awareness Month (DVAM)—a crucial time for us all to raise awareness, educate our communities, and promote resources aimed at ending domestic violence. Domestic violence impacts millions of lives every year, leaving physical, emotional, and psychological scars. At Safe At Home, we believe that by fostering safer, braver spaces, we can break this cycle and offer hope, healing, and strength to those in need. In our latest blog post, we’re sharing essential tools and resources to support communities, inside and outside the classroom, in making a meaningful difference. Learn about the different types of abuse, how to recognize the signs, and what healthy relationships should look like. Whether you're seeking support for yourself or looking to help others, these insights will empower you to foster safer communities. Together, we can make a difference this October. https://lnkd.in/gVT4YtW2

📚Every month we release a free chapter from one of our bestselling publications. For August, we are sharing Chapter 3 from 'Caring for children who have experienced domestic abuse'. This chapter explores the impact of domestic violence and abuse on children under 5 years. https://ow.ly/lVaC50SRSW7

IN2 Engineering's Commitment to Ending Domestic Abuse This month, IN2 is proud to announce our partnership with Women's Aid to address the critical issue of domestic abuse with two of our team undertaking Domestic Abuse Awareness Training and the development of our Domestic Abuse Policy. At IN2, we believe it is essential to bring this conversation into the workplace, as domestic abuse impacts countless individuals, including our colleagues, friends, and family members. By fostering an open dialogue, we can create a supportive environment where survivors feel safe and empowered to seek help. Domestic abuse is not just a personal or female-only issue; it is a societal one that permeates all aspects of life, including work. Acknowledging its presence and effects in our professional spaces is a vital step in offering comprehensive support to those affected. IN2 is also hosting an internal seminar to provide valuable insights to colleagues on how to recognise signs of domestic abuse,  offering support, and understanding the resources available. For Women’s Aid: https://bit.ly/3T12MGP For Men’s Aid: https://bit.ly/46CQGZH

When we fail to acknowledge domestic violence perpetrators as parents, we overlook the danger, vulnerability, trauma, and harm that they pose to their children and families. Such a failure to recognize the parental role of these individuals could lead to a failure to understand the myriad ways in which their choices impact the stability, safety, well-being, and permanency of their children. This, in turn, leads to victim-blaming adult domestic violence survivors, especially in gender biased systems, rather than holding the perpetrator responsible for their behavioral choices. Only by acknowledging the many pathways to harm that domestically violent & abusive parents create through their behaviours and choices can we truly create safety for children. #multiplepathwaystoharm #domesticabuse #childwellbeing #childsafety #perpetratorsareparents #childabuse https://lnkd.in/eGTET8SF

Anyone read this book yet? Thoughts? Here’s a snippet from the author: Teaching child protection workers and others who focus on kids about why survivors struggle to leave abusive relationships can backfire. I've heard workers say, "If she can't keep herself safe, how can she keep the kids safe?" Empathy training doesn't always work. In my book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Mothers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence," I talk about the limits of empathy for domestic violence survivors and introduce the strength-based approach.

The National Resource Center: Workplaces Respond to Domestic & Sexual Violence (Workplaces Respond) is pleased to share with you this 2024 Stalking Awareness Month (StAM) Toolkit. Using the Four Rs of Trauma Responsiveness, the toolkit guides the users through realizing the prevalence of stalking, recognizing stalking behaviors, responding with compassion and providing resources, and resisting (re)traumatization through educating oneself and others. Please consider sharing this toolkit with your networks. https://lnkd.in/e3aS_583

👨⚖️ Balancing Justice & Compassion ⚖️ As a judge, navigating the fine line between justice and empathy is tough. We're entrusted to make tough calls on young offenders, but it's crucial to consider the factors at play. 🤔 #JusticeForAll #BalancingAct #JudicialDilemma 💔👦👩⚖️ We need to address trauma, and dysfunction, and support parents facing adversity. Let's work together for a brighter future. 🌟 #ChangeStartsHere #CompassionInCourt #ParentingChallenges 👨👩👧👦💪

I grew up in a religious Institution. Intentionally institutionalized & separated from my family in the name of religion. I was physically, sexually, emotionally, culturally & spiritually abused in that Institution. My perspective may be different than yours. If you were trained as an Institutional leader, as a large system professional, if you are a person who was not raised in an institution, my perspective is certainly different than yours. Hearing criticism as a professional, doing your best in imperfect systems, is hard. It can trigger control, a desire to punish & silence, tone police, it can trigger violence & shut down. Being able to hear & respect the perspectives of those who have survived Institutional 'care' is important to the safety of those who are most prone to being institutionalized in our systems of 'care'. Being able to hear criticism without self defense & re-harm is vital to reforming the policies & practices of those institutions & practices which harm us. As a survivor I do not need to assume your institution is domestic abuse informed, trauma informed, culturally informed. You need to prove that to survivors through your practices, attitudes & behaviors. As a survivor I do not need to assume that as a professional you are domestic abuse informed, trauma informed or culturally competent. You need to show that through your behaviors, policies & practices. At the heart of Partnering is not re-harming survivors for their criticisms of the institutions & professional attitudes, practices, policies which are harming us & increasing danger & vulnerability. If you want to learn how to Partner with Survivors consider taking this low cost course!

Coercive control is dangerously increasing in the family court system, yet the impact on children is being overlooked. Children raised in a coercive environment come out with long-lasting scars, constantly live a life of fear, and lack safety to thrive. We have only begun to scratch the surface on this detrimental issue. Read more here...#coercivecontrol #familycourt #psychologicalanalysis #childreninthemiddle

I am so looking forward to facilitating this training on 'Trauma-Informed & Restorative Justice Approaches to Sexual Harm' with The Connecticut Women's Consortium! My puppy and I share more about the training below! This will be a virtual training and anyone is welcome to register. Program includes: -My story of restorative justice after sexual harm -Distinctions between restorative vs. punitive approaches -Addressing myths and FAQ's about restorative justice. Ie. is it too soft on crime? What about public safety? Do survivors really want this? -Trauma-informed practices to support survivors; including nervous system regulation from a somatic lens, survivor-centred approaches, safeguarding triggers, needs-based communication and diversifying restorative justice Register here: https://lnkd.in/gH_Z7RHs Learn more about my keynotes, workshop and training: https://lnkd.in/g3Zu_teA Book a 1-1 consultation call with me to meet, learn about each other's work and explore pathways for collaboration: https://lnkd.in/guEUe_-i