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Do you need to put your Big Girls Pants On? A while back, I was gifted a badge that read "Big Girl Pants On" by a client who was nothing short of fabulous and with a great sense of humour. She came to coaching during a pivotal transition in her life, aiming to master the art of setting boundaries with both confidence and grace. Like many high achievers, she thrived on being a "doer" and had a heart set on helping others. Yet, this very strength was leading her towards burnout and mounting frustration with those around her. Our turning point came during a heartfelt session where she expressed her hesitation to confront an issue with someone she cared about. With a burst of spontaneous courage, she declared, "I just have to put my Big Girls Pants On and do it!" We laughed so much that I jokingly suggested she wear a badge as a constant reminder to embrace her resolution. Imagine my surprise when a badge bearing those exact words arrived in my mailbox a few days later! I love wearing it because it reminds me of her and the need to lean into fierce self-compassion when doing hard things. The essence of fierce self-compassion can be distilled into a single, powerful question: "How can I motivate myself with encouragement rather than fear or harsh criticism?" Encouragement is the key. It's not just about being brave but being kind to ourselves in the process. What's your favourite motivational saying? PS. Did you know that our philosophy for difficult conversations involves learning to stay open while caring for ourselves?

Great insight, but I think that we all do what we think is the most impactful, most important, and perhaps the most long-lasting....at that point in time, and per our personal criteria. Maybe not someone else's criteria (i.e. our partner, our boss, or our friend,/family) but it's what we think it should be. When we look back, we may not have the same conclusion, but that is just because hindsight is 20:20. Even when we "waste time", we probably justify it as "chillin'"...and that's ok. Unfortunately, there is only one "optimum" but several "sub-optimum" scenarios. Hopefully we pick an impactful and important option. No one has a personal algorithm that tells them exactly what is the "most" and/or how to always play it out exactly as planned. We work towards what is the best...at that point in time and with the resources we have available. Play the life cards as best you can, with what was dealt. 😊

 "No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted." - Aesop This week’s Core4 action is: Create a tone of friendliness and warmth. Creating a tone of friendliness and warmth means greeting everyone with a smile and positive attitude, actively listening to needs and concerns, and showing empathy and understanding. Maintain a welcoming and inclusive environment by using positive language and tone in all communications. Here are five ways YOU can create a tone of friendliness and warmth: - Greet your teammates - Offer help without being asked - Practice active listening - Show appreciation - Take time for casual check-ins How do you create a tone of friendliness and warmth?

🚪 Kindness ≠ Doormat Status 🚪 Having good manners doesn't make you a doormat. It means you're kind and inclusive. 💫 🤝 Dealing with Disrespect: Unless someone is intentionally rude to you, always lead with kindness. If you feel disrespected, it's okay to step away. But if you're forced to address the situation, do so with confidence. Being polite doesn't mean letting others walk all over you. 🚶♂️ Let's navigate with kindness and confidence! 💪#PoisedProper #KindnessMatters #ConfidenceIsKey #Etiquette101 🌟🌼 Ready to refine your etiquette skills? Check out our upcoming classes at www.poisedproper.com! 🎓✨

I Miss you, Come soon if teacher's day celebration is over. I thought we would ------ These are the words of my clients wife. Amar Frustratedly called me (Name changed due to privacy issue). "My wife doesn't understand me". When we talked further I understood what his problem was. Here's what I discovered 5 Reasons Why When a Wife Says 'I Miss You' – It's Not About *** 🛑 Emotional Connection – She craves a deeper emotional bond through shared moments like holding hands, hugging, or talking. 🛑 Quality Time – She values spending undistracted time with you, enjoying a walk in the park or a simple long drive together. 🛑 Physical Affection – A warm embrace or cuddle creates a sense of security and love, without any physical expectations. 🛑 Shared Experiences – Small, meaningful moments like a dinner together or watching a sunset matter more than grand gestures. 🛑 Presence Over Passion – It's about feeling close, both mentally and physically, by simply being present in each other’s company. If you also want some clarification on this type of issues bhumika@helpy.life #Teachersday #relationshipissue #imissyou #misunderstanding

January 2, 2024 was World Introvert Day! The misconception is someone who prefers introversion will never be the center of attention, life of the party, on stage or on a table. That's far from the truth. Introversion and shy are not synonymous. Check out the link below for the Myers-Briggs Company's infographic on Introversion. Oh! If you want to know more about your preference, let's talk. https://lnkd.in/gs_ENAMw

It is our job to help other people get to know us and share tidbits of our lives. We hope someone will ask, but often that doesn’t happen and then we might become resentful that no one seems interested in us. There is an art to giving some breadcrumbs of info about you without oversharing or overshadowing the conversation. Trust yourself to know what to share and when. Here are some prompts to get you thinking: -What is something most people don’t know about me? -What have I done or who have I met that is uncommon? -If you really knew me, you would know… -If you really really knew me, you would know… If you feel safe with someone, let them in a bit more. Share a little more about who you are and how you feel. We need each other more than ever, let people know you. 

WANT TO GET RID OF STAGE FRIGHT IN A DAY? “JOIN THIS SESSION!!” While we might see a ton of such posts floating on the internet, getting rid of stage fright in a day never really happens, (until you have super powers obviously) one needs to practice persistence. While many see this as a problem, i decided to share my journey of overcoming stage fright. 🎤 Overcoming stage fright has been a journey of growth and learning for me. If you'd told my 15-year-old self I'd confidently speak on stage to a room full of strangers, I wouldn't have believed it. Starting out, I stumbled quite a bit, and to be honest i still do sometimes, the learning is continuous. But every stumble is a step forward. Reflecting on my journey, here are some practices that helps me conquer stage fear and speak confidently: 1️⃣ Embracing the camera: 📸 Creating content helped me get comfortable with being seen and heard. 2️⃣ Speaking out loud:🗣️ Practicing aloud while imagining I'm talking to an audience boosted my confidence. 3️⃣ Building my vocabulary:📚 Learning new words helped me express myself better and feel more prepared. 4️⃣ Speaking first in group discussions:🌟 Initiating responses in group settings helped me overcome hesitation and contribute more confidently. 5️⃣ Focusing on impact:💡 Realizing people remember what you say, not small mistakes, encouraged me to speak up. 🚀 These practices continue to help me grow. Let's connect and share stories of overcoming challenges and personal growth! PS: Let’s make LinkedIn a place that not only shows our achievements but also the path to it. :)

Beyond "Good Job": Show Your Kids You Love Them for Who They Are! Hey parents, let's talk about something crucial: the power of unconditional love and praise. We often default to "good job" after an accomplishment, but what if there's a more meaningful way to connect with our kids? In this video, we'll explore why "good job" might not be enough, and offer ways to show your child you love them for who they truly are. Here's what we'll cover: The Impact of Unconditional Love: Supporting your child through struggles builds a strong foundation. Moving Beyond "Good Job": Specific and descriptive praise that celebrates their efforts. Open Communication is Key: Creating a safe space where your child feels comfortable talking to you about anything. Life throws curveballs, and we can't always shield our kids from the struggle. But by showing unwavering love and keeping the lines of communication open, you build an unshakeable bond. This video is your guide to fostering a connection with your child that goes beyond achievements. Let them know they're loved and supported, no matter what. Leave a comment below and share a way you show your child unconditional love! #ParentingTips #LoveYourKids #Communication