Your mentorship matters! No matter how unique, weird, unsuccessful, or bent out of shape you think your path has been. This weekend was Homecoming for Southern Virginia University. One of the events I attended was a networking meet and greet for alumni and current seniors (great job organizing and hosting, Joanna Porter and Jessica Whipple!). In chatting with alums about getting involved in mentoring students, I heard multiple times that they weren't sure what they could offer. There seemed to be uncertainty about worthiness to be a mentor, for many reasons: They didn't use their degree quite how they'd originally intended or in a way that might be seen as a "typical" career path. They're a stay-at-home parent right now. They aren't successful or special enough. Any success they HAVE stumbled into is just that - a happy accident, not a replicable process they could recommend others follow. They feel the institution has changed and grown enough that their experiences wouldn't feel relevant to current students anymore. Or on the flip side, they didn't graduate long enough ago to be ready to mentor anyone. Or on the flip FLIP side, they haven't ever actually finished and earned the formal degree. Lots of perceived reasons for disqualification from mentoring young people. But as I heard their stories, over and over again it was clear to me that our students absolutely WOULD benefit - and greatly - from every one of them. If you're hesitating to step into that mentoring role, don't forget these things: - You don't have to be perfect to mentor; you just have to have gone through a step or two (or twenty) beyond someone who might experience something similar to you - That similarity can be in any area of their life (handling family and professional life effectively, job searching, career exploration, career transitions, success in school, etc.) - not just if they're trying to follow your exact career path - Almost nobody has a truly "typical" career - the way you've managed your off-the-beaten-path trajectory and experiences can absolutely be relevant - Hearing the way you've made decisions and considered your options throughout adulthood could change a student's entire perspective on life and handling uncertainty - Hearing how you've struggled, either during or after your college experience, could help someone realize they're not alone or broken (at least, not any more than the rest of us) - Your story could help them see that uncertainty today doesn't mean failure tomorrow Your experiences, opinions, and knowledge are worth something - maybe everything. Don't keep yourself from sharing due to feelings of inadequacy. There are plenty of other reasons to consider not doing it, ha! You have a wildly busy life. But don't hide your light without a good reason. And if you're an SVU alum or friend and want to get involved with current students, absolutely let me know 😀 #careermanagement #mentorship #networking #alumni #goknights
YES! I co-founded the mentoring program for our state chapter of our professional association. And I have this conversation with folks all the time. You don't have to be at the top to mentor. If you're some steps along in your journey, you have so much experience to share with people who are just beginning. Don't undervalue how much you have to share. You are exactly what someone else needs. Tyler Orr
I agree! Mentorship is key!
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5moTyler, you are so spot on! So many have so much to offer from what they would consider ordinary experiences- but others see as “I’m not in this alone” or even better “I’m NOT the weird one!” You do not need special training to mentor ( although there are great options to learn more). Sometimes all you have to be is yourself, share and listen. Our paths are unique but can also be relatable and great learning experiences for others. Keep sharing Tyler!!! PS. Maybe I should add to my title 4x Boy Gramma! 🥰