Building Resilience: Thriving in the Face of Setbacks

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What do you do when faced with an unexpected setback? How do you cope with challenges you didn't anticipate or plan for?

"Man proposes, and God disposes." "There’s many a slip 'twixt the cup and the lip."

These sayings, often repeated by my grandfather, now resonate deeply with me. He was preparing us to be resilient in times of disruption.

Setbacks are an inevitable part of life. While some people seem to handle these situations with more grace, resilience is not an innate trait reserved for a select few. It involves behaviours, thoughts, and actions that anyone can learn and develop.

The only way to avoid failure is to lead a sheltered and unambitious life, never trying anything new or taking any risks—something few of us desire.

Instead, we should have the courage to pursue our dreams, even with the real possibility of failure. Resilience means that when we do fail, we bounce back, learn the necessary lessons, and move on to bigger and better things.

Ultimately, resilience empowers us to overcome setbacks and live the life we've always imagined. This article aims to help you understand resilience and discover the resilience within yourself.

 What is Resilience?

Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress, such as family and relationship problems, serious health issues, or workplace challenges. Beyond just "bouncing back," resilience can lead to profound personal growth.

Highly resilient individuals acknowledge their situations, learn from their mistakes, and move forward without dwelling excessively on setbacks. This doesn’t mean they don't experience difficulty or distress; in fact, the path to resilience often involves considerable emotional challenges.

Key Traits of Resilient People

·        Viewing Difficulty as a Challenge: Resilient people see failures as lessons and opportunities for growth, not as reflections of their abilities or self-worth.

·        Commitment & Purpose: They are dedicated to their goals and find purpose in their lives, whether in relationships, work, or personal beliefs.

·        Personal Control: They focus on what they can control, empowering themselves and feeling confident in their ability to impact their circumstances.

10 Ways to Build Your Resilience

The good news is that resilience can be developed. Here are some strategies to incorporate into your daily life:

1.     Learn to Relax: Take care of your mind and body. Establish a good sleep routine, engage in regular exercise, and practice relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation.

2.     Practice Thought Awareness: Monitor your self-talk, especially when things go wrong. Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones.

3.     Edit Your Outlook: Use cognitive restructuring to change how you think about negative situations and bad events.

4.     Learn from Mistakes and Failures: Every mistake has a lesson. Embrace the concept of "post-traumatic growth," where crises can lead to positive life changes.

5.     Choose Your Response: You can choose to react calmly and logically, even in tough situations, rather than with panic and negativity.

6.     Maintain Perspective: Understand that current crises may not have a lasting impact. Avoid blowing events out of proportion.

7.     Set Goals: Learn to set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) goals that align with your values and help you learn from experiences.

8.     Build Self-Confidence: Resilient people believe in their eventual success. Confidence allows them to take risks and keep moving forward despite setbacks.

9.     Develop Strong Relationships: Strong connections, both at work and in personal life, provide a support network to fall back on during tough times. Practice empathy and compassion in your relationships.

10.  Be Flexible: Accept that plans may change. Being adaptable is key to resilience.

Personal Experience: A Lesson in Resilience

Two weeks ago, I faced an unexpected obstacle when I fractured my foot while reaching for something in the cupboard. The stool I stood on slipped, resulting in a painful twist and a bone fracture. Initially, I hoped for a swift recovery, but a follow-up visit and a second x-ray revealed that the bone had become displaced, necessitating surgery.

This unforeseen setback has become a reminder to slow down, prioritize self-care, and have faith in the journey ahead. As the saying goes, "Man proposes, God disposes." While this experience presents challenges, it also provides an opportunity for personal growth and introspection.

By embracing this period of healing and reflection, I am confident that I will emerge stronger and more resilient, ready to positively impact those around me. Remember, sometimes life’s unexpected twists are the catalysts for our greatest growth!

Conclusion

Setbacks are an unavoidable aspect of any professional journey, but how you handle them can define your path to success. By embracing these strategies, you can cultivate a calm and resilient mindset that not only helps you overcome challenges but also thrive in the face of them. Resilience is not about avoiding difficulties but about bouncing back stronger each time.

Incorporating these tips into your daily routine can transform how you deal with setbacks, turning potential roadblocks into stepping stones for future success. Stay calm, stay resilient, and keep moving forward.

Connect with Me

Let's connect and explore the possibilities of your personal transformation. Reach out on LinkedIn, and let's build a foundation of resilience and wellbeing that will withstand any storm.

Here's to your radiant journey ahead!

Warm regards,

Shabeen Mazher

Executive Wellbeing Coach