Mindset Shift – Your Lifetime Skill Card #60

Today we look at #TakingResponsibility…

…weighing #BlameOthers and #BlameSelf.

Blame others makes you go: “They did that! It’s not my fault!”

Imagine the results: Every finger fuelled with insult and ready to point, you arrow anyone but yourself, blaming scapegoats or condemning more than needed those who stepped on your toes. If no being is around, you throw your blame on nature, to the realms of time, fate and gods. You think yourself at the centre of the world, but it soon pushes you to the side with disgust. Now alone, with dwindling choices, you are forced to face your own flaws.

Blame self makes you go: “Could I have done something better on my part?”

Imagine the results: Every mistake you make, you reflect on deep within. Directly or indirectly, did you contribute in some way to this undesired outcome? What could be done better on your part next time? How do you articulate yourself, such that others are not mislead into making similar mistakes themselves? Such higher orders of thinking prepare you for the worst while sharpening your skills to their best, and people admire your efforts to rise up magnanimous, always looking inwards first. And even if others are solely at fault, you inspire them to return better, through tact and wit so compelling that all defiance is extinguished.

Simple thoughts like these can create a world of difference, a different timeline. 

I used to quickly put the blame onto others as a means of safeguarding my social image, of escaping the consequences of my mistakes. While it was the easy way out, it was also the hardest way out, for guilt and shame would gnaw at me inside, while the innocent and young would seek righteous revenge from outside. Never at peace awake or at rest, I realised my folly and need to repent.

By choosing to mend bridges I had burnt and the ways I managed social dynamics, I built up the courage to face my dysfunctional thoughts within, the influences that made me blame out of fear. Mindful of my actions with humility, I learnt to accept, adapt and correct, boosting the energy of groups, and guiding others in directions that do not weigh down the heart.

“Leaders inspire accountability through their ability to accept responsibility before they place blame.” – Courtney Lynch

What will be your choice from now on?

To all the young and young at heart, keep evolving your GENIUS!

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Warm Regards,

Ryan Nicholas Leong Wei Ren

Founder of GENIUS Generation Youth Coaching

Evolving youth to stretch their career dreams, GENIUS style!