The war has ended; may we choose something else together..

War was really the beginning of a new way of living for men and women.

We may well wonder what happened to the ‘position’ or ‘status quo’ of the sexes over the years. I’ve been thinking about that lately and wondering what it all means. I have also listened to a lot of people, of both genders, hearing the woes, blows and ‘get up and goes’ of relationships. It seems to me, neither gender is to blame. It appears to be even on both sides and so I wonder then, why it is there is such a whining about the opposite sex?  Also, being a women myself, I’m quite OK with women ‘stepping up’ in any area they so choose and being whoever they want to be and become.  However,  I’m seeing rather an imbalance in all that is offered to women, from seminars and workshops in business, home improvements, to health, and wellbeing…you name it, we have it! It’s certainly a era for us all to shine in whatever way we so choose and that is brilliant for sure and I do wish to see more MEN, BLOKES, FELLA’s doing it for themselves also. I mean, I really really want to SEE, HEAR, UNDERSTAND and VALUE them. It’s like they’ve gone off to war and not come back….

There are a few men that are also ‘doing it’ for themselves. There are men (and women) that are getting on with  their passion. I'd just like to see that more and more.  Those that are willing, the one that put’s his all into knowing himself and then putting his ‘good shit’ out there for the world to see. Who isn’t worried or bothered in any way by how the world might ‘view’ his / her choices and decisions about home life, work, hobbies, partner or any other thing. That he/she/ WE together live our true values and beliefs with passion out loud, without fear!  

Living our values and beliefs is not a gender issue at all…it’s a decision with action to be personally responsible. I really want to see men and women like that, in every nook and cranny of life, not being relegated to a ‘slot’ of insignificance or ‘she’ll be right mate’ attitudes. Everyone matters, everyone belongs, everyone is loved equally. It was never about equality of the sexes.  The decision and action of going to war against our enemies changed how our society and culture was now expected to live, work and play and perhaps we have not really grasped that yet; how that has also affected how we interact together (or apart).

War meant men were enlisted (and some women volunteered) to go away from family, friends and everything familiar. Women, in similar fashion, were enlisted to work, away from the familiar responsibilities also.  Have we ever wondered then, that some of us may be,  in some sort of PTSD type fog over this..? That we still haven’t recalibrated ourselves to realise times have changed; more to the point – we have changed! And perhaps even, we are better and can continue to grow ourselves, we are not a stagnating pool of whining imbeciles who just don’t seem to be able to function from the fall out of war and chaos beginning over a century ago.  Sure, we are still dealing with war and rumors of wars on various levels. Surely, we can see that our adjustments to all kinds of circumstances are what make us the incredible species of human beings that we are - super adaptable to all kinds of things, if we choose. Including the rise of a gender to her ‘self’ expression and his to his own ‘self’ also and be glad. To rejoice that together, we’ve got this  and together we can continue. Together, we do not have to fight to stand, yet help each other up, along life’s pathways – no matter how jagged, rough, mountainous or smooth going. Our paths are meant to be traveled together, side by side, as we did during war-time, each pulling their weight and doing whatever they could for the 'cause' - for both the agony and ecstasy, the giving and receiving of it all, becomes one and that is our journey.

What we have done so far, has always been a joint effort, not one more than the other can take blame or credit for any of it. Let us then, decide in this NOW and the next, to keep up the work we began together, from…to keep going together.   like  real connections, love, respect, acceptance and the ongoing commitment to work together as one.