When we fail learning the lesson at the right time

You get into bed and are preparing for a good night sleep and suddenly you feel like you want to pee. It's cold out there, so you decide to hold it back. “I would be in a deep sleep in minutes anyway”, as you lied to yourself. You tossed and turned for 2 hours, finally you put on your slippers, rushed to the toilet. You have wasted 2 hours making up your mind, 2 hours that could have been used for a good rest. When something is bothering you in your life, be it sand in your shoes, long-due homework, a school bully, sexual molestation in office, you figure it out ASAP.

Troubles simply won't straighten themselves out, you wanna have a better life, you fix your troubles the very moment they emerge, and fix them once and for all. No we always learn whether we fail or not. It's just that when we are on normal condition we didn't realize we have learned something, when we face failure the feeling that we have learned something is stronger due to the emotion that we felt during that time. We just put more weight to the lesson that we learned during moment of failure because we don't want to feel that way ever again.

I believe for truly unique thinkers who attack a difficult problem, they gain knowledge with every attempt. That may be considered failures but its actually accumulating knowledge. They learn something, gain some insight from each attempt and come back more determined and driven. Some may be content with their first attempt if it brings them some solution, but truly driven people keep going until they achieve the ultimate solution.

Mr. John Wayne would say we fall so we can learn to pick ourselves up. To say that we exclusively learn when we do something wrong means that you are doing something wrong. There is much that we can learn from others around us through talking with them. There is much that we can learn from hearing the stories of another person. There is much that we can learn from reading a fine book or a watching a play. There is much that we can learn from experiencing loss and failure. There is much that we can learn from just sitting still and watching the ocean waves press against the warm sand or enjoying a radiant sunset as it ends the day.

There is an abundance of learning experiences always around you, and you have a choice to take advantage of these things or to ignore them. The learning will come in a variety of forms, but not all of your learning must come from failure. Yes, it is important to be able to make mistakes because we learn what not to do. Yes, it is important to experience failure because it grows us tremendously. But it is also important to just enjoy things for what they are and to learn as much as you can from inspiration, creation, and meditation. Enjoy all these things around you and see not only the negative but also the positive! Life will become more fulfilling and more eye-opening.

Do not be afraid of failure, but also, do not be afraid to succeed. To be successful, we have to work hard with hope and whole-hearted. There may be a lot of struggles we may face during the progress towards the glory. Each and every step will make us learn something new and it will give us more experience which we can't receive from anyone else. Remember that we are the complete responsibility for our life happenings. Our success should be defined and determined by ourselves and the other person shouldn't have that rights to decide what we have to do and where we have to stop.

We have to decide and plan the things and in my perspective, it will give us the best results since the vision will vary for each and every one. Obviously, we don't know whether we will succeed or not while going. We will get to know at the end only. If it is a success, it gives you countless happiness and lessons. But if it's a failure, we will get another chance to make it. Now, we have the experience, progress and the only thing which is going to miss is the enthusiasm. The failure can make you think about how to achieve your goal, make your plan more, make you fight stronger than previous, and it will give more confidence. Failure can teach more lessons than hundreds of success.

The result is not a matter of importance. It's just a thing that we used to conclude at the end. The effort and work that we have done till the result are important than the result since it will make us understand life much better. It's is quite easy for others to say that you succeed but they never know the disappointments, difficulties that you have crossed. When you look back after you achieve something, all you can see is the journeys that you have done to achieve. Surely, that will brings you a smile which is priceless. Keep running until you have energy. Keep exploring to your heart wants. Keep learning until your brain asks. Ultimately, you can always learn something from success or failure. The only thing is when we have failed, we shouldn't stop there rather we have to try one more time. Cheers!