Who Wouldn't Like It If You Succeed?
Your brother just got a huge promotion…
Your coworker received the “Salesperson of the Year” award…
Your youngest son decided to forgo college and become an entrepreneur. He just hit the $1 Million mark in sales….
Your best friend is approaching a 45-pound weight loss and looks happier and healthier than ever….
Most of us can relate to at least one of these scenarios. We have someone close to us that has achieved a monumental level of success either personally or professionally – yet we make it a point to scroll past their social media status update, or forgo the congratulatory handshake, or even start to think about all the things they do poorly.
“Jim won that award, but boy he screwed up on that major client account a few years ago. He cost us thousands of dollars in revenue...”
Jealousy, greed, and other egoic characteristics play a part in our day to day life – if we allow them to.
We all want success, most likely in a multitude of areas of our lives… however when we fall short of our goal and others achieve theirs, it puts a lump in our throat. We start to compare ourselves, we pity ourselves, we take all the focus off the wonderful success that others have achieved, and internalize how it affects us.
One of the biggest hurdles I see from a coaching perspective is when a client starts to blame others for not reaching a goal. Blame is an easy way to shift responsibility; and I don’t buy it one bit.
Eliminating all forms of blame and expectations of others is one of the first areas of discussion when it comes to goal setting and action planning.
Understanding that some people close to you may not enjoy your success, is an important piece of the resiliency you'll need as you continue on your journey through life.
The awareness you need to have when taking action toward your goals, is one that is accepting of the fact that some people very close to you may not be happy with you for hitting a milestone. Don’t use it as your excuse to not continue. Don’t blame them for falling short of your current goal or not taking action toward your next goal.
Instead, remember this – it’s often a reflection of an internal battle they are fighting of their own.
Two of the best pieces of advice I've ever received were:
- “You are your biggest adversary...”
2. “People’s reactions are often more about them than they are about you…”
With that in mind, are you mentally prepared for Who Wouldn’t Like It If You Succeed?
About the Author: Valerie Echter is a Certified Holistic Health and Lifestyle Coach, who specializes in emotional and mental well-being. She is a stress and anxiety expert, having worked through her own issues with severe social anxiety while at the height of her career in the oil industry.
Valerie takes her 12-year tenure as a nationally-known sales and marketing expert, and has leveraged her business know-how to educate business owners on the fundamentals of strategically implementing Emotional and Mental Wellbeing programs and services into the organization’s Safety or Wellness programs. A passionate advocate for employee health, Valerie supports organizations in reaching business goals directly via coaching, mentoring, and exclusive facilitated workshops focusing on employee productivity, increased employee morale, improved employee mental clarity and focus.
When she's not working with clients, Valerie can be found on the golf course, reading, playing with her young daughter and cocker spaniel puppy, or enjoying spending time with her husband and extended family.
Want to connect directly with Valerie? Email Valerie@getgoodonline.com to learn more about effective business strategies that focus on employee personal and professional development.
Creative Strategist | Coach
3yThanks for sharing Valerie!
National Account Manager
7yGreat article, Valerie Echter!
Senior Manager Innovation & Delivery | Driving Strategic Technology Solutions
7yGreat post. Thanks for sharing.