A marriage in recovery
An anonymous column about life married to a recovering alcoholic
Our marriage is happier than ever because of the alcoholism
When R and I realised that the alcohol was not the cause of all our problems, we understood that we could stay married if the desire was strong enough
Marriage in recovery: The things that keep me sane
In my penultimate column, here is a list of things I’ve learned that have kept me going
I tell my children it’s good to cry, but I find it hard myself
Growing up I was never told not to cry, but it’s something I struggle with
Marriage in recovery: Practising self-care is the key to survival
Playing the martyr is no fun for anyone – and I know from having given massage that if you’re going to look after others, you have to treat yourself too
Marriage in recovery: R’s return to old patterns was a relapse for both of us
Now we need to get back to rebuilding our relationship and not punishing ourselves
As vain as it may sound, I like looking at my body
I’m fascinated by the process of change, physically and psychologically
Two children, two trips to A&E
We have returned to normality, or what passes for it in our family
Marriage in recovery: When I mess up now, I try to be kind to myself
I look up at the departures board and our flight is not there. Something is wrong …
There is no one cure, no magic bullet for addiction
My belief is that one cannot save the life of an addict unless the addict wants to be saved
Like an alcoholic, I'm an odd mix of huge ego and low self-esteem
Fear has held me back, but I'm getting braver
A marriage in recovery: we need to get away, and fast
This trip will be the first time R has chosen to come on a holiday that includes extended family
Seeing the devastation of war on TV reminds me how lucky we are
Watching the small daily rituals that help Syrian families rebuild lives fascinates me – rituals I take for granted
Finding inner peace in a green space
There is such a thing as on-the-move meditation and my local park is the perfect place to do it
Why I don’t like hugs and what it says about me
I used to think that getting naked with a man meant being close to someone
I hear his voice on the phone and know my husband is drinking again
R went away with friends and got drunk, but I don't feel angry
How do I talk to my children about alcohol?
Or rather, how do I talk to them about the problem with alcohol? The joy and the pain that it can elicit is hard to explain
Marriage in recovery: A text from an old friend who thinks I'm single
But how should I reply? The truth is, I miss doing bad things
Marriage in recovery: R is grumpy but apologises for it – progress
When R's behaviour was so unpleasant I wanted to scoop the children up and run away. I wouldn't tolerate such sore days now
I still feel guilty about my children's upbringing
I have a fractious relationship with my daughter – it's seldom been peaceful but is currently aflame
Marriage in recovery: I goad R in the same way my mother goaded me when I was a child
When I advise R, I think I'm doing it out of love. But really I'm bossy
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