After Helen died, writing this column helped me through my grief. In this, my final offering, I’d like to help others by sharing what I’ve learned

Stained-glass panels will be constant reminders of her in our house, overlooking the lives of which she is still a part

His documentary was compelling and made me cry tears of grief for the first time since Helen’s diagnosis

Brendan Cox’s good sense born out of bereavement as he talked about the Westminster attack shows how kindness can work wonders

Going unrecognised in a cafe, it stings to overhear that I am suffering either a midlife crisis or a second childhood, but then I undress and they are suitably shocked …

If dating profiles are like Philip Pullman’s dæmons, I am coming to realise that mine is still only half-formed

I worried that the death of our loved-one-in-common would kill the bond between us – so with trepidation I sat my in-laws down to share heartfelt truths

Harry is an online dating asset – all my matches like cats. He is also the ersatz fourth member of the family

Bereavement benefits are about to be overhauled and newly bereaved families will be left without the long-term help that I’ll continue to receive

Chitty Chitty Bang Bang has always been a favourite of team Golightly. But I hadn’t realised why it had been so important to me as a child

There are several dates that I’m fearing – Helen’s birthday, Mother’s Day – but none more so than 14 February, which just reminds me of our last poignant Valentine’s Day together watching Brief Encounter

As I create my profile, I’ve no idea what I’m really looking for. No, that’s not true. What I really want is the life I had before Helen was ill

I’m suffering from grief amnesia – but shedding some memories is helping me to deal with my bereavement

A trip to the door shop sparks flashbacks of the undertaker’s, but I’m sure updating and improving the house will be worth it – I’m not sure what is to come but I’ll be ready

Lucy asks me if I have kids. I say yes. Then she asks me if they live with me not their mother. I hesitate …

We should never postpone happiness, love, good deeds or anything that matters. If we do so, it is unlikely to happen as planned – or at all

I’m ready to embrace the best of this beautiful world for myself, for Millie and Matt, and in doing so for Helen

If you half close your eyes, you might think Helen is still here, spreading her festive warmth, love and laughter

Once you accept that the life you had is unrecoverable, you might just be able to create a new one that isn’t simply the old version but sadder

I’ve slept on my wife’s side of the bed since the night she died. When I try to cross back to my own half, I fall into a pit of despair