You're only supposed to use the difficulty, as Michael Caine might have said.
Use the difficulty. There is a great clip of a Parkinson interview with Michael Caine, where the actor describes his life philosophy of “use the difficulty”. It came from an early career experience he had where his attempt to get on stage was blocked accidentally by a chair across the set doorway. A more experienced actor exhorted him to “use the difficulty; if it’s a comedy, fall over it; if it’s a drama, pick it up and smash it. Use the difficulty.” If you want to see it search for Michael Caine + use the difficulty, it's a short watch It’s a brilliant truth to take into your people leadership. We all get things wrong - give poorly thought through feedback, overlook recognition, make bad decisions, respond unthoughtfully or fail to give clear direction. (Or maybe that’s just me). If you do catch yourself doing these things remember there is always an opportunity to use the difficulty. Acknowledge what you did, show some humility, try not to repeat. In my experience you will actually build deeper, better relationships if you use the difficulty, rather than ignoring it. The same with clients or customers. Things go wrong, how you respond is often more important than the original issue. Caine’s closing remarks are probably also worth listening to though. “Also, avoid the difficulty, at all costs”.