Como incentivar a autorreflexão nos coachees?

Self-reflection is am important way to check in with yourself. See you celebrations and your lessons. To identify if the people, places and things are still in alignment with you. As you grow, you will out grow. Let go of what no longer serves to make room for more. Keep moving forward, trying new things and meeting new people. Continuing your self development is a must for you and the others you serve.

I believe the most important aspect of encouraging self-reflection in coachees is trust, safety, and confidentiality in the relationship. When a client experiences the coach as caring, open-minded, and non-judgmental, self-reflection becomes a minimal risk. As coaches, we cannot force deep self-reflection. The client is the one who has to open up and share vulnerably from their experience. They will only take that risk when they feel safe from criticism, unwanted advice, or consequences. Subsequently, offering models, assessments, and thoughtful questions can encourage self-reflection. But the relationship comes first, establishing safety. The rest naturally follows.

After hosting over 1500+ coaching sessions, I know the importance of creating a safe space for coachees. Especially in career transition and other life changes. Any coach supporting people needs to know how to actively listen, show empathy, and communicate confidentiality. It is important to assess the strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats to your coachee's results. This way, you can make informed SMART goals, affirm the coachee, and reinforce a growth mindset that fosters resilience.

Coaches hire more experienced coaches that help them self reflect on their lives and how get to their goals. Self reflection allows us to review what is working in our lives and what we need to change for our personal growth.

Häufig sind wir mit unserer eigenen Sichtweise so verwoben, dass es ebenfalls helfen kann eine systemische Sichtweise einzunehmen und den:die Coachee zu fragen wie die ebenfalls an der Situation beteiligte Person oder ein:e unbeteiligte:r Dritte:r die Situation oder das Verhalten des:der Coachees einschätzen würde. Dies kann die Sichtweise für andere Optionen öffnen und somit weiteres Denken in unterschiedliche Richtungen ermöglichen

Aside from the questions suggested, I find it is most helpful to ask the coachee to assess themselves. This shows their level of self-awareness, and ability to acknowledge areas where they need to improve without it being an ego-centric response and affirming the areas they are strong. Some ways, I may shift limiting perspectives is ask open-ended questions like: "I heard you say (limiting belief), can you share more about that?" "What if it DOES work out, then what?" "From a scale of 1 - 10, 1 being not very good and 10 being excellent -- how would you rate yourself in (specific topic). Why?" These questions help to shift the energy from negative to neutrality. The goal is to encourage resilience and awareness of both the pros and cons.

While GROW, STAR, SWOT are useful, these are mainly used for reflection on a high-level. To get into more granular details, one should self-reflect every quarter (for work, business or personal reasons) using methods like Gibbs Reflective Style or CARL framework. Self-reflection in most cases needs to be accompanied by value-analysis to ensure we are on top of our current values, and hence not living in the past.

Encouraging self-reflection in coaches involves asking pivotal questions: What does this event mean to me? What can I learn and apply in my broader life? How might I share this newfound wisdom? Additionally, exploring whether an event is happening to you or by you, understanding internal triggers, and deciphering the messages behind these occurrences can significantly deepen the self-reflection process for personal growth and insight. Leveraging NLP models further enhances this introspective journey.

Helping over 300+ high achievers showed me most people do NOT celebrate their micro-wins enough. It's like their fear of not succeeding evades their faith to feel hopeful for what is unseen. My favorite part of what I do in career transition is celebrate when the coachees accomplish their goals or get over hurdles that hinder their progress. Micro-wins must be celebrated to remain motivated and inspired to keep taking actions that align with the desired outcome.

Self-reflection is a vital part of self-leadership. Self-leadership is the ability to influence, motivate, and control one's path toward their personal and professional success. Although many of the frameworks provided are linear in nature. Leadership is NOT linear nor is success. Both require a cyclical approach to align with growth-mindedness. We have steps in place to offer clarity but truthfully, we must learn to create success cycles in improving our executive embodiment as leaders. Leadership is not a straight line. There are ebbs and flows and it is ongoing, especially in the realm of self-leadership. May we first learn to effectively lead ourselves and then lead others! This begins with creating our own success cycles.