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Boundaries are everywhere - and there are all different types 👀 What boundary do you feel is most important to you right now? 👍 #boundaries #boundarysetting #worldmentalhealthday

1. Think about where you need more boundaries. Look closely at areas of your life where you don’t feel balanced, a relationship feels off track, or your ability to communicate with someone has broken down. 2. Decide which boundaries you want to draw and stick to. Then commit to setting boundaries in those areas of your life. If it helps, write them down. 3. Set boundaries one at a time. Don’t make it too complicated. 4. Keep overheated emotions out of it. Don’t attempt to set boundaries when you’re lonely, angry, or overtired. 5. Reset boundaries that aren't working for you. Be prepared to modify them if they don’t work well for you or aren't meeting your needs. 6. Be realistic. Set unrealistic boundaries and you may be setting yourself up for failure. 7. Don’t be discouraged by setbacks. Just because you have a conversation about boundaries with someone or about some aspect of your life doesn’t mean that they are going to be implemented perfectly right away. People will forget your boundaries and they may need a reminder.

Boundaries - the limits and rules we set for ourselves with relationships. 🚶 🏌️♀️ 🏄♀️ 🏋️♀️ How do you place boundaries in your daily life? 👍 #boundaries #boundarysetting #worldmentalhealthday

Many things that happen during your workday are out of your control, but you can make small changes that can have a big impact. Follow these helpful tips: 💼 🏢 🤔 1. Set priorities. Trying to do too much makes you less productive and can stress you out. It can even lead to job burnout — a specific type of work stress. A 2017 study linked job burnout to health problems like heart disease, diabetes and insomnia.3 (Insomnia is when you have trouble sleeping.) Plus, some experts say that working on more than 1 task at the same time (multitasking) can lead to anxiety and depression. Try this: Experiment to find the best way to organize all the tasks you need to do. Try organizing apps like http://spr.ly/6043qjRM1 or Todoist. Or make a color-coded list in a notebook. Be realistic about what you can accomplish. And don’t feel bad if the items that are lower on your list get bumped to tomorrow. 🤔 2. Take control. Even with a high-stress job, you can gain some control with “job crafting.” That means finding a way to adjust your job to match your talents and the way you work best. Try this: Talk to your boss about making some small changes. Maybe you can: Ask if you can work from home a few days a week. See if you can shift your hours to fit the times of day when you have more energy. Take on new tasks that fit your skills. Pass other tasks to somebody else. Before you ask for any of the above, think about how these changes can help your employer. Studies show that feeling in control at work lowers your risk of physical health concerns, including stroke.4 And being a happy, healthy worker makes your boss’s job easier too. 🤔 3. Find healthy ways to de-stress. Almost everyone has trouble dealing with stress at work. After a tough day, it may seem easy to soothe yourself with junk food or a glass of wine. But this can bring on poor mental and physical health in the long run. Instead, Bufka suggests, find simple ways to stay healthy. Drink plenty of water and get more exercise, even if it’s just taking the stairs instead of the elevator.

Without strong boundaries, you can suffer both physically and emotionally. If you have weak work boundaries — perhaps you take on new projects despite being busy — you can end up feeling tired, grouchy and burned out. A weak or missing boundary in one area can have a domino effect on many aspects of your life. “The downstream consequences can include a lack of time or emotional availability for the people and things you care about,” Holland-Kornegay says. 🚴 For example, if you have a friendship that takes a lot of bandwidth — perhaps this person calls you constantly — you can end up short-changing people who are important to you. You may not get enough sleep or self-care time. This can impact your concentration at work, your mood and your health overall. Another serious pitfall of poor boundaries: You increase the chances of being used, manipulated or violated by others. When you aren’t clear on what kind of treatment you’ll tolerate from others, you may be more vulnerable to accepting disrespect and abuse. (This doesn’t mean it’s your fault when you’re mistreated.) #settingboundaries #physical #mental #emotiona;

Setting boundaries might sound easy in theory: No more volunteering to take on extra assignments? Done. An end to hours-long conversations with the neighbor about her divorce? Check. But it can be difficult in reality, and it takes practice to perfect. 😛 😬 🙄 Some people struggle with it more than others. There are several reasons for this: 👉 You’re afraid you’ll hurt someone’s feelings. It’s a fact that setting a boundary could cause the person on the receiving end to have negative feelings, Doll says. And for some folks, this possibility may keep them from setting limits. It’s normal to be empathic. But if you don‘t set limits for fear of hurting them, you’re essentially prioritizing their feelings over your own wellness. 👉 Your personality may predispose you to avoid boundary-setting. Some personality types are more prone than others to having weak boundaries. For people who tend to want to please others or seek approval, boundary-setting isn’t always natural. 👉 You’re not comfortable communicating your boundaries. Setting boundaries requires communicating them clearly to the people who challenge them, which can create discomfort. “It requires a level of assertiveness, and that can be challenging for some,” Doll says. 👉 Your boundaries aren’t clear to yourself, let alone others. It’s impossible to communicate something that you haven’t fully defined for yourself. Taking time to figure out what’s important to you and how you will safeguard those priorities will help you identify the boundaries that you’ll set and communicate. #boundaries #commnication #peoplepleaser #emotionalhealth

Here are some tips to do just that: ✏️ Go for doable. “Make boundaries achievable and clear,” Holland-Kornegay says. Don’t set such a high bar (no work on weekends ever) that you won’t be able to keep that boundary in place. Better: Set a moderate, specific boundary: 2 weekends each month completely work-free. ✏️Stick to the big stuff. Don’t fall into the trap of setting constraints on trivial things. Instead, “make a few sensible boundaries for the big-ticket stressors in your life and introduce more once you feel like you’re ready,” says Holland-Kornegay. ✏️Focus on what makes you happy and work backward from there. Look for the high point in your day. Maybe you feel incredible when you find time to jog, read a book, hang out with the family, listen to a podcast or just relax in a bath. The question you need to ask yourself: How can I sprinkle more of these satisfying activities into my day? ✏️Consider the relationship when setting a boundary. Limits will vary depending on the situation and who’s involved, Doll says. You’ll have different boundaries with your work colleague than with your spouse, for instance. #boundaries #boundarysetting #tipsandtricks

Setting boundaries is more than just a popular hashtag on Instagram. It’s a critical skill that can improve every aspect of your life, whether it’s your career, your relationships or even your health. 😁 Here are 5 important ones: 💪 Physical boundaries: These govern how you want others to respond to aspects of your physical body. This includes placing limits around space and physical touch. They also refer to your ability to meet basic needs such as sleeping and eating. 🤔 Emotional boundaries: These refer to how you communicate and manage your feelings and availability. You may get overly involved in other people’s problems. On the flip side, you may have difficulty getting close to people. 🧠 Intellectual boundaries: These refer to your thoughts, ideas and opinions. How do you expect others to respond to your opinions, and how do you react to those of others? 🏡 Property boundaries: These help you manage your personal possessions. How protective are you over your belongings, including your clothes, car and home? ⏰ Boundaries around time and availability: This includes how you manage time with work, family and friends. #worldmentalhealthday #boundaries

When you’re feeling low, the pick-me-up you may need may be as simple as getting your blood flowing. Yes, we’re talking about exercise. Some research has shown movement can be a mood elevator. It’s also shown exercise may help prevent and ease certain mental health conditions. (CNS Neuroscience & Therapeutics) But when you don’t feel well emotionally, it can be hard to find the energy to do some things. So it’s important to reach out for help if you’re not feeling well. It’s also important to follow instructions from your doctor or other care provider if you’ve been diagnosed with a mental health condition. Adding in exercise or other physical activities to your routine may further help you take care of your emotional health. We want to hear from you! What’s your favorite type of movement? 🚴 👇 #movement #exercise #mindbodyconnection

🧠 Expect some mixed emotions. It’s natural to at once feel eager to leave and sad to say goodbye. Also, expect your emotions to fluctuate as you adjust. 🧠 Learn practical skills. Consider what you need in terms of food, shelter and health, and begin tackling the “how to’s” of cooking, cleaning, budgeting and all the rest. 🧠 Develop soft skills. Living on your own brings new interpersonal challenges. Treating others with respect and considering different perspectives can go a long way in smoothing this part of the journey. 🧠 Live your own life. Avoid comparing yourself to others in unrealistic or unhealthy ways. Remember, you’re on your own path and in your own body. 🧠 Give yourself space to change. Whether you’re heading off to university, moving to a new city or starting a job, you don’t have to know everything right now. Expect to grow and shift as you experience life. 🧠 Make good choices. You need to look out for yourself. That includes considering the consequences of your actions, like staying out late the night before a major exam or splurging when you’re on a tight budget. 🧠 Understand you’re a work in progress. You may legally be an adult, but your body, mind and spirit continue developing well into your early 30s. Don’t be afraid to ask for help thinking through tough decisions or difficult feelings. 🧠 Stay connected. Regularly keep in touch with trusted adults who can offer support and valuable advice. 🧠 Take care of yourself. Practice self-care for better health and wellbeing. That includes getting enough sleep, eating nutritious foods and being active.