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When engaging in a potentially difficult conversation with your boss consider the following: ✅ If you don't have the conversation the problem will most likely linger or get progressively worse. This should motivate you to have the conversation. ✅ Think carefully how you will explain the issue, words matter. Phrases such as, "you may not be aware..." are helpful. ✅ Ensure you have evidence to validate the points you are making. ✅ Ensure you have suggested solutions that could be applied. ✅ Ensure you seek input and the perspective of your boss for their ideas of how the issue could be dealt with. ✅ Agree specific actions with timelines with your boss. #difficultconversations

Valuable advice regardless of who you are talking to.

Demonstrate composure, curiosity, and a willingness to adapt when navigating an issue.

First: “pick the right fight” that’s really worthy of pursuing. Second: find a leader who will use the 1-on-1 meetings to focus on the employee’s needs. Third: follow the 5-steps guided below. The article below reminds us that it is possible to bring emotional topics “to the table” so we can explore solutions with the leaders who care for us. At the same time, the above is possible when we have enough leaders to genuinely care for us. As I was reading the article, my thoughts draw me to both extremes of experiences I’ve gone through - with and without such caring leaders when I needed their help. I’m also reminded to not lose hope if we don’t yet have one of those leaders. Let’s be one of those leaders ourselves so that over time our actions will attract more leaders to join hands to care for team members. In my view, everyone in a team deserves the care to feel belonged, included, supported to grow.

How do you raise difficult issues with your boss and others who are important to you? Simple, effective and meaningful article.

A practical Harvard Business Review article containing a 5-step structure for potentially "challenging" 121s with your manager. This will be useful for delegates attending my 'Managing Up' workshop this afternoon or those who've attended previous sessions. #managingup #leadershipdevelopment #preparation #visualization #solutionsnotproblems #support #activelistening #challenges

What's a conversation you need to have at work but have been avoiding? For difficult topics you need to discuss with your boss, consider these helpful ideas for addressing this need and creating more opportunity for your future growth. #makeithappenmidcareer #leadershipdevelopment #coaching

NEW BLOG POST on people pleasing and conflict competence! "By avoiding conflict and prioritizing harmony at all costs, organizations inadvertently enable toxic behaviors." Curious to learn what's behind people-pleasing behaviors and how they impact your team and organizational culture? Want to improve your conflict competence? Check out the article Judy Oyedele, MSOD, ACC and I wrote for Greater Public. Excited to share the publication! https://lnkd.in/evN3qGhC

How do you deal with being ignored by upper management when positives are brought up to improve the full functionality of the environment? Answer: You keep being your best self and doing what’s best for the company! It will translate through other parts of your life and another Oppurtunity when it shows up.

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