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I truly hope to delve into with my newest educational pursuit! I am about to dig into these sorts of topics in "Abnormal Psychology" which adds to my beginning with 'Social Psychology', and my general 'Introduction to "Psychology", a further three courses... coming up!!!!

When grief goes unacknowledged, individuals can endure similar negative emotions as those who openly grieve, but without the support or recognition of their loss from others. This can leave them feeling isolated as they struggle to manage their emotions alone. The pressure to conceal their grief can cause them to internalize these negative feelings, potentially leading to more harmful impacts on their mental health. Explore the effects of unacknowledged grief in the workplace: https://hubs.la/Q02Drlpv0 #wpocares #grief #employeewellbeing #mentalhealth

In light of the recent tragic shooting of #SonyaMassey, we are reminded of the profound impact that collective grief, disenfranchised grief, cumulative grief, and vicarious trauma can have on our mental health. #Collectivegrief reflects the shared mourning of a community, while #disenfranchisedgrief is the grief that society often fails to recognize. #Cumulativegrief involves the layering of multiple losses over time, and #vicarioustrauma results from indirect exposure to other people’s pain and suffering. Together, these experiences can be deeply isolating and overwhelming, particularly for those facing systemic oppression. #Disenfranchisedgrief, often overlooked by society, and cumulative grief, which layers multiple losses over time, can deepen feelings of isolation. Additionally, exposure to trauma, whether directly or through secondary means, such as witnessing others' pain or enduring vicarious trauma from the relentless portrayal of violence (sometimes referred to as #traumaporn), can desensitize us or leave us feeling powerless and hopeless. This not only affects our collective empathy, but also those who are already vulnerable. In these times, it is vital to advocate for and practice self-compassion as we approach our healing journeyes with empathy and grace. Here are some tips to employ: 1. Acknowledge Your Grief: Validate your complex feelings and accept that grief is non-linear. 2. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and allow yourself time to heal. 3. Hold Space for Others: Listen empathetically without rushing to judge and fix things. 4. Seek Community Support: Connect with others who understand your experiences to combat isolation. 5. Limit Exposure to Trauma: Be mindful of your media consumption and its impact on your mental well-being. 6. Engage in Healing Practices: Find methods that help you process emotions, such as therapy, mindfulness, drumming, or expressive art. 7. Embrace Duality: Accept that it’s possible to experience multiple and opposing emotions simultaneously and your grief process is unique , it’s doesn’t have to look like everybody else’s. Understanding collective trauma, where communities share and process trauma together, is also essential. This collective experience can either deepen wounds or foster healing and resilience. Being trauma-informed helps us approach these experiences with sensitivity and respect, allowing for a more compassionate and supportive environment. As we navigate these challenging times, let’s remember that healing is an ongoing journey. By fostering self-compassion and embracing the complexity of our emotions with grace, we can build resilience and support each other toward a more compassionate world. May Sonya Massey rest in eternal power and love (#goneneverforgotten). May her creator and ancestors embrace and comfort her children and all her loved ones. May we lean on each other in solidarity as we collectively grieve together. AI generated 📷

"Trigger points in grief" refer to specific situations, events, or reminders that can evoke intense emotional responses in individuals who are grieving the loss of a loved one. These trigger points can vary greatly from person to person and may include anniversaries, holidays, birthdays, places, objects, or even certain smells or sounds associated with the deceased. Trigger points in grief might explore various aspects of this phenomenon, including: 🔺 Identification of Trigger Points: Discussing common triggers that individuals may encounter during the grieving process, such as seeing a familiar place or hearing a particular song associated with the deceased. Emotional Responses: Exploring the emotional reactions triggered by these events, which can range from sadness and longing to anger or anxiety. 🔺Coping Strategies: Offering coping strategies and techniques to help individuals navigate and manage their emotions when confronted with trigger points. This may include mindfulness exercises, seeking support from friends or support groups, or engaging in therapeutic activities like journaling or art therapy. 🔺Self-Care: Emphasizing the importance of self-care during the grieving process, including getting enough rest, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring comfort and solace. 🔺Seeking Professional Help: Encouraging individuals who are struggling with overwhelming grief or finding it difficult to cope with trigger points to seek support from mental health professionals or grief counsellors. Grief is not a linear process and that encountering trigger points is a normal part of grieving, while also offering guidance on how to cope with them in healthy ways. #grief #griefsupport #heretohelp #process

Journaling📌 💔🕊️💔🕊️ I’m heartbroken after the video has been released. Faith Based, Police Community and Mental Health Health, and Disability Services have a plethora of “Harm Reduction & Community Collaboration work to do concerning public health, theology|ministerial teachings and other ideologies that have varying viewpoints and policy subject areas that needs attention to when looking at the data trends on this. The Public Health sector, Public Safety and Faith Based and Community (Mayors, Citizens, Civilians, and the Stakeholders) have to come to a consensus on how we address critical incidents and duty of care of this magnitude. #HarmReductiion #CriticalCareIncidents

Navigating Grief & PTSD Finding Healing Amidst Triggers Unpacking the depths of grief and navigating the complexities of PTSD following my traumatic loss has been a journey marked by both sorrow and courage. For bereaved parents, each day can feel like an uphill battle against a relentless tide of emotions. Triggers lurk around every corner, threatening to plunge us back into the depths of despair. However, amidst the darkness, there is hope. I've found great comfort in using a tool I learned early on. I thought I'd share the "Three C's" with you. By understanding the three C's of grief—choose, connect, communicate— we can embark on a path toward healing, despite the daunting challenges that lie ahead. Let's dissect this Choose: In the chaos of grief and PTSD, it's crucial to remember that you still possess the power of choice. Even in the darkest moments, when it feels like you're drowning in sorrow, you have the autonomy to choose what's best for you. Whether it's seeking therapy, taking time for self-care, or simply allowing yourself to feel the waves of emotion, honouring your choices is essential in the journey toward healing. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and each individual's path is unique. Embrace the power of choice as you navigate the turbulent waters of loss. Connect: One of the most profound sources of solace during times of grief is the connection with others who understand your pain. Whether it's friends, family members, or support groups, finding a community of empathetic individuals can provide invaluable support. Surrounding yourself with people who can offer a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or simply a comforting presence can help alleviate the burden of grief and PTSD. Through shared experiences and mutual support, the journey toward healing becomes less isolating and more hopeful. Communicate: In the midst of grief and PTSD, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by a whirlwind of emotions. However, it's essential to communicate your needs and feelings openly and honestly. Don't be afraid to articulate the pain, confusion, and fear that accompany traumatic loss. Whether it's expressing your emotions to loved ones, seeking professional help from a therapist, or joining a support group, communicating your experiences can foster understanding and empathy. Remember, vulnerability is not a sign of weakness—it's a courageous step toward healing. As you navigate the turbulent waters of grief and PTSD, remember that healing is not a linear journey. There will be setbacks and challenges along the way, but by embracing the three C's—choose, connect, communicate—you can find solace amidst the storm. Honour your choices, seek connection with empathetic souls, and communicate your needs openly. In doing so, you can forge a path toward healing, reclaiming hope, and finding peace amidst the pain. Sandie Martins-Toner www.sandramartinstoner.com #griefjourney #lossofachild #MatthewMartinsLegacy #3Cs

Today is the 30th November 2023. It's the last day of Men's Mental Health Awareness Month. It's also 614 days since I lost my husband to suicide. 1 year, 8 months and 4 days. I used to fear talking about this topic. But fear of talking is part of the problem. So, on this day, I wanted to do something useful for the people who will unfortunately experience the same devastation that I did 614 days ago - or loss of any kind. I want to talk about managing grief at work. When someone in your team or business is grieving, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll be showing up to work every day in floods of tears. In fact, most of the time, sadness is one of the emotions or external visual representations of grief you’ll come into contact with the *least*. (People don’t like to cry at work.🙃) Instead, when someone is grieving at work, be prepared for: 🧠Brain fog - even from people who are usually 100% on it. If you’re asking questions in meetings or putting us on the spot for responses, our usual quick-fire response time might be swapped out for a blank stare and “sorry, what did you say again?” or “my mind’s gone blank”. Give us time and just be patient while we find our feet again. 🐘Forgetting stuff or appearing scatty and disorganised. We might be a bit slower, we might have to change the way we structure our days and we might have to ask you to repeat something or ask for clarity on things more often than usual. We want to do a great job, we just need your support to make sure we do. 🥞Frequent “flat” days. Grieving is physically heavy. It weighs down on you even when you don’t think it does. Even if you’re not “sad”, you’re still grieving, and picking yourself up to be Mr or Mrs Motivator can almost be physically impossible. We’re still trying but we might just be more pancake than panettone for a while. We’ll be back soon, just give it time. 😵💫Overwhelm. Small things that we used to deal with become big things. We can doubt our abilities and feel like we’re not built for the same environment we used to thrive in. This is why many people move jobs after a loss, but it doesn’t have to be like that if employers are understanding and willing to adapt with us. For example: managing a lot of face to face meetings can be exceptionally draining when you’re masking grief. 😴Exhaustion. “You look tired” isn’t helpful here. We are tired. Constantly. Grief is tiring. Being told we’re tired doesn’t make us less tired. We don’t want to look tired, we want our old selves back. When you lose someone, you lose a little bit of yourself too. Please don’t keep reminding us. 🐊Erratic moods or being snappier than usual. Everyone knows that stress causes shorter tempers. Hurt people hurt people, as they say. There’s no excuse for rudeness or making people feel uncomfortable, but please consider that we might just be having a particularly tough day emotionally and we really didn’t mean the tone in which we said something. I hope this helps.❤️

Death is still a taboo topic in our culture, but sometimes the “living losses” can be even harder to talk about 🤫 Whether it’s a parent’s dementia, a friend's addiction, or a new medical diagnosis, living losses - also known as ambiguous loss - can take a toll on our mental health. Read more about ambiguous loss and some of the other common forms of grief in my latest blog post, and share with a friend who might benefit 🗣 https://lnkd.in/evxCSQNQ

Grief is an inevitable part of life, but having a robust support system can make all the difference. In our latest blog post, we explore the critical role that support systems play during a grieving period. Discover effective strategies for building and maintaining strong connections that can positively impact your mental health and overall well-being. To bring these insights to life, one of our leaders at Centered Health shares their personal journey through grief, offering hope and guidance to those finding their way through loss. 📖 Read the full blog: https://lnkd.in/g-mSXtPa Whether you’re personally navigating grief or supporting a loved one, these insights could be invaluable. #MentalHealth #GriefSupport