You don’t have to be confident to be confident. Yes, you read that right. Confidence comes from the practice of stepping outside your comfort zone. A lot of people believe it’s something you're either born with or you're not, but that's a misconception. Confidence is a skill that can be developed, and one of the most effective ways to build it is by acting confident—even if you don't feel it yet. The idea of "fake it till you make it" isn't just a catchy phrase; it's a powerful strategy for professional growth. In my previous post, I shared how I naturally get nervous before big speeches and recordings. It’s completely normal to feel that way—everyone experiences fear and doubt at times. The difference lies in how we respond to those feelings. Instead of letting them overwhelm us, we can choose to face the fear and do it anyway. Confidence follows action, not the other way around. If you want more confidence, you have to act like you have it. Facing your fears is perhaps the most challenging yet rewarding way to build confidence. Whether it’s presenting in a meeting, networking with industry leaders, or taking on a new project, stepping out of your comfort zone forces you to grow. Each time you face a fear and overcome it, you gain a little more confidence for the next challenge. It’s a process of incremental growth that builds a solid foundation of self-assurance. It’s not about being arrogant or overbearing; it’s about believing in your value and communicating that belief to others. When you believe in yourself, you’re more likely to pursue meaningful professional connections and stand up for your needs and desires. So, next time you feel a wave of doubt in a professional setting, straighten your posture, speak with conviction, and face your fears. Remember that acting confident is your secret power. It’s all in your mindset.
This is such valuable insight, and I appreciate you sharing your own experiences! I completely agree. Many of us appear outwardly confident, but it's a learned skill. We've had to practice expressing ourselves and overcoming our nerves. However, even now those doubts creep in, acting confident is definitely a super power!
I read this and though how true it is. I see this time and time again with my coaching clients, avoiding taking certain steps because of confidence issues.Yet, it takes time and action create a momentum that can change everything. Thanks Darren Fields for such a simple and powerful reminder.
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2moGreat post Darren absolutely on the money! I used to become overcome with terrible anxiety when I first started public speaking and recording. I liked the idea and always said yes! But in the event I actually found it a hugely uncomfortable experience! But I knew it was something I had to overcome. So I literally faked confidence. Anxiety is always there. Nerves are important, they keep us on our game. But once we build up that level of self confidence they don’t overcome us. It all becomes easier and manageable.