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These are the pop ups that I've received in the last hour. Look, I know I'll come across as ignorant but this is why I don't watch the news. It just fills me with negativity. The Power of Positivity is crucial to my mindset and outlook. I recently read, "you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." This couldn't be more true when it comes to the power of positivity and the profound impact your inner circle can have on your mindset, beliefs, and overall life outcomes. Surrounding yourself with positive, uplifting, and growth-oriented people is one of the most impactful investments you can make. Here's why: 1. Positivity is Contagious Emotions, attitudes, and behaviors have a way of spreading through our social connections. When you immerse yourself in a positive environment, it naturally lifts your own spirits and inspires you to think and act in more constructive ways. 2. Positive Peer Pressure The people you spend time with have a strong influence on your standards, goals, and sense of what's possible. Associating with ambitious, forward-thinking individuals can challenge you to raise your own bar and dream bigger. 3. Emotional Support and Resilience Navigating life's ups and downs is much easier when you have a supportive network that believes in you. Positive relationships provide the encouragement, empathy, and accountability needed to overcome obstacles and bounce back from setbacks. 4. Expanded Perspectives Diverse, open-minded people expose you to new ideas, experiences, and ways of thinking that can profoundly expand your own horizons. Surround yourself with positivity, and watch how it transforms your mindset, your relationships, and your ability to achieve your biggest goals. What steps are you taking to cultivate a more uplifting inner circle? I'd love to hear your thoughts! #positiveenergy #positivityiskey #innercircle

My friend Erika has a great explanation of how people pleasing is actually Self-serving. This ties in great to my current series on how guilt, shame and people pleasing is holding us back. Check it out: #peoplepleasing #confidence #designalifeyoulove

In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in the negativity that often permeates social media. We see people picking each other apart, and it can feel overwhelming. But what if we turned our focus inward instead? 🤔 Ask yourself: "How can I move forward with a different perspective? How can I elevate my current emotional state?" 🔑 The key is to strive for a better feeling, even if it's just a little bit. Maybe you can't feel like everything is perfect right now, but can you feel hopeful? Can you raise your emotional state just a bit higher? By making this internal shift, you'll start to invite positivity into your life. You'll walk into that important meeting or interview feeling more empowered and ready to shine. ✨ Remember, it's not about making a giant leap; it's about taking small, manageable steps toward a more positive mindset. Every little bit counts! Remember, Be Brave. Be Bold. Take Action! #nowomanleftbehind #womensupportingwomen #careercoachingforwomen #MindsetShift #InnerWork #Empowerment #PositiveThinking

I used to pride myself on being a people-pleaser. I thought I was being noble and selfless, focusing on other people’s comfort and happiness so they were never disappointed or underwhelmed. Many of us are people-pleasers, so this could be a tough pill to swallow because our culture and companies glorify pleaser behaviors, but it will also set you free. 💣 The hard truth is: People pleasing is never about them; it is about US. It is about controlling how WE are perceived. The unconscious motivation behind shape-shifting and people-pleasing is this: If I turn myself into who I think you want me to be, you won’t see my flaws. I wouldn’t say no because I didn’t want to risk being seen as selfish, lazy or disappointing others. I suppressed my needs and desires so I didn’t have to assert myself and risk being rejected. I morphed my behavior, choices and personality to match whoever I was around so I didn’t risk being unliked, uncool or difficult. It’s not that any of us WANT to be seen in these ways; we believe that if we don’t try to control their perception, they WILL see us that way. We fear that if we stop pleasing, no one will like us, we’ll suck at our jobs, and we’ll lose everything (we’re very good at catastrophizing in our heads). Pleasing is a reactive self-protection pattern that’s keeping you stuck and preventing you from achieving what you really want because, by living from the outside-in, you’re diluting yourself and your impact. I’ve helped hundreds of high and over-achievers learn to live from the inside out - being more intentional and authentic - and you want to know what actually does happen? They reach their goals faster - and they feel really great doing it. Careers accelerate, relationships deepen, health improves, and so much more. If you want help reaching your goals faster and have more fun along the way, join my Stuck to Superstar small group kicking off April 3. I only have a few spots left, so DM me and we can decide if it’s the right fit for you. #leadershipdevelopment #selfawareness #executivecoaching #emotionalintelligence #authenticity

What's your philosophy? Work till you drop OR take time to rest and nourish your vitality? There are times when we are on deadline and need to push for a few days or a couple weeks. I get it. However when we begin to work that way consistently, it sets us up for a rollercoaster experience of stop-and-start success. With bursts of productivity and success followed by exhaustion/ illness /poor sleep due to stress, it doesn't play out well LONG TERM on many levels, especially quality of life and overall career. Kind of like the tortoise and the hare, finding a STEADY way to relate to work, to life, to self-nourishment and leadership is going to serve us best long-term (and also provide many more moments of being content, at ease, and in "flow.") In our American culture of "Productivity is King," we can get pulled into a mindset that doesn't serve us as human beings here to also experience life. It takes a lot to step back and really look at our culture and ask ourselves, "What parts are working, what parts aren't?" It takes a lot of courage to unplug from the collective mindset and play around with new ways of thinking that actually honor your life, who you are, what you want to give AND experience during the time you've got. The crazy part is that you will likely, over time, be much more consistently productive (and successful) than the push-crash model we're accustomed to. Only you know if this resonates. There's no judgment. Simply consider it an opportunity for reflection on your mindset, quantity and quality of rest, and how you are experiencing success and LIFE. What if we began to believe in the value of rest and that our needs matter? #EmpoweredNow© #ExecutiveLeadershipCoaching #LeadershipCoachingForWomen #SoulMoxie #RobinBerg

In our fast-paced, opportunity-rich world, mastering the art of declining offers is not just a skill, it's a necessity for maintaining our sanity and focus. It's time we reframed how we view saying 'no'. It's not a mere rejection. It's a powerful statement of prioritisation and self-awareness. Let's tackle the elephant in the room: why is it so challenging to utter that simple syllable, 'no'? At its core, it's about our inherent desire to please, to be part of the crowd, and to avoid the fear of missing out. But here's a thought: saying 'no' isn't selfishness, it's a profound act of self-care. It's a testament to our commitment to our personal boundaries, energy, and values. To navigate this art effectively: 1. Clarify Your Priorities: This is the cornerstone. Know your 'yeses' to identify your 'no's. What matters most to you? When your priorities are crystal clear, decisions become more straightforward. 2. Embrace Self-Compassion: You're not a superhero, and that's okay. You can't be everything to everyone. Accepting this is not just okay, it's necessary. 3. Be Direct in Communication: Saying 'no' doesn't require a backstory. A simple, respectful decline is often enough. It's about being clear, not elaborate. 4. Offer Alternatives When Possible: You can't always be there, but sometimes you can offer something else. This shows commitment without overcommitting. 5. Remain Kind but Firm: Some might push back against your 'no'. You can stay firm but do that with kindness. Boundaries are a sign of self-respect. 6. Reflect Post-Decision: Check in with yourself. Feeling guilty? Remind yourself why you made that choice. It's okay to prioritise your needs. Every time you say 'no' to something non-essential, you say 'yes' to something that truly matters. It's about creating space for joy, growth, and fulfilment. Embrace 'no' as a positive, empowering choice for your well-being and happiness. #lifebalance #empowerment #personalgrowth

I never realized how much always saying yes took away from my peace until I started saying no. Start here: 1: Conduct a Values Audit Take a step back and get crystal clear on your core values - the deeply held beliefs and principles that guide how you want to live your life. What’s most important to you? It might be your health, family, personal growth, or even leaving a legacy. Once you’ve defined your values, make sure your daily behaviours and time investments match. 2: Schedule Your Priorities First Your values are your compass. Block out dedicated time in your calendar for those activities and commitments. • Family dinners • Date nights • Morning routines • Training sessions • Hobbies Treat these self-scheduled events with the same level of importance and commitment as a big meeting or presentation. 3: “No” must become a full sentence. One of the most powerful skills in the world is the ability to say “no.” It’s especially important for things that don’t align with your values and priorities. Remember, every time you say “yes” to something, you’re saying “no” to something else. Would you rather disappoint others or disappoint yourself? #growth #personaldevelopment #boundaries #mindset

Rethinking Perspectives: Words, Tigers, and Positive Vibes 🌟 Today, let's dive into something that might sound a bit out there at first, but bear with me. 🌟 So, my friend – ever noticed your partner sounding a bit negative sometimes? We all know the feeling, right? But here's the wild thought: what if words are just words? Neutral, not inherently positive or negative. Crazy, huh? Imagine, when they sound negative, it's just them expressing themselves and their experience. Now, here's the kicker – what if you get to decide if those words are negative, positive, or just neutral vibes? Mind-blowing, isn't it? Ever heard of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy? (ACT) They're all about saying it doesn't matter if a thought is true or not; it's about whether it helps you live a values-driven life. So, does thinking your partner is negative help you show up as the best version of you? Here's the tiger part – what tiger (thought) are you feeding? ACT says whatever thought you feed gets bigger, more demanding, and more powerful. If you feed the "partner is negative" tiger, it'll turn into a belief, taking over your life. Humans have this superpower called confirmation bias. If you believe your partner is negative, your brain starts hunting for evidence to prove you right. You'll miss all those times they're not negative because, you know, it doesn't fit the belief. So, what if you could choose a thought that makes you feel better and show up better in your life? Why not, right? Curious to hear your thoughts on this! Comment below and let me know. Sending good vibes and positive energy your way! 🌈💫 To take advantage of a No Cost Strategy Session, click this link, https://lnkd.in/gKghANgn. #MindsetShift #PositiveThinking #RelationshipGoals #Empowerment #PersonalGrowth

It's crazy how much your surroundings can shape your mindset and beliefs. Who you spend time with and where you live plays such a big role in who you become! 🌱 Reflecting on how different experiences have made me the person I am today. #SelfGrowth #MindsetMatters #EnvironmentInfluence #BeliefSystem #PersonalDevelopment Increase your capacity to accomplish your goals!!!!!

Dyer has a great ability to provide a higher-level understanding of our internal selves. Once we can see how much our internal self has an effect on us at every level and by changing our thoughts and perceptions, it is what creates our new reality- thats when its a game changer!👊 Our obstacles turn into new solutions, new opportunities and not total failures and let downs. You will look at everything in a new light and keep everything light; not letting these obstacles weigh you down and get you off track from your goals. To be able to see things from a new lens, it all becomes much clearer and more simple. Less stress more carefree, less worry more relaxed. Life becomes more than manageable, its achievable and fun. Thats when its true beauty is found, when we take on the world with our new positive mindset that we created for ourselves.🙌 . . . . . . #startswithchange #changeyourmindset #personaldevelopment #obstaclesareopportunities #ObstaclesToSuccess #SolutionsFocused #postivemindset #perceptionisreality