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When was the last time you created a strengths list? When we work with a mentor or opt to hire a coach, it usually begins with some type of limitation: overcoming limiting beliefs, filling gaps in experience, addressing behavioral issues, etc. The Positive Intelligence people talk about how it has been proven that we as humans have thousands of thoughts each day and at least 70% of them are negative. No surprise, considering humans left the comfort of their cave knowing they needed to be looking out for threats to their safety at all times. I fall into this trap. And I know better. As a strategist, we complete the discovery stage and write our executive summary as a challenges list. Well, no client wants to be told their baby is ugly (even though that's why they hired you). The next step is to convert those bullets into opportunities. As a mentee, I kept bringing my failures and shortcomings to my mentors. At first, it was helpful. But then, after a while, I didn't want to go as I felt like I wasn't progressing. I just kept finding more shortcomings to work on. Yes, you'll say we all need continuous improvement... yet it becomes wearisome after a while if you don't spend strengthening your strengths. As a coach, we also complete a discovery stage with our clients. Again, uncovering all the "issues" we need to address. Well, what if you spent some time with your coach focusing on the strengths you bring to the company you joined? They hired you for a reason! What if you worked together to find the reasons you should be invited to sit at that table?! As a Positive Intelligence coach, we spend the first few weeks uncovering the Judge and its merry men (or women) of Saboteurs. This part of the process is critical (because you cannot exercise what you cannot feel), yet not my favorite. No lie, it is a major downer. But then we get to the second half. We get to talk about Sage Powers and Sage Gifts. We are reminded to look for the gift in every situation. Every time I am reminded Jennifer Davis is leaving Atlanta, it is met with profound sadness. Yet, then we start talking about the possibilities. How I could help her team...the new areas of this beautiful nation we can explore together... well and I am told there is great golf in Arkansas. I am so happy the Liminist Grow group was able to remind Jennifer to look for the gifts in this move. Please read her post below and share how you can do better about creating your list of strengths and thinking about your gifts.

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This study (about pizza!) answers a critical business question… What’s stronger: Our desire for MORE, or our fear of LOSING WHAT WE HAVE? To test this, University of Iowa researchers created two groups of participants: GROUP 1 was given a plain pizza, and told to add as many ingredients as it wanted. GROUP 2 was given fully loaded pizzas, and asked to remove any ingredients it didn’t want. The result: GROUP 1’s pizzas were simple and cheap. GROUP 2’s pizzas were loaded and expensive. Why? In GROUP 1, people added only what they reasonably wanted. In GROUP 2, people struggled to eliminate stuff they already had. (And yes, this study was done in both America *and* Italy, with the University of Rome. Same result.) THE TAKEAWAY: Studies like this have been done for decades, confirming what's called "loss aversion." We protect what we have, even if we don’t need it. The next time you resist change, ask yourself: “Do I really need this — or am I just protecting this because I have it?” The answer could change everything. If you found this helpful, please share it with others and follow Jason Feifer for more. 🔥 Want to improve your work? My newsletter, One Thing Better, helps you weekly: jasonfeifer.com/newsletter

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