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Desmond Guilfoyle in his book “The Charisma Effect” writes about how to captivate an audience and deliver a winning message on page (69) and tells the way of developing the trait by imagining being light-hearted in a future situation. Jumping in your body and noticing how it feels, observing the audience response, hear how your voice sounds, notice how your body moves and sense how you go about naturally being light-hearted. Now step out of your body and see how it all comes together. Look at yourself as you would if you were watching yourself on wide-screen television. See yourself standing in front of a group or audience and being appropriate light-hearted. Notice how your personify the things you saw, heard and felt when you were light-heartedness inside your body. He says people who have intensely clear representation of the traits they want to amplify or develop are much more like to achieve them. The more one visits the idealized trait or attribute (as in imagining what it is like) the more probable that one will generate the behaviours require to achieve it.

6 Lessons from the book "How to win Friends and influence People" by Deep note 1️⃣ Don’t argue! ❌ You can’t win the other person through arguments, so the best thing is to avoid it. 2️⃣ Show respect for another's opinion. 📍 Never say to their face, "You're wrong". Even if you don’t agree with them. 3️⃣ If you are wrong, admit it! ❗️ When you know that you have done something wrong, admitting it will save you time and help avoid unnecessary quarrels. 4️⃣ Begin in a friendly way 🤓 When advising others, first mention a few of their good qualities. 5️⃣ Let the other person feel that the idea is theirs 👉 No one likes to feel they're being sold something or told to do a thing. 6️⃣ Dramatize your ideas 🤠 The movies do it. Tv does it. Why don’t you do it? Make the task seem more entertaining and interesting.

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Q: Who are the better storytellers, Nigerians or Americans? In episode 169 (out now!) Zainab Olanrewaju (The Stolutionist) discusses how to tell brand stories like nobody else in the world. 🤣

Easy to make an assumption. But, remember that they influence our decisions, actions and expectations. Thus, don’t pass judgement before checking whether your assumptions can be verified.

According to Otto Scharmer, author of the U Theory, judgment is one of the three enemies of listening, the others being cynicism and fear. The videos, funny if at times violent, remind us to look deeper and inquire further ~ be curious, not judgmental. Link to Otto Scharmer's video "Three Enemies" (9 min.): https://lnkd.in/efzjaRKk #Listening #judgment #suspendjudment #generativelistening #interpersonalcommunication #leadership #coaching #openmind

Often times we struggle with what to say to someone in crisis. We fear that if we say the wrong thing, it might make it worse, so we say nothing. It is true, our responses make an impact, but the 'right' thing to say might be easier than we think. Here are the three main things to communicate: You are not alone, I am here with you You have the space to feel all of your feelings, and it is okay to feel them You are supported and have access to resources and people that can help you Listen to the audio below for some examples of what this looks like

Who is the main character of your speech? Your audience! Are you putting the emphasis where it belongs? You can be the main character of the story, but the audience is the main character of the speech. They are the reason that you are speaking. Somewhere along your presentation, your speech needs to take what World Champion of Public Speaking David Brooks calls a "You-turn." Once they realize that the story was all about them the whole time, they now have locked eyes on you. Have you seen the movie Million Dollar Baby? Throughout the movie, you hear Morgan Freeman narrating. I can remember thinking, "Cool! Another narration, this time without prisoners or penguins." Then came the last line of the movie. He was talking to Frankie's daughter the whole time. Did you feel a chill when you heard that? That's how your audience feels when you turn the spotlight on them. Do you have a You-turn woven into your presentation? Share some ideas in the comments section.

[TV Show idea] Looser is the winner In this show, the one who loses is the winner. For example: 1)     In a singing competition the one who sings the worst is the winner. 2)     In an acting competition the one that does the worst acting wins. 3)     In a writing competition the one who wrote the worst story or essay wins. 4)     In a debate competition the one who does the worst speech wins. 5)     In a logic competition the one who is the most illogical wins. (I especially like this because being worst at logic, you have to be extremely logical, to bring out the worst logic possible)

How to #lead now... Time series #5: HERE and NOW – an interview with a child “Hello!” “Is this your toy?” “No.” “Why do you have it if it’s not a toy?” “It can hear your voice?” “Oh, can you not hear me without it?” “I can but I want others to hear it later, too.” “Why are they not here if they want to hear me?” “They are somewhere else now. But I can capture your voice for them.” “Oh, so you capture my voice in this silver net? Is it a voice cage? And when can I  have my voice back?” (... to read the full interview, please click on the picture below) My key takeaways: 1.     IF WE PAY ATTENTION TO HERE & NOW, THE MOMENT BECOMES ETERNITY. 2.     MAYBE HERE IS NOT THREE DIMENSIONAL AND NOW IS NOT LINEAR. MAYBE THEY BOTH HAVE ENDLESS DIMENSIONS LIKE A MOMENT OF FALLING IN LOVE DOES. 3.     A GOOD LIFE IS NOT AN INTERVIEW WHERE WE ASK QUESTIONS AND GET THE RIGHT ANSWERS. IT’S A DIALOGUE OF ANSWERS. https://lnkd.in/emxrshcX